Tuesday, January 10, 2017
The Inescapable Common Needs of Humanity.
As I sat in my car looking at other motorists at the stop light, there was one thing that seemed very common. Each of them looked very familiar. They all looked like someone I have seen before. I began to reflect on what we all have in common. Deep within my memory, I began to rehearse how the poor and the rich, the beautiful and the ugly, the ant and the sluggard all looked alike. There was a voice within me that read, “The essence of the human needs are the same, but they manifest themselves in different forms." All our needs are bundled up in three words: Love, Acceptance and Value (LAV). Every human being wants to be loved. Every human being wants to be accepted. Every human being wants to be valued.
Those whose love for money exceeds their love for humanity, those whose acceptance of human pride exceeds their morals and virtues, and those whose value for hoarded materials exceeds their value for human life have all realized these are mere vanity of vanity. Money cannot love you. Houses and a huge bank accounts cannot accept you, and the titles and status in society cannot value you. Otherwise, the rich will never ever commit suicide, the bourgeoisies and patricians will never divorce, and the gold medalists and globe winners will be very fulfilled with life. You can testify that it is not so! Only humans can love you back. Only humans can accept you. Only human beings can value you.
Many have sought after the internet to fulfill their love. They make friends behind those screens. They play games, play cards, debate and talk love and sex still behind the curtains of the worldwide net. They live in sumptuous houses that paint the picture of great satisfactory success sitting over oceans from which they peer and peep through the chinks of their human pride. They huff and puff on what their hands have accomplished. They rejoice on the leisure they can afford, yet they still lust for love. They still lust for more success, and they still lust for the pride of life. The human being is never satisfied without love acceptance and value.
Deep within every human being lies a hidden need that is fulfilled temporarily with pets, paraphernalia, imaginary friends on the internet and fairy tales from fairylands. However, there still lies a small but larger portion unfulfilled which is what drives the bulk of our depression and awkward behaviors up. These dark series may reach their paroxysm with depression, anxiety, murder, broken homes or even finally culminating in suicide because nothing without humanity can be satisfying as what inhibits them within. Tall tales get short once faced with reality.
We can pretend all we want, but we cannot satisfy ourselves. No amount of drugs, alcohol, sex or and fun can satisfy us because love is beyond drugs, acceptance is beyond sex and value is beyond just feeling good. Love is the kind affection that is administered in friendship, so it is beyond just falling in love. Is there friendship in that love? If someone is accepted, he or she should be accepted with their size, origins and mannerisms. Acceptance is beyond tolerance. It is saying that, I know who you are, but I will deal with it. If someone cannot be missed when they are not there, then they were not valued. Anyone who has had a priced and valued possession will tell you that they missed it, when it was stolen. How can anything be of value, if it cannot be missed? Making people feel they would be missed truly in word and in action is beyond just saying that I missed you.
Therefore, as you live your life daily, you must remember that every human being is in search of love, acceptance and value. These three must come together to produce a totality of satisfaction. That satisfaction brought far beyond the acquisition of materials, the praise-singing of myrmidons and aficionados and the leisure and pleasure of life’s artificial satisfaction.
Until then, you seek and provide love, acceptance and value without which no one will be satisfied with life.
St Arrey of Ntenako
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