Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Africans Are Still Afflicting Widows.

In the book of Exodus, God gives this edict to the Israelites “Ye shall not afflict any widow, or fatherless child.” While this was a direct prohibition given to Israelites, the concept is still valid to every society and culture with any modicum of morality. Hellas, as you travel around Africa, you see that widows are still being maltreated. One would think that with traveling overseas, Africans will be wiser, but they seem to carry the same old backward and wicked treatment of widows abroad. I will lay the foundation of this lesson with an anecdote. A young man just died in Georgia. During his wake, friends and families gathered and were raising money. The coordinators insisted that the mother of the defunct should be the one to stand in the middle to receive the “farotage” (braggadocio-donations). One of them even said this is “because we believe the mother is the better person to take care of the kids.” All of this with the young wife sitting right there. I cringe in my spirit and flashbacks cinematographically reminded me of the past.

That statement is not only educationally ignorant in itself, legally out of place but also socially inconsiderate. It is ignorant because every mother has strong ties and feelings for their child. We know there are exceptions, but in general, every mother will feel for their child. And this young woman is no different! Secondly, they lived together up to having kids. That qualifies her for Common Law Marriage although not in Georgia since Georgia stopped recognizing it in 1997. However, the community knew him as having a wife or concubine. While she may not have borne his last name, or they might not have filed taxes, one thing is clear that everyone in the community knew and knows that she was the wife. That alone should qualify her the Putative Spouse Status because surely she knew she was in a marriage in all Uberrima fides even if the paperwork is not there to show. For those of us with sisters, who will want their sister to sit there during the wake keeping for the late husband, and people are making comments that she will be unfit to keep the kids? It is wrong to stand up in a podium to make disparaging remarks to someone’s daughter or sister who has lost the husband.

Why is it that each time someone dies, the family must come in for possessions when the man has kids? Many at times those who are bequeathed with the dead man’s wealth end up abandoning the kids who at times become pariahs. In some tribes in the Northwest Province of Cameroon, the cousins inherit the property of the man. They will inherit the property and if the man had houses, they will even chase out the widow and her kids to fend in wonderland. If you do not have mercy, at least you should be afraid of God.

Consequently, I will take you to the Bible to see how widows need to be treated. The Bible says the society should not afflict widows and orphans. Disappropriating them is afflicting them. When you call into question their motherhood for no just cause, is another form of affliction. When you seize their ability to speak, that is afflicting them. A widow is a widow. no matter her age. That young woman is a widow and should be treated with the status of a widow.

In James 1:27, the Apostle Paul tells James this, “Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.” Treating whoever badly whether in public or private is no true religion and that is not what God wants. God is not asking for sacrifices for obedience is better than sacrifice (I Sam 15:22), but He is asking for justice, mercy and humility (Micah 6:6-8).

Therefore, when a husband dies, leave the woman alone with what the husband or man left with her. Whether she has kids or not, she has the right to his property! I am conscious there are “Happy Widows” (those who kill their husbands to inherit property), but not in a clear case as that of the husband dying without the hand of the woman. When someone dies, uncles and aunts or at times parents who did not even care for the child show up to fight for property. That must have an end. Protect these women rather than denigrate them. Do unto others what you want them do unto you. If you have a sister or a mother, treat other people’s sisters and mothers badly and the same measure will be meted to you one day. If you escape the judgment of humans, it is certain you will face God to give an account of your acts on earth.

Until then, Africans must learn to protect the widows.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Monday, December 12, 2011

Are You Borrowing To Offer Gifts To People?

Engineer James Tangumonkem (my invible partner) offering me a gift in 1996.

 In 2010, a friend of mine asked me to carry her sister in-law from Atlanta to DC, Maryland. When we reached town, she told me that she wanted me to drop her in her boyfriend’s house. He gave her the wrong address, so we kept driving and driving in circles. I saw a police officer and wanted to ask, but she discouraged the idea. So we kept driving and driving for an hour as she argued with her boyfriend on the phone. A a certain time, he hung up and will no more pick up the phone. I got a bit angry and parked by the road side. I finally flaged the police who told us that the address was a wrong address. I told her that I was not going to be driving for more than one hour looking for her boyfriend’s house. She said “I don’t know why he is not picking up the phone.” I felt sorry for her. Furthermore, I had sold her some jeans for more than $200, so I felt like, if we do not see the guy, she may give back my goods. So it was in my vested interest to find that boyfriend of hers wherever he was hidding. So I said “leave him a message and tell him some of the things you have bought for him, and he will call you back.” She did and immediately he called us back and gave us the right address. Hers was at least better, for she had the money. What about you?

Some people indebt themselves to offer gifts to people who do not even care about them. Some take their families and friends to eat out on credit. Today I want to examine the morality behind indebting one’s self to offer gifts during holidays. Sometimes it hurts me to pick up a phone call and a Christian tells me that she has a list of 22 people she wants to offer gifts to and would like to know how many I want to sponsor. Another one said that he wants to offer gifts to his nephew and niece but does not have money. I asked him if the kids have kidnapped him? He said no. So I said, "bro keep your flesh checked, for you will be ok without the gifts." I have made it as a principle in my life not to buy if I don't have money. If I don't have money, I don't eat out. I was called to mediate between two friends for unpaid debts. One of them said, "pastor, when I took the money, I even bought him a gift for his birthday. Did I do anything bad brother?" He asked me.

It is unchristian to have Christians as criminal debtors; those debtors who know they are unable to pay a debt, yet they still get into it. If someone owes a student loan or some car note, one will understand, but this credit card thing, I just don't get it, especially unpaid. Many people have bad credit because of unpaid debts. Talk less of those who owe every relative and friend, dead and alive. I have never used a credit card, but I am still alive and well. If people are not comfortable with you because you do not give them gifts, so be it; let them disown you. The day you suffocate, they will know that those who are rejected suffocate.

Why do people eat out when they have not paid their light bills? Why should anyone be giving gifts to others when he/she owes rents? Why are you buying gifts for people when you have a huge student loan. Many Christians have bad credit because of unpaid debts. Why does a Christian eat out when the/she has not paid his/her light bill? Why should anyone be giving gifts to others when they are indebting themselves? Some owe almost all their friends and even enemies. Others have fallen out with best friends and relatives because of unpaid debts which they actually took to offer them gifts.

I was a teenager in Douala in quartier Nkoulouloun where I grew up. A Bangante man died, people came to the wake, but there was one particular guy who was crying more than even the widow. So he quickly gained sympathy and attention. The more people looked at him, the more he cried. So one naughty teenager said,
"toi aussi, tu pleures même plus que la famille et la femme.” He turned and looked at the young man, then suddenly turned his face towards the corpse on the bier, and he cried again “Alphonse, pourquoi est-tu parti avec mon l’argent?” Then another person too just shrieked. Two others on the far end screeched. It was then that we realized Alphonse was in a Tontin -Njangi , and he had already eaten. All of a sudden, the family had to remove the widow from the place for fear the creditors harassed the widow to pay the debts. The many who cried him hard, did not cry because they loved him, but because he owed them money. Since there was no contract signed that he owed them, it is unlikely that his family will cover such debts, and these friends could not just sit and see him leave with their money.  

My friends, irresponsibility is in various forms, and borrowing money to offer gifts during Christmas and New Year is one of them. I do not see why people make themselves criminal debtors just because of pride. There are many people that when they will die, people will not cry them because of the love they had for them but because they have gone with their money.

If you do not have money and must use credit card, get the food and cook at home and entertain your family. It will be much more cheaper and responsible. As if some are possessed, they will take the little money they have to buy gifts for people and three months after Christmas and New year, they will be living in darkness.

