I disagree with those who say that her work is not art. Art is the expression of creative skills, and her work fulfills those conditions. However, Sulkowicz’s art failed to convey her message. If this is what happened between them, then the young man is right to sue all parties involved as he did.
Although she says that her work is descriptive, I think that it is prescriptive because she said, “Do not watch this video if your motives would upset me, my desires are unclear to you, or my nuances are indecipherable.” She says that her motive is “to change the world.” I doubt that she will change the world when she thinks everyone must look at a work of art in her eyeglasses. Those who changed the world like Marx, Darwin, Freud, Jesus and Mandela allowed people to think freely. In this video,”Ceci N’est Pas Un Viol” by Emma Sulkowicz, I disagree that rape occurred; I believe that violent sex took place. There are people who have more violent consul sex than what we see in this video. There are several reasons for my position. They call it Sadomaso sex. Therefore, simply because sex is violent does not make it rape.
Secondly, her posture did not conjure rape. Her hands were down and freely positioned as she did not pose any resistance. This was not a habitual rape; it was an impromptu rape; thus, resistance would have been ferocious as in all impromptu rapes.
There are times when I have said to my friend who is telling me a very funny story, “You are killing me!” That does not mean that she is killing me; I am merely saying that her story is making me to laugh out my lungs. I have had people tell me, “stop it right there,” when I am narrating my shit story. Initially, I will stop because methought they did not like the story, but they will adjure me to finish the story. They actually want me to continue telling them the story. Her stop could simply mean, "continue doing what you are doing because it makes me feel very good."
Fourthly, she was in a dormitory where there are other students, so it would have been easier for people to come to her help had she cried rape. In addition, after the man ejaculated, he sat a little bit on the bed before gathering his clothes to leave. The fact that the man left with his clothes in his hands does not mean that he was running away. Perhaps that was the only set of clothes he had, so he did not want to wear them over his sexcapade sweat. I don't think a rapist will sit for some time before running away from his rape victim. They might hang around to clean their victim and crime scene up to conceal evidence as we see in Forensic Files, but they do not just sit as a relaxing moment. Furthermore, I am not a rape profiler, but I do know that rapists don't even leave the crime scene naked, except if they came naked. You can read Paul's complaint here.
Furthermore, this stage takes a few seconds to complete, depending on the type of O you are having. Since the big O comes with the control of the muscles that get a bit tighten, you will be unable to obey her for those seconds. It is during those seconds that we talk of overlap. Once your muscles get back, you will rush and even leap faster and higher than you could have done had you not gone through the big O. Therefore, once your partner changes her mind, you have a time differential to comply. The tea analogy does not present that time differential. Therein lies its weakness. Now, that is disadvantage of consent!
Moreso, the time span between the order to stop and the overlapping actions of the response cycles during coitus could be like 5 seconds or more, depending on the cycle and per the tea analogy, rape has already occurred. There is an overlapping time span between the time of the order and the completion of the action depending on the response cycle. If you order someone to stop during foreplay, they can obey immediately. If they don’t obey immediately, then they have committed rape. Nevertheless, if you explicitly order them to stop during penetration, it could take about 5 seconds before they stop. If you ordered them to stop during orgasm, it could take 10 seconds or more. According to the tea analogy, that can be considered rape; meanwhile, at the time of the command, there was nothing they could do. No one can obey an order instantaneously when they are ejaculating. At that moment sex may have its weaknesses too. The individual will have to go through his/her ejaculation first before obeying that order. That is not rape because it is still during the overlapping period of the consent. This order could be promptly obeyed during foreplay but not during sexual intercourse. If the order is not obeyed after the overlapping period, then we can talk of rape because the individual had the ability to restrain themselves, but they deliberately refused to do so. Therefore, rather than go through this, you should select well who you go to bed with.
The young man’s violent sex action of slapping her is a byproduct of feminism. The feminists propagated pornography as art, and therein is where young people learn this deviant sex fantasy where they inflict pain on their women. They treat their women like objects. Immediately after ejaculation, he relaxed a bit and abandoned the poor girl on the bed. He went away as if his intention was merely sex and not a relationship. Ejaculation is not the end of sex. It is a cooling off period. Caressing the woman after sex brings her more joy just as going into her. Instead she became to him like a leper. William Congreve once said, "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned."
Notwithstanding, there are certain sex acts that people must seek permission from their partners before engaging in them. Love does not and should not bring pain. You cannot say that you are giving love to someone when she is in pain. Love is the bond in spirit that is physically administered in friendship. Friends don't hurt each each other. There is a special curse that goes with treating people badly. This is not religion; it is just the way it is! You will never be happy!
People should also remember that false rape accusations are as hurtful as the rapes themselves. Their punishments should be commensurate or proportionate to the rape sentence that would have been inflicted on the rapist. In other words, if a woman accuses a man falsely of rape, they should give her the same sentence they would have given the man had he been found guilty; otherwise, some people would think they have a monopoly to cry rape, whenever they are disappointed by a man or woman.
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