Saturday, March 21, 2015

Monica Lewinsky: Mistakes of The Past, experience of the present and Lessons for the Future.

I must say that Monica Lewinsky is a very brave, beautiful, smart and strong woman. I admire her a lot because she would have killed herself with all the ridicule she took from the hypocrites of America. Many of the American hypocrites were alarmed as usual, but the world was not. The world could not understand why she was being dragged into mud. Paul told Titus, “Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled (Titus 1:15).” Whenever you see someone who is quick to judge or suspect the intentions of others, you should know that they have something to hide themselves, so they think that everyone is like them. You become a reflection of their inner self they truly hate. It explains why their comments are always very acerbic and sinister. Such was the case of those who condemned and stoned Monica Lewinsky digitally. Unfortunately, she that Jesus has not condemned, no man could. She has lived to tell her story.
17 years later, Monica stands in a hall full of people who probably had condemned her in 1998, and she asked them if any of them could lift their hands up that they had never made a mistake before they were 22. Not a single hand went up. If not a single hand went up, it portrayed their guilt. It reminded me of Jesus words to the woman caught in flagrant adultery, “Woman, where are those thine accusers? Hath no man condemned thee?” When no one came forward because they were all guilty of something, he cheered her up, “Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.” In addition, we can still learn again about the story of Rehab. Although she was a prostitute, she was named in the Hall of Faith because of her belief and confession. Monica Lewinsky’s reappearance now should be  a reminder to us all that all have sinned and come short of the glory of God, so we should be careful how we condemn others for the same peccadilloes we commit in secret.
Monica Lewinsky’s story reminds us again that, “… the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows (I Tim 6:10).” Linda Tripp her friend, or so she thought betrayed her to benefit from the filthy lucre of Clinton’s opponents. With the collusion and connivance of the FBI and Republicans, Linda surreptitiously tapped all Lewinsky's and Clinton’s conversations. Surprisingly, the religious right applauded her.
There are three words that characterize true friendship: bond, trust and loyalty. Linda Tripp did not have that bond, was not trustworthy and was disloyal. These are all qualities the bible extol. How and why then did the religious right become monoblepsists to her mae culpas but could use their lone eye to see the peccadilloes of Lewinsky? Lewinsky was a collateral damage of political Machiavellianism. Until today, she is still belittled by those who have never sinned. 
A few months ago, a little 15 year old asked to speak to me privately. She told me that she does not have any friends because she does not trust anyone, and she shoes not trust her parents too. Two weeks ago, I asked students what they will want to become, and a 17 year old told me that she will want to join the Mafia. I asked her why. She explained that they have a perfect family that cares for each other, keeps secrets and trusts each other. Those are the same as bond, trust and loyalty.
The world is crying for all these three qualities, but we keep failing each other in our pursuit for filthy lucre. People trust less and less because they see their untrustworthiness in others. Every time someone betrays another person like the Sterling case, Snowden and the many leaks, we jubilate because we think that they have given us ammunition to hurt our enemies. We do not see the evil of them betraying the other person, thereby breaking their bond. A word to turncoats or traitors; you will never live a happy life. Judas did not and Tripp didn't either. I know that Tripp deeply regrets what she did to her. but I only wish that Monica will find a place in her heart to forgive her. After all, 16-17 years later, Monica is still soaring and soaring like an eagle.  
I want to encourage whoever is reading me today to know that bond, trust and loyalty are the only keys to good friendship and happiness. If Monica Lewinsky was not a brave girl, she would have been history. She would have committed suicide because America did not forgive her, albeit she did not sin alone. She could not easily find work, love and delectation deserted her, and her name became a byword to media cycles. In a time of trial, you must be there for your friend. You must remember the bond that ties both of you together. It is a time for you to be trustworthy. It is a time for loyalty where you must fight his or her enemies off. All those who have been shamed for their mistakes should now look unto Monica Lewinsky as a survivor and learn from her.

Until then, I wish her a happy life indeed!

St Arrey of Ntenako. 

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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