A gift is from what you have. If you do not have, do not give. I don’t mean the other extreme of never ever having.

Until then, do not give gifts if you have to indebt yourself.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

He Committed Suicide Because His Girlfriend Rejected Him.

This article is in response to the young Ghanaian rapper from Tema called Gabe Small who committed suicide because his girlfriend dumped him. Through this article, I want to encourage the young people, especially the young boys who are rejected everyday by women they like. Are there flops in your menu that make you want to miss out some courses? Rosalind Russell once said "Flops are a part of life's menu and I've never been a girl to miss out on any of the courses." Many people go out to witness, but when their intended target rejects them, they get angry or stick around because they cannot fathom being rejected. Many men get rejected in life by women before they die. The men who are never rejected are those who never actually speak or spoke to women. If they did, one or two will reject them.

Women are seldom rejected, but each time they have been rejected, there was nothing like their fury. Two classic examples are Lady Potiphar who was rejected by Joseph, and Tamar who was rejected by Judah. Nonetheless, everyone is rejected at some point in life, but the difference is at the level of reception and reaction. How should you react when rejected by a love interest.

For some, I will say smack the dust off you feet and go you way, for they do not even merit your love. If a woman wants you, she will give you no reason. If you live in a hole, she will follow you into that hole and if you live in the sky, she will fly with you; however, if she does not want you, she will give you 101 reasons and will tell you how you speak like like Mickey Mouse. For others, you give a little bit of patience, knowing that it takes some people time to make up their minds.

However, if someone does not show you interest, leave them alone. Don’t kill yourself because someone rejected you, for you have only one life; meanwhile, you can find their replacement in life. Everyone in life will be rejected at some point in time. Not everyone is married to the person they truly love and though they did not marry the person they truly loved, they are still very happy. Stay patient because some day their replacement will come. If you die, you will never live to see their replacement and prove to them that they made a bad choice. You need to stay alive to show them that despite them, you are happy and perhaps they are not. I say stay alive and not die.

Writers are aware of how publishers rejected them. E.E Cummings’ manuscript was rejected 15 times before it was published by his mother. If I close this exordium without alluding to the master of rejection: Jesus Christ, then I have failed in my purpose. The prophet Isaiah in chapter 53:3 wrote “He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.”

Therefore, stay alive for in life in general, it is not everyone who will like you or accept you. It is not everyone who will believe in you, and it is not everyone who will follow you in what you do. Why keep any love that is like a dove in the cage when it is future heartbreak? No matter what you do to it, it will fly away if you open the cage. True love should be like the flesh of your flesh and bone of you bones; it is going no where, no matter how much flesh and how many other ribs are out there. Once more, I encourage you to rise above your rejection and stay alive. If you are running after the person you love for five miles and he/she does not seem to wait for you , give up, for you may be chasing the wind. Do not run after a woman as if she does not see you because if she wanted you, she will run after you too even if you were in a hole. Ask God for the key of life, and you will live in abundant life.

Until then, may God bring your true love.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Why Don’t You Have friends?


You will hear about best friends, friends with benefits, frenemy and friends. Many people are turning to animals now as friends than human beings. They contend that they cannot find true friends amongst humans. The only problem with this thought is that, an animal will always be an animal. An animal will never become a human being, no matter how tamed and trained it is. Others believe that it is preferably to stay without a friend than to have one. With the vulgarity of Facebook rubric "friends," it is now out of the ordinary for people to have total strangers as friends. Some of them have never ever spoken to them, never speak to them,and will never ever speak to those people on their pages whom they call friends. In this lesson, I will define the word friend, show its mechanics and dynamics and then lay a blueprint in building and having real and trustworthy friends.


The word friend is used five different ways. In Genesis 38: 12,20, it is used as companion. In this context, it is a traveler who accompanies you for an expedition. Judah had Hirah- his friend (companion). The second meaning is that of an associate (Judges 20:20). What we generally call acquaintances. This is what many of those on Facebook are called. The third example is the one used by the psalmist (41:9). This is the type of friendship where people hang around you for gain as was the case between David and Absalom (the son). He did not like his father but hung around him to inherit the throne. These are the types of parasite friends. I am sure you know some people like that. There is another type of friendship where you love someone serving as a servant to another. Like God and Abraham (Is 41:8 ). There is another type of friendship whereby the two are mates, bonded together, like partners and do everything (Mt 11:19). This is the type of friendship that when someone is walking or working with his/her friend, he or she does not need to watch over their backs. A clear example was Jonathan and David. They eat, drink and share many other things in common. Another form of friendship is when you meet a stranger, you call them friend, just to make them feel welcome. That is what you see in Mt 20:13, Mt 22:12. A last type of friendship is the one with benefits (Acts 12:20 ). This is the type that you win someone by your side for a particular purpose. It is a self serving friendship. It is like a symbiotic relationship. They know what you want, and you know what they want. How can anyone make trustworthy friendship?

Characteristics of good friendship.

A. Honest and frank Communication (Ex 33:11).
Good friends say things face to face. They do not speak behind the backs of their friends. I always told my friend that whenever you hear anything about me, do not give your opinion, wait until you hear my version. That way they do not lure you into making regrettable comments because you were not privy to full disclosure. Good friends do not slander one another and do not gossip each other. They do not store things in their hearts. They speak honestly and frankly to their friends. Good friends give you good advice (Prov 27:9). If a woman is dating a man or vice verse and all that comes out of the mouth of their friend is evil, they should know that they have an enemy in the house. Good friends do not speak falsehood to one another, and they do not flatter each other because underneath their friendship is trust. They have one heart.

B. Natural bonding (Deuteronomy 13:6). A good friend feels bonded together. You feel like you are one. You can even think in each other’s place. If your friend was not home and they ask his opinion, you can virtually tell them what he will say if he came back. That was the type of friendship that existed between Jonathan and David. A good friend will trust you. They at least know some things you can do and others that you cannot do.

C. Feel your plight (Job 6:14, 27;Ps 35:14). Good friends should be able to sympathize with you when calamity strikes than rejoice you are hurting. If you are hurting, your true friends hurt with you. True friends do not dig pits for their friends, talk less of killing them. A good friend is someone you can go to at midnight to ask for help, and if they have, they will give you. They are people you can call at anytime of the day without them reminding you the time of the day. They are people who can accompany you when need be.

I remember a young woman who lost her father, and her boyfriend could not follow her because he had to watch his favorite team play their playoff game. Or the one who goes on vacation when your friend has a criminal court date coming up. A true friend will prevent you from driving while drunk. A true friend will cater for your family while you are faced with a calamity. A true friend does not scam you, for he or she knows that what wearies you, wearies them and that which makes you sad, makes them sad too.

D. Unfailing love (Prov 17:17). A true friend loves you at all times no matter your condition. When a friend is facing adversity, his true friend goes with them (Ruth 1: 16). Anyone with too many friends will come to utter destruction (Prov 18:24). Therefore, people should select one or two best friends to keep. I mean the type of friend that even sticks closer than some brothers or sisters. A good friend will correct you when you are going wrong rather than flatter you. All those people who never tell you the truth are not good friends; they are actually your enemies. Good friends make you to strive towards perfection. A good friend does not betray you, not for 30 pieces of silver. When Ginger White revealed she has had a 13 year affair with Herman Cain yesterday of adultery, he responded that “"It is someone that I know who is an acquaintance that I thought was a friend." What Ginger White did is not what a true friend does; those are traits of acquaintances and these are the Judas Iscariots.

