Tuesday, March 31, 2015

The Bible Has A Better Solution To Solve The Suicide Quagmire.

Missouri Gov. Jay Nixonon Feb. 26, at left, bows his head in a brief prayer service for the family of Missouri Auditor Tom Schweich who shot himself in an apparent suicide a month before his spokesman would be found dead by his own hand as well.

About two months ago, a student told me that, “I just want to call it quit. I don’t want to take it anymore.” I said to him, “Son, my own problems are more than yours, but I have made up my mind to overcome.” I gave him a tip of the iceberg and encouraged him to conquer his fears. Two weeks ago, he saw me and came to greet me. He told me, “You are my inspiration.” Last week, I was sitting in a church, and I heard 4 prayer requests for people who know or have lost someone through suicide during the past week. I was heartbroken. I was almost saddened the whole day. I said to myself, “This should not be happening.” I also knew a young woman who committed suicide about 4 months ago . Suicide is really a problem nowadays. Many people have attempted or thought of suicide. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) wrote that “every 12.8 minutes, an American is dying by suicide.”[1]While I agree with their findings, I disagree with their solutions. Many people think that suicide is the easiest way out of their despair. I tell you today that there is a better way out than suicide. This treatise is to show faith in Jesus as the most effectual fervent solution in the reduction of suicide.  
If you look at the AFSP suicide prevention solutions, you will realize that they target the physical man but not the spiritual man. That is good advice but do human beings have the power to do those things? Romans 7:15, Paul said, “For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I.” Human beings cannot do the contrary on their own volition because they are carnal, thus under the law of sin.
Suicide is a mortal sin because the person can no more repent and that is damnation. Suicide is morally wrong and sinful because the bible says, “you shall not murder.” You are not only going to not murder other people, but you are equally not authorized to murder yourself. We know that God forgives sins after we confess. However, since the last act the person did was killing himself, there will not be any remission of sins because he will be unable to confess, talk less of forsaking his sin.
The Bible does not condemn suicide directly as it does not even mention the word, but it showed 6 instances of suicide merely as moral failure. We do not treat moral failure by going to the hospital and seeing a psychiatrist or a psychologist. We do not treat a moral failure with immorality. Many people who commit suicide suffer from panic disorder which is symptomatic of “recurrent, unpredictable unprovoked attacks of sudden, intense anxiety, or a panic attack.”[2] This panic disorder could be cured by true friendship of mutualism because “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad (Prov 12:25).”
Charles Morris says that, “In fact, most people who kill themselves have mentioned their intent beforehand.”[3] However, many relatives and friends are always surprised to hear that someone committed suicide because even when they seem close, they are still far from each other due to the lifestyle we have now decided to live. These words of Solomon explain the current relationships amongst niggardly relatives, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee (Prov 23:7).” They say things they really don’t mean.
Suicide is not a happy person’s act; it is an unhappy person’s act. Gary Stewart said, “The problem is not that such despairing people want to die; it is that they do not know how to live.”[4] If suicide is an unhappy act and unhappiness is a spiritual issue; therefore, suicide is a spiritual problem. Consequently, the prescription to treat suicide or prevent it should be both physical and spiritual rather than merely Physical (neurologically and physiologically).  The exemption of the spiritual side leaves the rest of solutions as rodomontades because it leaves out the main cure.
Hallahan, Kauffman and Pullen established the link between depression and suicide in this statement, “Depression, especially when severe and accompanied by a sense of hopelessness, is linked to suicide and suicide attempts.”[5] You should take note again of the word “hopelessness”. That is because it is not all depression that is bad. Some light depression equips your body with the ability to deal with difficult problems in the future.
In so far as we are on earth, we cannot always be happy because of the evil of sin. Even those who live a godly life know that they will have trials and temptations. If your happiness is from the world, your unhappiness will outweigh your happiness because the world is empty and unfulfilling (John 16:33). Solitude makes people to live with anguish and desire to die than to live. Many people attend churches, go to functions and go to schools, but they live in solitude. A lot of people have gone into solitude because of poor treatment they received from churches, broken marriages and relationships, life of debauchery, and others are victims and proprietors of past hurts. Many have refused to heed to Paul’s advice to look into the future rather than the past (Philippians 3; 13-14). Those who look at the past with regrets, embitter their souls and force the future to pay for the broken vases of their past.
Why is depression then so rampant despite all the mechanisms to procure us happiness? Why has happiness and life deserted many? People do not pray for themselves. They ask others to pray for them. What has happened to their own mouths? When was the last time you sat down, knelt down, stood up or slept on your bed and prayed for yourself for even just 30 minutes? People praying for you is good, but it does not replace your own prayers. The teacher’s lectures or group studies do not replace your own studies. You have seen psychologists and psychiatrists, but your depression came back immediately after you left their offices. Could the solution be in your own mouth and heart? Churches are now social playgrounds and not spiritual temples. If they were spiritual grounds, we should be taking the sick from the hospital to the churches and not the churches to the hospital. 