E. Gives You Honor. A real friend honors you; he or she does not put you down. He does not put you down in public and then calls you behind that he was just trying to make some people happy. Or the worst one is for some of the people who refuse to identify themselves with their boyfriends or girlfriends in public for fear of what family or friends will say. Good friends try to bring out the good life in each other. They do not pray for them to die, rather they make them happy, so they can live long. A true friend will never sleep with your husband or wife.

Pointers to consider in Selecting friends.
Therefore, there are a few pointers to guide you select your friends or maintain the friendship. Good friends do not forsake each other. When you do not see a good friend, you search for him. If you do not hear from them, you call them. Unlike many who say someone is their friend, but they do not even know them or know where they live. They do not know even their family or how it is made up. They do not even know where or how their friend's family lives. Do not trust those who are crafty and slanderous because what happens in the house of the crocodile will happen in the house of the alligator. Do not select friends based on their social status. It has been shown that those at the lower stratum of the society are more faithful than those at the top.

However, real friendship should be one of mutualism and not symbiotic or parasitic. A good friend does not like what you hate. For example, if your friend dumps a lady, you cannot date the same lady. If your friend is a Christian, you cannot be dabbling with Satanism. Such a friendship is diametrically opposed and will not last. It is not even a healthy friendship since friends should be of one mind.

Notwithstanding, no matter what type of earthly friends we have, sometime in life, they will fail us, or time and again, they will fail us because they are humans. There is only one Person that will never fail you if you make them your friend. That is God! Through Jesus Christ we have a friend who knows our chagrins and caters for  our cares. He is a Friend that will go a mile when others cannot go a foot. If you have never tried walking with God, I urge you to do so, and you will find Him an always present and never failing Friend.

Until then, may God give us true friends.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.

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“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Monday, November 28, 2011

Adieu Our Black Knight Tabentando

Adieu Black, your respect unparalleled youngsters nowadays

Adieu Black, your kindness unparalleled youngsters nowadays

You have given me Goosebumps departing like an evader

Oh death, why have you taken my goalkeeper.

Who will challenge me to score again?

Who will bargain for our pain?

Life is like drama; every actor performs and vacates the stage .

Fare Thee well although you have left some scenes uncompleted.

Pastor do not mind all those people saying all those things in the meeting.

You speak the truth, and people don’t like those who speak the truth.

I dig your ways!

Life is like drama; every actor performs and vacates the stage .

Fare Thee well although you have left some scenes uncompleted.

Black thank you and take your life serious.

A life of sin elasticity’s limit is short and precarious.

Oh friends, life without Jesus is vain

For our short life we live is bane

Sorrow with us our majority sleeper.

Jesus with us our only hope and keeper.

Life is like drama; every actor performs and vacates the stage .

Fare Thee well although you have left some scenes uncompleted.

For the too important people who say they are very distinct,

Behold a chilling reminder that some day we will be extinct.

Oh Reader, what is this world?

When you pick the number for afterworld?

Will heaven be your abode?

Will hell be your place of discommode?

Life is like drama; every actor performs and vacates the stage .

Fare Thee well although you have left some scenes uncompleted.

Black Adieu Until we all pick our numbers.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Where Are All God’s Watchmen and Watchwomen?

Are there still watchmen and watchwomen? Why is the destruction of the family so high? How come people are so alienated from God, addicted to technology, environmentally destructive? Can we explain the invasion of individualism and subsequent loss of community life? Why are there too many slaves to debts and consumerism? The rich ruling the masses ? How come the neglect of children and maltreatment of women and men more common nowadays? Where are the watchmen and watchwomen when the media that was the source of truth now is the corrupt box of lies? Why does this seem the age where there is total neglect of the old and sick? The watchman was to look out against danger, foreign invaders. He was to spy, observe and watch at the city. As the watchmen were never to keep silent about impending danger, those that have been called by the lord to denounce evil and bring people to Christ cannot be silent (Isaiah:62:6-7). The task of the watchman and women nowadays.

So let me ask you this as a Christian who have you warned since you became a Christian. Do you know an adulterer and yet you have stayed mum? Do you know those who are openly living in sin, but you believe that is their lifestyle or alternative lifestyle? Do you know a known drug dealer or anyone who is doing drugs but you have decided to keep quiet because it is not your business? What about the scammer you hangout with? If that person dies, God will hold you accountable. Do you know a preacher who is pilfering from the church and the rich who are stealing from the poor, yet you think it is their problem and not yours? Do you have a father or mother who is a racist, but you refuse to warn them because you think how they want to live their lives is not your business? Hear me and hear me well; God holds you responsible if you know it but do not warn them. Perhaps, this is only the Old Testament. So what does the New Testament say about it too?

There are several passages in the Bible where the Bible is commissioned to preach the gospel to every creature (Mt 28:18-20), but the reaction to the gospel and the reaction of the preachers is what I will discuss here. I will start with the commission to Ezekiel. God tells him to act as a sentinel, warn both the wicked and the righteous. If the wicked abandons his wicked ways and returns unto the Lord, he will be saved, but if he does not, when he dies, his blood will be in his own hands. However, if the sentinel (Ezekiel) does not warn him, when he dies, God will hold Ezekiel responsible. Why was he to warn the righteous too? If verse 24 establishes this “But when the righteous turneth away from his righteousness, and committeth iniquity, and doeth according to all the abominations that the wicked man doeth, shall he live? All his righteousness that he hath done shall not be mentioned: in his trespass that he hath trespassed, and in his sin that he hath sinned, in them shall he die. ” So the assignment here is very precise. Preach and warn the wayward of their waywardness. Whatever they do with that warning is their problem and not yours; you have fulfilled your responsibility. You can hear God through the mouth of Jeremiah rebuking the Isrealites that “Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein (Jeremiah:6:16 ).”

The first person to overtly repeat such a stand was Jesus. Although John The Baptist practiced it, but he did not preach it. John preached to those who wanted to listen and left those who did not. He even packed and went into the desert to live so that only those who wanted to really listen to him heard him. Simply because you warn people of their evil does not mean they will listen. However, when Jesus came, the story was different. He established three basic truths about the watchman. When you go out to preach, live with someone you know and don’t change houses. Preach to those who want to listen and those who do not , leave them alone and go your way. God will take it from there for you have fulfilled your responsibility (Mt 10:14; Mk 6:11; Lk 9:5). In addition, although the watchman in the Old Testament watch by standing and sounding the trumpet, the one in the new Testament prayed and spoke to those concerned. Jesus himself went to the desert every morning to pray before it was dawn (Mk 1:35) so he can be spiritually charged with God’s anointing to warn the Pharisees, Sadducees and Romans. He tells the people to watch and pray so that they can escape the dangers (Lk 21:36).

Jesus then made women watch women too. It is not only men who should watch over the society, but women too must watch. That is why we have watchwomen. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. The status of watchman was extended to women with his death on the Christ of Calvary because all were now baptized by one spirit into one body as we all become the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus (Gal 3:28 , I Cor 12:13, Col 3:11,Gal 3:26, Gal 5:6, 24, Philippians 1:1).

Paul was a great preacher we all know. He sums up some of the places that rejected him as a watchman but reinforces that the rejection of man is not that of God as God delivered him from them all (2 Tim 3:11). When he went to Antioch where Jesus’ followers were called Christians for the first time, he preached and many believed. But later, he was rejected, and he shook off the dust of their feet against them and went to Iconium(Acts 13:51). Take the warning to those who want to hear watchman!

Then he went to Macedonia. When they opposed him, he shook his raiment and placed their own blood unto their heads (Acts 18:6). Then he left again and went back to the same Iconium where he has been rejected the first time. This time, after preaching, a great multitude of both Jews and Greeks believed (Acts 14:1). Then when they were rejected the second time, they went to Lystrai, Iconium, and Antioch (Acts 14:1, 19, 21).

Therefore, watchmen and watchwomen must rise up and be counted. Many dress like pastors, but they are fake, actually hirelings siphoning their wealth into their bank accounts. Why have churches increased, yet sin has super increased rather than the opposite. Where are the watchmen and women to warn the victims killed daily by murderers? Where are they? God has made you a watchman and watchwoman. Are you in your post? Are you warning the sinners of the dangers of their sins? Even some watchmen and watchwomen have been taken unawares. Are you taking heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood?

Until then, are you a watchman or watchwoman?

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Can A Living Person Be Called A Saint? "Why are you calling yourself a saint when you are still alive?"

St. Arrey of Ntenako

The word saint has been misused. The word saint appears in the bible only three times: Ps 106:16; Dan 8:13; Philippians 4:2, and in all three occasions, it referred to a living person. The Psalmist and Daniel use it to qualify Aaron as a holy person, some one “set apart“. Paul uses it to refer to the Philippians as the most “holy thing;” people set apart for the Lord. The word in its plural form is used 96 times and in every occasion is used for the living as you can see in I Cor 1:2.

It is logical for the title to be used on the living as the dead can no more be set apart. The living are set apart for holiness. That is why when anyone says they are Christians, they are required to live a holy life. They may not be perfect, but they must strive to holiness and do not condone sin as a lifestyle.

Since the word saint simply means set apart, God calls sinners unto repentance and sets them apart for holiness and righteous living. From the etymology, one does not need to be called a saint for them to assume the title of a saint; it comes by virtue of the fact that they have been “set apart” for the Lord. The only danger is that canonizing a living person as a saint could become a subject of raillery if he or she goes astray.

Sainthood began in the early church where the martyrs were canonized for their righteous and sacrificial lives that led to their death. It was an attempt to recognize their endeavors in Christendom. It was a tradition but not a biblical recommendation. That tradition after some time deviated from honoring and calling the living saints unto honoring only the dead with the blessings of the Catholic Church.

It is actually chronicled that the living were called saints. In Acts 9: 41, the bible in reference to Peter’s resurrection of Tabitha from death says, “ And he gave her his hand, and lifted her up, and when he had called the saints and widows, presented her alive.” How do you call the dead and widows to present them something or somebody if they are not alive and present? Neither the word saint nor present is used as an apostrophe.

This practice has become rampant and is limited to the dead only. However, the Catholics argue that it is important to canonize some as a saint only when they are dead so that they are not worshiped and also because it gives the committee time to study his works and make a final decision. If you look at why people are canonized as saints by the Catholics, it because of their impact in Christianity.

Therefore, without equivocation, every genuine Christian is a saint. It is now incumbent upon them to live by their nomenclature. If every Christian was a genuine believer, he or she should be called a saint. Saints were not governors or demigods to be worshiped. There is no indication by inference or example where a saint was worshiped or ordered to be worshiped. Not even in the Catholic Church were saints worshiped. The practice today could be deviating to that, but Catholic scholars have often vehemently contended that they do not worship saints as that will be idolatry which is a breach of the First and Second commandments.

As a result, there is no lacuna with that thought as those who are called Christians and who live the life of Christ are worthy to be called saints whether they live or die. That is why I prefer to be recognized while alive as Saint Arrey of Ntenako.

Consequently, if anyone calls herself or himself a saint, she or he must live by the dictates of a saint. That means, they must live like someone who is set apart. I am called Saint Arrey. I was called like that in Yaoundé, by the students who lived with me and saw my lifestyle. So you may be doing yourself and myself a disservice if you do not call me saint (a man set apart) and have to wait for me to die before you call me saint.

There is no indication in the Bible that all holy men or saints should only be in heaven. Heaven is their final destination or abode, but they prep their way while on earth. If one is called a saint by virtue of their salvation which was given to them by Christ, and by their persistence and abiding in the faith, there is no doubt that while on the trump of God the dead in Christ shall rise first, we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds.

Until then, if the living be called saints, they must live like saints.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

American Men Don't Know How TO Treat Their Women.

He is pushing an empty shopping cart while the wife struggles with their child. 
Tell me which one is heavier: the shopping cart or the child? 

While this is too much generalization, the majority of American men do not know how to treat their women. Most of their women have never really experienced proper good treatment where a man makes you feel like you are the oasis of his whole desert, or when a man makes you feel like all the other women he sees outside are dung. That is probably why when their women venture out of the country and see the treatment foreign men give them, they get confused. If you go to Europe, they believe that American women are easy, very easy even because the women who travel out cannot resist such regal treatment. In America,when you treat women too good like a man should treat a lady, they get confused and run away because they think you are faking. They don‘t believe it will be the same; they even think you are a player in Mr. Clean's jacket. Take for instance; when an American man takes a woman out for a date today, he pays for the expenses, and when they go out the next time, she pays for the expenses. Who is that foreign man who will even do such a criminal act? To make a conclusion, I will compare a traditional African man with a traditional American man. Would you want to know why I think American men do not know how to treat their women?
This is Europe, but it looks very American.
This photo speaks for itself.
When an American woman meets a foreign man, she is treated like a queen or princess; even though, most don’t even know how the monarchs are treated. I don’t mean when some obese and overweight American woman (like the one in the picture above) entraps a foreign guy who is merely using her for expediency to get papers which once he gets them, he starts to maltreat her or even vamooses into the oblivion. He will treat her badly, so that she will divorce him, and he will go his way peacefully. That is not what I am talking about! I am talking about normal foreign men and normal American women. Listen again, I am talking of " normal" people! I am from a regal family, so I know how the queen and princesses were treated! 

Communication is very important in human life, but most of their men are so ignorant that they quickly go out of words. That is why their normal conversations with a woman do not go more than 3 minutes without it turning to sex. See, even their songs too are just 4 minutes long, even when they are singing about love. If they do not talk sex, they curse -f..k. I worked with two guys one time,  a stepdad and a stepson. The stepson says "You know that bitch Ron is married to is my mom." The stepdad says, "You got that right. His own bitch does not give him problems like mine." The son calls the mother "bitch", and the husband calls the wife "bitch". What type of people are these? Some of their men call their wives, whores or hoes. 

I was trying to correct 4 young men that it is wrong to call your girlfriend or wife like that. "Would you like your sister to be called that way?" I asked. They explained to me that it is their culture and tradition. One of them even amplified that his sister's boyfriend calls her "hoe" and "bitch", and she has never made a deal about it. She is fine with that! 

I liked an American girl, but she did not like me.  I decided to solicit the help of my American friends who had some beautiful girlfriends, so I could win her. Each time I asked them to share a letter they think will win her; they will send me one replete with vulgarity that after reading it, I just said to myself, “Well, if I come out alive, then I am lucky.” Three times and three different guys, it was the same pattern. The girl too was a well brought up and intelligent Idaho girl, so she will either write to show her disapproval or ignore it.  When my friends will give their letters, they will ask me a day after, "What did that bitch say?" I will say, "Please refrain from calling her bitch." They will say, " Dem bitches like but dem bad boys. You no gonna get no dam American pussy acting like that."I know a man should be erotic, but there is a difference between eroticism and vulgarity. If I cannot guarantee you of anything, I can guarantee you at least of this very one thing; American men are keyboard Romeos! When you read them write about love, you will think that the gods have come down to reside amongst humans. However, when it moves from theory to practice, they are naught! I mean that they are zero!