           Some people are depressed because they cannot pay their electric bills. Then we send them to the psychiatrist. What for?The psychiatrist gives them another bill, and the bill adds to their depression again. A young woman is pregnant and has been rejected by the father of the baby. Then we put her on medication. What for? The medication causes her insomnia and we now prescribe her soporifics. She jumps from the frying pan into the fire. A boy has lost his father, then we put him on medication. What for? He needs someone to step in as a father and not medications! Medications do nto tell him, "Son I love you!"A woman is depressed because she cannot find a husband, yet we tell her we are praying for her. What type of solution is that? Lubitz, the Lufthansa pilot was afraid to lose his job due to his failing eyesight, but his doctors prescribed him stronger medications. What were the results? Adam Lanza was troubled by solitude, but his doctors prescribed him antidepressants and other psychotropics. How were medications going to solve his solitude? A man has anxiety because his cholesterol does not seem to go down, but his doctors put him on statin drugs which are known to have serious muscle and nerve damaging effects. His nerves and muscles get damaged, so he becomes depressed. Then they put him now on more medication, and he contemplates suicide. Did that man need all those medications? What for? A woman suffering from postpartum depression will not find any salvific solution in medications alone because they do not provide hope and self-worth.That is all tantamount to dead faith which is faith without works. A widow does not need medications; she needs more visits and genuine friendship. A woman who is divorcing does not need medications; she needs friendship that paints a future of hope. She needs someone with whom to visit, pray and engage in activities. There is a great cure provided by human warmth that no medication, psychologist or psychiatrist can provide. If a man is depressed because he is unemployed, the most efficient way to cure his depression will be to assist him in looking for work or providing him with work. That buoys his hope. That is faith with works! 
          When a friend told me that he intended to kill his wife's suitor, his wife and kill himself because he will never be a cuckold, I knew at that moment that his biggest problem was solitude. I took him out and made sure that I called him several times a day and we talked. I brought a plan for us to safe some money and go to Europe. I painted a picture of  the type of women he was going to see there. Harems from whom he could choose his princess wife. I created hope out of his hopelessness. When a student told me that she was depressed and does not see why she should live because her mother was being abused by men, I shared one of my popular articles. I told her to add knowledge to her beauty and her power would be incontestable. She looked at me and said, "You have changed my world in 5 minutes." Hope was what she wanted, and hope is what I gave her. It was concrete, it was real and it was practical! It was not a fairytale about a fairyland. The solution was at her reach!
           Deliverance from suicide cannot be done in one occasion or medications as if there was a magic wand; it becomes a way of life so as to preserve the spiritual health that chases away the spirit of gloom. In most people, this spirit of gloom is caused by demons. Dickason states that, “specific confession and renunciation are tools that strip the enemy of his assumed rights that may have allowed his influence or invasion.”[6]Therefore, in some cases of depression, the individual needs deliverance. If someone is on drugs, you attack what made them start drugs in the first place and not the symptoms of their addiction. 
            Hall, Quinn and Gollnick  affirmed , “One in four of the nation’s high school students report that they feel so sad or hopeless almost every day for at least two weeks in a row that it interferes with their usual activities ( centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2010b).”[7] Hopelessness is not something you can cure via way of medication. The person must have faith which is defined as, “… the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Heb 11:1).”[8]John reiterated that our faith is the victory that overcomes the world (I Jn 5: 3-4). No psychiatrist, no psychologist and no medication can suck out unhappiness from your spirit. Actually, Feldman acknowledges that, “There is some evidence linking the use of antidepressant medication with an increased risk of suicide.”[9]Surprisingly, many Americans prefer medications to building real human relationships. 
              People often ask me “Why then do Christians who have faith still commit suicide?” Simply because someone is going to church does not mean that they have faith in God or that they have not lost faith (trust) in God. When Judas lost his faith and bishopric, he committed suicide (Mt 27:3-5; Acts 1:16-19). Many have allowed themselves to be controlled by the worries of this world because their hope is only founded on worldly pleasures. Paul said, “If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable (I Cor 15:19).”  When our hope does not go beyond this life, we are bound to be hopeless because the world and this present life cannot meet all our needs. Such has been the doctrine of Carpe Diem. God has promised to meet our every-need (Philippians 4:19; Eph 3:20; Mt 7:11) but not our wants. Some of these needs are met, but many are still not contented with what they have. These needs could be met if we seek first the kingdom of God and its righteousness (Mt 6:33).
          Therefore, when faith is in your heart, rather than hopelessness and anxiety, you will speak, sing and make melodies of psalms, hymns and spiritual songs as you give thanks to God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. We cannot entirely eliminate suicide from the entire society since it is in the sinful nature of humans, but we can reduce it and eliminate it amongst true believers. Id you have faith in God, he will give you good health (Prov 3:7-8). It doe snot mean that you will never be sick; it simply means that you will not be a valetudinarian and sickness will not lead you to suicide. The hope you have in a better place will keep you alive to reach there one day. To some it is an imaginary hope but to you, it is life bringing hope that saves you from suicide! 

Until then let us strive to prevent and reduce suicide.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

[1] "Facts and Figures." American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. N.p., n.d. Web. 30 Mar. 2015.
[2]Gerow, Joshua R. Psychology: An Introduction. New York, NY: HarperCollins, 1992. Print. P.562
[3] Morris, Charles G. Psychology: An Introduction. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall, 1993. Print. P.563
[4] Clinton, Timothy E., and Ronald E. Hawkins. The Quick-reference Guide to Biblical Counseling: Personal and Emotional Issues. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 2009. Print. P. 255
[5] Hallahan, Daniel P., James M. Kauffman, and Paige C. Pullen. Exceptional Learners: An Introduction to Special Education. Boston: Pearson Education, 2012. Print. P. 217
[6] Dickason, C. Fred. Demon Possession & the Christian. Westchester, IL: Crossway, 1989. Print. P. 250.
[8] "Audio Bible Online." Audio Bible Online. N.p., n.d. Web. 31 Mar. 2015.
[9]Feldman, Robert S. Child Development. Boston: Pearson, 2012. Print. P.282

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