A culture where women are called "bitches", "hoes", "whores", and are regarded as objects cannot built lasting marriages. A girl, a woman, and a daughter are human beings like everyone and should be treated with utmost respect the way any man would want to be treated, talk less of treating his mother. The rate of violence on women in America is higher than one expected from a supposedly “civilized” society. How can a man request back the engagement ring he bought for his fiancee or wedding ring he bought for her, even if the relationship did not work? Were those rings not supposed to be gifts? I did not know that a man could lend money to his girlfriend or wife. I discovered it from Americans. If you think I have not done anything good with my life, at least know that I just made  a great discovery. How can I ever lend money to the very woman I share my life with?

The guys must learn to keep the woman up too with their discourse. It is not every time that the woman wants to hear about sex, not even the nymphomaniacs. They will run away and then go to the guy that comes in their normal behavior. Perhaps the only good thing some of these men have is a good body. Having a good body is good but without a good character, it is body mass.

Although in traditional African society the men and women were complimentary in roles and responsibilities, a good man who knew how to treat a lady did not allow her to do the heavy duties in and around the house. I want you to lay aside the bias you have been raised in that "African men are domineering." Men are there to make their women feel special and protected everyday. Consequently, the man went to the farm and cleared the forest. The kitchen had simple stuffs, so the man was out in the forest hunting for game for the woman to prepare and serve the family. In America, the woman is doing the dishes and ironing clothes, while the man is playing video games and watching football. A man killed his infant son for bothering him during his video game. At times, it is even the woman who takes out the thrash, vacuums the house and clears the yard with the lawnmower, responsibilities that a man should joyfully do. In Africa, if a woman was not married, her brothers or male friends cut her grass for her, but no reasonable man saw a woman struggling to cut her grass and he passed. So American men, if your sister is not married, go and cut her grass for her as a brother or friend. You should take care of your female single neighbor's yard for free. American women are not used to their men doing something for them for free so much so that, if you try to do anything for them for free, they think that you want sex. I mean, even the ugly ones!

Have you seen an American man and his wife at the grocery store? They are pathetic and pitiful to watch. The man is pushing the empty cart in the market or grocery store while the woman is carrying their baby. Which is heavier and more difficult: pushing a cart or trying to keep the restless child? The American men allow the women to be struggling with the child while they are pushing the cart and strolling in the supermarket, looking at other women. Why shouldn't they do that? He has no weight. If he had a baby in his hand, he will not be looking around and winking at other women while at the store like I saw a guy winking at my female friend one time; albeit, he was with his wife and kids. I caught him at the blink. Yep, I did!

One time, I saw a couple broken down on the highway. The woman was pushing the car while the man was sitting in the car. Lord have mercy! That is the opposite, guys. I told him to step outside and let the woman sit inside while we pushed the car. He said, " You are right!" If you are a weakling, call people to come and help you but for God’s sake, don’t allow your wife to push the car while you are sitting in the car. Another time, I overheard a car trying to start. I knew that my neighbor's car was not starting, so I went out to help. It was the wife trying to start her car, but it was not starting. She had been doing that for more than 30 minutes while the husband was asleep. I went to help her while her own husband was still asleep. You pity me; don't you? Atlanta drinks, but New York gets drunk. A caring man should come out and either tell the wife to go back into the house because it is cold while he looks for a solution, or he joins her to start the car. The wife should not be out there at 5:30 a.m while the husband acts as the Big Kahuna, sleeping like an overfed pig.

In traditional African society, the woman was the main organizer.  The women taught morals and the men taught strength, brute strength. Both the men and women were the teachers but at different levels. The men taught on how to provide, and the women taught on how to organize what has been provided and to convert it to greater proportions. In traditional African society, the women were respected and treated with much respect because they believed that they were closer to God than the men. They were considered goddesses. That is why there were goddesses of fertility, rain, and harvest.

Despite the complementarity of roles and responsibilities, the head of the family had always been the man. Failure to follow that has plunged the American marriages into chaos, and divorces have rocked their world. Being the head of household does not mean autocracy, for no good leader rules alone. Decisions came by consensus. The reason why marriages between Africans and Africans in the Diaspora are falling apart in an alarming rate is because most of their women have not been able to reconcile the American culture with the traditional African society they come from. That is why mixed marriages between the Africans and Americans are faring better than marriages between African and Africans or Americans and Americans. 

Furthermore, American men are not easily satisfied. That is why they have these strip clubs and toys all over the place. Once a woman gains a little weight like this, it is a big problem. A guy told me that his wife's smell down there was unpleasant. All he had to do was to do some research and share it with his wife. I did and shared it with her, and she was so thankful; albeit, she asked me how I knew all of that. More women are in the gym, but their men are at home writing letters on the internet to Russia for Mail Order Bride. Obese and overweight American men are trying to marry Russian models. Ichabod! Poor me; I am the only one left behind!

More so, American men do not treat their women well because they cannot give them proper sex. See, truth be told, every woman likes and loves a  man who can give her good sex. American men cannot last past their 5 minutes or at most 15 minutes. The reason why American men do not last long in bed is because they start using painkillers and antidepressants at a very young age, and that kills their sex drive and ability to sustain erection for a long time. I do not need viagra to fulfill my responsibility, even for hours. Why should I when my boy is well treated? He is strong and has not been weakened by painkillers or drugs. Even their women too easily lose interest in sex because they do same. However, the man suffers more. 

Finally, most women in America are killed by their husbands or boyfriends. Read the rest here. This is an excerpt below that I have for you. 
On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. 40%  of teenage girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend. 60% of young women, ages 15 to 24, were currently involved in an ongoing abusive relationship and all participants had experienced violence in a dating relationship.

The men are so demanding, almost like the women. A woman should be more demanding than a man. It is sacrilege for the man to be more demanding like American men. Soon they say foreign men are taking their women. Why shouldn’t they, if they will be treating their women like nothing? They will soon make them all single. If not of sin, they will seize even those who are married. 

Until then, I pray that God will help American men to treat their women well.

St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Sunday, November 13, 2011

How To Know Your Boyfriend Will Be A Good Dad.

The absence of good dads is destroying American families and creating a marriagequake. To be a good dad neither means you should get him a prostitute to check him out, if you suspect he is gay nor does it mean you should carry your children to night clubs and make them sleep on clubs chairs because you want the kids to always be with you. That amounts to abuse and irresponsible parenting. Nowadays many women stall with the idea of having kids because they do not want to be single moms or to raise the kids by themselves. Most fear that if they had a child with an irresponsible man, they may end up raising the child by themselves. Therefore, their greatest worry is if the guy they know will be a good dad. While we can reemphasize Duncan’s maxim that “There’s no art to find the mind’s construction in the face (Macbeth, Act 1, Scene 4),” we can still predict certain behavioral patterns that foreshadow a premonition. The truth is that you can know a good dad. Make a list and the next time you find another pretender, crosscheck all those points. If he passes, he will never fail you.

It starts with the woman’s choice of a man. Once you have made a better choice, you do not need to worry, for a good man will increase your joy and that of your kids. Women have always gone for the man they like most or they think will be their Mr. Right and not usually the one who is ready to die for them. In most cases, the ones that are ready to die for them usually do not fit the hot society perfect image of an ideal man . Never date a man you love most; date a man who loves you most. The one who loves you most sacrifices for you, but the one you love most will not show sacrificial love because he will take your love for granted.

A man who puts himself in clear risks; for example, selling drugs, using drugs or belonging to a gang. He will soon be killed or sent to jail, so he will not have the opportunity to be a good dad. A man who is determined to live a life of crime will not be a good dad because he will soon forfeit those rights to the society, and his kids will not have a dad. A man who is beating you up is transmitting violence to his kids, and that is not a sign of a good dad.

A man who does not know how to provide for his own; no matter how small it is, cannot be a good dad (I Tim 5:8). A man who has not gotten his acts together cannot be a good dad. I do not mean when a man loses his job, and the woman leaves him. What if he picked up a job the next day?I mean a man who neither has a career nor education, and he has no plan to get any. I know that some men think that by buying everything for their child is love. It is not! It is just one sign. However, a man must first start by showing the volition and ability to care for himself and then he will be able to care for his child later.

Anyone can know a good man. A man who is always outside; as if there are thorns in his house cannot be a good dad. You need first to be home to nurture the kid. Isn’t it so? One that will be a good dad is always available when she needs him and when she feels threatened with life uncertainties. He is the always present and ever ready shoulder she can cry on when life makes her cry. He must show sacrificial love for the mother. There are men who have been consumed by their careers or actualities that they are sadly home. How is he going to assist the kids with their homework or go to their games if he is never home?

If a man does not love his wife, how is he going to be a great dad? He must first love the wife like Christ loved the church and gave himself for it (Eph 5:25). You know a good dad who will try to help his lover without she asking for help. A great dad does not wait for you to tell him to check how your car is driving; he can hear it because he checks it. It is the same concern he will have because he has to make sure the car carrying his child is safe. Yes, you know a good dad how he shows concern for his mother, sisters and other women.

Does he try to play with the kids when you visit places with him? If a man does not like kids, he will not be a great dad, anyway. Shouldn’t that be enough presentiment?I hear some pathetic excuses; "my boyfriend does not like little kids." For God's sake, how is he going to be a good father?

Finally, and not the least, you know a great dad because he listens. Children like to tell stories and meaningless ones too. You need to be a great dad to listen to them and make them feel good. If a man is not a good listener, he will not listen to his child too. I do not mean an ignoramus who has nothing to say and is afraid to expose his stupidity. There are some men who will be watching the TV while you are talking to them. Some are playing video games while the little  ones are trying to play with them. Such a man will not be a good dad. A man who does not find time to spend with his wife, go on hiking, do exercises together, run, make errands together, will not be a great dad.

Now make a list and the next time you find another pretender, crosscheck all those points. If he passes, he will never fail you. If he fails you, call me and I will tear my Bible forever. So, next time if you find yourself having a child with a useless father, you should blame yourself for not heeding to advice. These are summations from people who have been married for at least 40 years and raised many children.

Until then, know a good that before you have a child.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

For How Long Should A Man Run After A Girl Before Giving Up#?

I have heard this question several times and each time people ask me, I get confused because the experiences have ended differently with or for different people. Straight forward I will tell you that I do not have an answer. One common mistake some men have done is to get angry and insult the woman, if she rejects them. Disregard her craziness and let time work its magic. One day, one day, you will receive that elusive call or mail asking you where you are now. If she is yours, one day, like a strayed dog, she will walk back home where she belongs. Notwithstanding, I will narrate to you real life anecdotes and hope that you prayerfully draw your own conclusion from them. Love is abstract, so it works differently for and with different people when it is being converted to concrete terms. The man can even go the length of the guy in the video above.

I used to know a young man called Paul. He loved a girl called Deborah, but she did not love him. She instead loved another, Jose. Jose went to Mexico to seek greener pastures, and Deborah was left back in Cameroon. After some time, many other young men approached Deborah for love and marriage, but she turned them all down. Paul got married to another girl and continued his life and started building a family. Age was now striking all of them. Jose got married to another girl while in Mexico. When Deborah heard it, she almost killed herself and went into serious depression. She has been waiting for more than 4 years only for the man to marry another woman. Life did not end there. After some time, Paul divorced his wife and went and married Deborah. Today, they are happily married. He said that even though he was married, he knew that Deborah was his wife although Deborah was running after another boy who was even married too. It was just a matter of time and opportunity. It took more than 10 years for him to marry (Deborah ) the woman he had originally wanted to marry. Isn’t ten years too long to run after a girl?

There was a gentleman who loved a girl, but she did not have the same feelings for him too. He wrote her several letters but she would not reply. Then she got married to a guy and had a child. Two years after, the marriage kaput. Immediately after her defunct marriage, she went into one of the mails he had written her, she pulled his contacts and wrote him back asking if he was still single. She was shocked to hear that the guy was still waiting for her. They made arrangements and began dating. Two months after, they got married. They have been married now for more than 29 years. Was it fair for the guy to have waited that long? It would seem it was.

There was an African who loved an American girl from Idaho. He wrote the girl almost every day. He loved the girl with all his heart and would give his life for the girl. No matter how he wrote the girl, she would not reply. Then one day he told one of his friends about his misery. The friend said he has a letter he always writes to ladies, and they never resist. The African guy borrowed the letter, changed the particulars, and sent it to the girl. When the lady received the letter, she instead insulted him. One year passed, but he kept running after the girl. One day he met another American who told him how he ran for 4 years after his current wife with whom they have now been married for 17 years. He asked him if he could conceive a letter for him like the one he wooed his wife. He told him that he had the letter with him that he has kept as a relic and time and again sends it by mail to his wife. The African sent it to his target. When the girl received the email, her boyfriend replied to the African that it was not the girl replying, it was her boyfriend and that she already has a boyfriend. Should the African guy continue writing and running after this girl?

Some stories sound like fairytales while others sound like elegies. Such are different scenarios and different people producing different results. Biblically, there is just no pattern on how or how long a man should pursue a girl. What we easily see is men who did sacrificial acts to court their ladies, but the Bible does not show a man running after a woman. What can please one woman may not be the same thing that will win the other woman. It would seem there is a little bit of luck and grace or like the bible puts it “ time and chance happened to them all (Eccl9:11).” If your mind tells you to continue pursuing the girl, then do so, but if your mind tells you to stop, then follow your mind too. She is not the only girl out there; a person does not make you happy. Most importantly, if the girl tells you not to write, call or text her again, you should stop immediately because it could be considered harassment if she reports it. In Africa, it would not matter, even if you did not stop, but the laws in the US are very different. Why do you want to ruin your life? No matter how important she is; it is not worth ruining your life for someone who has rejected you. Perhaps if you had a record, the same girl may not even want to smell you around her.

Until then, pray and let God guide you indeed.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Paulina Turner: The Sad Life Of A Beauty.

Paulina was born in Oregon, and she grew up in Oregon. She had never gone out of the country. When she was going to Washington, she told people she was going out of the country. Her parents were born in Oregon, they grew up in Oregon, and they died in Oregon. Her sister lived in one of the Washingtons-not quite sure whether the city or the state. On her beautiful face resided a constant and hospitable smile that was hard for a stranger to pass unwelcome. She spoke in an accent that was distinct of an Oregonian. Perhaps she was just flirty, but perhaps she was just kind and wanted the least of men to feel joyful talking to a beautiful girl like her. Hellas beneath that smile, she had issues every normal girl would have in addition to the ones that a beautiful girl of her caliber would have.

Actually, she knew her boyfriend when she was 17, but she had had a lesbian tryst with a cousin who spent the night for a stay-over when she was 8. Despite all these boys she joked and flirted with, she feared she could grow fat or die alone. She was not promiscuous, which made it difficult for her to really retain a man for long considering that most men nowadays shy away from the responsibility of marriage and just want happenstance and adventures.

The other women were jealous of her, whether for her beauty or for her self confidence I don’t know. Men envied her and made sexist statements if they could not get her friendship. The men whom she had rejected slandered her that she was a lesbian. Those whom have regarded her as a sex object were now discouraged and disappointed because no matter how much they tried, they could not sniff her panties. Finally, the neighborhood saw her with a guy she introduced as her boyfriend. He was a musician and the envy of all young girls in the neighborhood. Notwithstanding, she was still not fulfilled.

Why was she always sad within when she had the envy of most women: old and young? She had the beauty, she had the career, and she now has a companion. The truth about it is that she knew very well that the boyfriend did not have commitment as a principle and objective in life, but he was the type who made her look very fulfilled in front of her friends and enemies. She knew he was the type of boyfriend that if she lost a limb, he will dump her for the one with limbs, yet she consoled herself that the time had not come.

She was worried about getting fat which was like a chronic disease of most young girls, so she invested her time and resources in weight loss products and made the gym her living room. She was beautiful; yet with low self-esteem. You knew it only when you were with her. She worried daily that she would one day end up alone, or if she had anyone, he was going to be an abuser or even a parasite that will suck blood and water from her until she sells herself to coping mechanism and then die finally at a young age. She was also too worried that men appreciated her sex appeal and beauty but not her intellect and her passion.

There were tail telling signs that she ignored. Although they were both into each other, they were not like minded. They wanted to have sex every minute of the day and wanted to be with each other every minute of their lives, but he was so money minded and did not consider family as important as she did. She has lived beauty and known that life was not all about beauty, but he was still striving to show people he was handsome. You have often heard that violence is the weapon of weak communicators. Her boyfriend had a pendulum temperament that swung by at home according to his day outside. They could never resolve their problems by themselves without him trying to involve his female friends. He will say “ Angelica, you are a woman, is Paulina right? In addition, she wanted to further her education, but he thought education was a waste of time and money. Just the mere fact that he looked at her as a sex object could have opened her eyes, but she thought that she will change him when they got married. She forgot that our people say “You can easily reform a boyfriend but not a husband; you tolerate the husband only.” She knew that he had a lot of things she must changed in him while he thought she needed to go to a survivor school to be street smart.

He had quickly noticed that there were many things she could do well, but that was not what mattered to her boyfriend. He spoke to her in terms of a trophy he will hoist around but wanted to be replaced at anytime if it was not more the winning trophy. Her boyfriend has successfully kept his drug addition and pornography away from her. Not sooner were they married did she start to see signs. Despite all the sex she gave him, he was still fantasizing about the girls outside. He flirted and was still on dating sites, even though he was married. He kept female companions with whom they went out regularly to clubs and parks. As life may have it; she could remember the good men she turned down because of either color, height or wealth. Now she seems to have gotten stuck with the one time Mr. Right who has become a match from hell. Paulina, who would you blame?

If you are a beautiful girl, know that beauty does not last for ever. Garnish your beauty with virtues that are not ephemeral. Character does not hide; you should go for the man whose character will make your life joyful. And for those men who are married but want to live single lives, beware you will soon become single and looking. If you are married but want to live like you are single, you will never have a lengthy and happy marriage. Paulina, love and marriage are for people who want commitment so next time go for the man who has shown great signs of commitment and care.

Until then, keep praying for Paulina.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Does “Hosanna” Mean What Your Church Taught You?

Several of you and almost every Christian has heard the word Hosanna, and many of us have even used it at one point in life. In most cases, people have used it as “Praise the Lord.” Did you know that the word does not mean what it is said to mean? In this lesson, you will know the meaning of the word, and see why it was used that way on Jesus. Today. I will treat Jesus’ entry in Jerusalem and its consequences on the people of his days and us today. The lesson comes from the following passages Mt. 21:1-11; cf. Mk. 11:1-11; Lk. 19:29-44; Jn. 12:12-19. I will do a verse to verse commentary as my methodology, and I will use John 12:13-14 as the passage.

Verse 13. The multitude spread their garments; others used tree branches to welcome him as the days of Feast of Tabernacles. John adds that the people held palm fronds in their hands. The Romans honored people by giving them palm fronds with the inscription “Palmam qui meruit ferat.” It means “ Let him bear the palm who has deserved it.” During the days of persecution, the martyrs held it as a sign of victory over their persecutors, their flesh and the world.

Verse 14. Why did Jesus use a donkey rather than a horse? The kingdom he was to establish did not need a horse. He was fighting a spiritual war and not a physical war. Horses were used for physical warfare. Weapons of spiritual warfare are not carnal (2 Cor 10:4; Eph 6: 12-18). A donkey was a sign of peace. His kingdom will bring peace and everlasting peace. In those days, common travelers used asses while high level personalities used horses. Horses were faster while asses took their time to saunter. So Jesus took a donkey in marked contrast with the zeitgeist to show that he came for the downtrodden; those that sin has beaten down and are overweighed by the effects thereof.

This is the way a king was honored in Israel as we see with king Jehu (2 kings 19: 13). To the people, Jesus was their king. Indeed he was a king, but not the way they thought. The people of Israel were desperate for a king as you read the account by Gamaliel (Acts 5: 36-37).

Two things we learn here; the principles of leadership. Churches and pastors were to lead and not manage people. The church is not an industry or business organization. Those who have tried to make it so in Jesus’ days were whipped out of the temple. The church and pastors were to lead people to Christ and then train others to lead others to Christ. Jesus has people he is training here who will fit his shoes when he is gone.

During the last year of Herod’s reign, a man named Theudas gathered about 400 people to overthrow the rule of Rome over the Israelites. Him and his people were crushed and order was restored. That crushed the hope of the Jews who remained under foreign bondage.

After some time, Judea was tired being under foreign domination. Consequently, another sect called the Essenes came to join the Pharisees and Sadducees. However, Essenes believed in a physical kingdom; thus, they wanted to take away the power from the Romans. The sect of Essenes was begun by Judas of Galilee. He too because God did not bless the insurrection failed and was killed. Consequently, the Jews have lost in two rebellions and were now hopeless for a Messiah. To them, it was not a messiah for their sins but to unleash them from the shackles and manacles of Rome.

When the Lord is leading your way, he makes even your enemies to be at peace with you (Prov 16:9). Do you see how everyone just obeyed him when Jesus sent for the donkey which was not even his? This is a sign that the Lord had sent him. In addition, Jesus uses the ass to fulfill scripture (Zech 9:9).

Take particular note of this verse 9. The people cried, save us. But then they say “Hosanna to the son of David: blessed in he that cometh in the name of the Lord; Hosanna in the highest.” The king was to come from the lineage of King David. Some other ones like Theudas and Judas the Galilean came, but it was not the Lord who sent them, so they perished. This time around, please save us.

Hosanna means “save, we pray.” The salvation they wanted was from the Romans. Therefore, the word Hosanna does not mean praise as the church has become used to saying. It is not going to be the last time that the Jews will mistake the mission of Jesus. In the days of the apostles, immediately after his resurrection, the apostles asked him, “Lord, wilt thou at this time restore again the kingdom to Israel?” (Acts 1:6). What they mean here is that ok, during other times we hoped for a messiah to gain back our territory from Rome, but it did not work. You came and walked through Jerusalem, and we thought you will finally hand it to us, but you were killed. Now that you have braved death after three days, will you then hand us the kingdom?

Hitherto, many preachers and Christians still mistake Jesus’ kingdom for a physical kingdom. Jesus did not come for a physical kingdom; he came to set us free from our sins.

Immediately as they were saying it, the chief priests were trembling. The issue here is that although Rome was in charge, she ruled by delegated authority or by proxy. Rome appointed the chief priests who reported to the Roman governor. In case of any rebellion, the chief priests were first held accountable before the general populace. So each time the people came up like this welcoming Jesus, it reminded them of a rebellion, and the consequences that ensued. That is why it will be the chief priests first to start accusing and fighting Jesus as a trouble maker. When they (the Pharisees, Sadducees and chief priests) accused him, they arrested him with no charge and took him to Annas (a retired former high priest). Annas did not find anything wrong with him (Jhn 18:13-24). Not satisfied, they took him to the current high priest Caiaphas who also did not find anything wrong (Jn 18:49-50). All of this at night (Jn 18:3). This was not a mistake; it was to fulfill scripture that the Lord of lords was to die as a ransom for the sins of mankind. Therefore, Jesus came that we might have life and life abundantly. He did not come for a physical kingdom but for a spiritual kingdom, although there are serious benefits that go with our salvation. So taking him to Pilate (Mk 15:1) who still did not find any fault in him was a mere divine plan to give us-sinners, salvation.

Jesus came to set us free by giving his life on the cross to redeem us. He showed that he came for all humanity and all sinners who are willing to repent. Are you willing to repent of your sins? Those who heard and accepted his message of salvation, he gave them rest from sin and rest from their problems. Aren’t the wages of sin overweighing you? Why are you still carrying your burdens when instead giving them to Christ who cares fro you? I know you have been crying Hosanna. Hosanna, but you have done that to the world and the devil. It is high time you cry unto Jesus and tell him, “Jesus, son of David -save us.

Until then, let Jesus be the real king in your life.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Friday, November 4, 2011


MECA USA led by Dr Samuel Besong sues MECA USA led by Sesekou Philip Tabi, and Sesekou Solomon Egbe on 09/02/2011. The defendants responded on 10/31/2011. As a neutral observer, I want to predict the outcome of the suit and its ramifications thereof. It should be noted that this is not the first time that we are incurring a lawsuit. From 2007-20011, MECA USA has had two lawsuits with this making it the third in 4 years. One thing I want everyone to know is that in this lawsuit no one is going to jail because it is a civil suit. No one can go to jail in a civil suit even if you are guilty and cannot make restitution. You go to jail in a criminal suit. I know I have treated a similar case, but this case is different.

Now back to the case proper. Samuel Besong does not have the proper credentials to sue either Solomon Egbe or MECA USA led by Sesekou Philip Tabi because in 2007, Solomon Egbe’s term came to an end and new elections were conducted. The elections were flooded with irregularities as one illegal vote from Mrs Judith Ebini decided the outcome of the elections 72/73 and Tabi/Mondi lost by one vote to Ako/Besong. Many have asked me how I knew Judith voted for Ako/Besong and not for Tabi/Mondi. First of all, she has said it herself, and I know she is an honest woman who can tell all and sundry where she voted. It was the Ako people who registered her to vote in MECA Delaware; meanwhile, her own chapter: MECA DC had rejected her as being illegal. Tabi/Mondi team then sued MECA USA, but the case did not go to trial as it was withdrawn by the plaintiff to the satisfaction of both parties. They were to wait for the next elections in 2009.

On July 4, 2009, in DC, the elections did not take place contrary to the constitution, and it was the incumbent who annulled the elections from taking place. The Ako/Besong Team were hinging on fake absentee ballots and were trying to introduce them into the counting phase by their representative and head of the IEC: Dr. Anne Assam. As a member of the electoral committee, I requested to inspect every ballot as stated by the constitution before she could use them. She refused and kept them only in her handbag that she shuffled like a fortuneteller looking for cowries. We informed the Agbor/Ebini team of the maneuvers and insisted as members of the electoral committee that there will be no election until the idea of absentee ballots was rejected. The Ako Besong team continued with the election which was disrupted by the majority of the people. The hall was occupied by the objective majority and with every occupation by the masses, the Police were called in. The election ended in a total fiasco, but the people went to dance in the evening as if they went there for dancing. On Sunday, they took their bags and went to their different destinations. At the time that the meeting scattered, there was no more any leader because the AKO/Besong Team had burnt out their mandate.

On July 16, 2009, Council Of Chiefs or Council Of Crooks (COC) sat to hand over power to the incumbent team: Ako/Besong in total disregard and violation of the constitution. First of all, COC was illegal because it was partisan. Out of the 9 members of COC: Chief John Etta (MECA-Houston and COC Chairman) , 2. Chief Ekinneh Agbaw-Ebai (MECA New England and COC Secretary), 3. Chief Elvis Etah Ayuk (MECA DC - Metro), 4. Chief Mme President Gladys Tambong (MECA Dallas Forth Worth), 5. Chief Mrs. Evelyn Mbi (MECA Tri-State), 6. Chief Peter Aiyuk (MECA Reno - Nevada), 7. Chief Ernest Tarkang (MECA California), 8. Chief Major Fidelis Agbor (MECA Georgia), and 9. Chief Kenneth Eyong (MECA Delaware), 7 were open supporters of Ako/Besong Team. In addition, out of the 6 subsection articles on Art 5/ sec F that dealt with elections issues, all were violated making their decision invalid because it was flawed, biased without evidence from which judgment was stayed. Furthermore, the article dealt with a scenario after elections had taken place and there were problems.

In the case of 2009, elections did not take place, and there were no provisions in the constitution in case elections did not take place. The constitution did not say what happens to the organization in case the elections are cancelled. It is only Art 5 Sec III line 5 that comes closer. It reads thus: “If there is a tie between two contenders in terms of the number of votes cast, the names of the contenders will be written and placed in a basket for any Manyu child under age ten (10) on the convention floor to pick. Whoever is picked becomes the winner.” Therefore, making the Ako/Besong Team governors of MECA USA was unconstitutional and a total miscarriage of justice.

Thenceforth, any group of people who assembled in the name of MECA and had their leader were doing so on illegal bases. The illegality was not against the law, but against the internal rules and regulations of MECA USA Inc. And if push came to shove, the side that retained the 501 C 3 documents would be regarded as the rightful bearers and leaders of the organization.

However, let us say in this present case where one of the defendants Solomon Egbe has accused Samuel Besong and MECA for operating an illegal NGO. The case could be referred to the IRS and the district attorney too could look into the accusations if there is probable cause to indict and bring forth charges. In the case where the Besong Team lose the case, then we can talk of imprisonment. During the civil suit, there will not be any accusations that is unrelated to the suit like character or how anyone filed asylum since it has no bearing. If the defendant objects to the plaintiff to talk about it and he does it, the judge could fine him for violation or contempt of court. That is why the witness for Michael Jackson’s defense was fined $1000 by the judge. So those threats that anyone could tell the court how the other person filed asylum may not hold here. Now, if the case goes to a criminal trial, it will no more be Solomon Egbe or MECA USA/ Tabi against MECA USA / Besong; it will be the State of Maryland vs. Samuel Besong and MECA USA. Solomon Egbe could merely be used by the state as a witness. The dynamics here are very technical.

Lawsuits like this will eliminate the kingmakers ideology and will permit skillful and legal leaders to rule the organization. There would be a fine line on sand or concrete that king makers have no place in modern society. It will also rid the organizations of individuals making their private vendettas the meeting property. If it does not eradicate, at least it will curb the culture of slander and libel that has bedeviled us for years. There would be a fine line on sand or concrete that making libelous or defamatory statements could cost you money or your freedom.

Nevertheless, my prediction is that in this case, it is likely that the Samuel Besong MECA USA will lose the case because they do not have the legality to sue, they have operated under false authority. In addition, Solomon Egbe had handed over power and MECA USA relics and artifacts which were confirmed by those charged with the responsibility of collecting them. Just like the COC that was attached to Ako/Besong team gave them the books of the organization to operate upon, Solomon gave to those who were legally holding the legal documents of MECA issued by the state of Maryland where the association was registered.

Until then, in the absence of wisemen in a community, the people go to court.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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