Sunday, January 18, 2015

“Rev please read this. Is it acceptable for a daughter to marry her biological father, or Does the Bible condemn incest?”

“Rev please read this. Is it acceptable for a daughter to marry her biological father, or Does the Bible condemn incest?”
This article is an answer to a question about an 18 year old New Jersey woman who decides to marry her father. She was 4 years old when her father got estranged, and it lasted for 12 years when she turned 16. Her father sought her via Facebook, and she visited him when she was 16. Thenceforth, they fell in love and began to date. Some people think that it is wrong while others argue that there is nothing wrong. Christians are even decided that although it is incest, but it was only prohibited in the Old Testament, under the law, and we are no more under the law. This answer will not touch the physical and biological consequences of incest; the response will only carry the burden of proving that incest was not condemned during the pre-law dispensation, but it was condemned during the law and grace dispensations.
This story reminds me of a 14 year old who told me one time that she had a crush on her uncle that was making her go crazy. She felt like if she did not have coitus with him, she wasn’t going to be ok. I had to show her the consequences for her to reluctantly agree with me. However, this screed is to show the position of the Bible vis a vis incest. We will look at the prelaw dispensation, the law dispensation and the grace dispensation. We will also look the laws of the land.
This question is very tricky. I know that to many it seems like just say no. The reason why it is complicated is because there have been 3 known normal incestuous (kids of Adam and Eve, Abraham and Hagar and Amram and Jochebed) and two known rape incestuous cases (Lot and his daughters and Ammon and Tamar).  The kids of Adam and Eve intermarried (Gen 4). That was incest. Hagar was Abraham’s half-sister (Gen 20:12). Jochebed was Amram’s aunt (Ex 6:20). The daughters of Lot raped him (Gen 19), and Amnon raped his half-sister-Tamar (2 Samuel 13). This is all during the pre-law dispensation which was there to build the community. This dispensation brought salvation by faith. That is by fearing God and doing what is right. This same pre law dispensation is the exact position for the gentiles who did not have the law as mentioned in Romans 2:14-15. At this point, your conscience bears the witness. In this situation, their syneidesis is built by their synderesis. When there is no law, there is no sin (Rom 7:7). That can be exemplified in this way. Before 1664 when there were no miscegenation laws, whites and blacks married. Those who got married did not commit any crime because there was no law.  One can only break a law that exists. That means, at this juncture, incest was not a sin.
Incest became a sin from whence God saw that there were enough people to marry and avoid the complications that go with offspring from relatives. God outlawed it (Lev 18:6-18; 20:17; Deut 27:20-23). Therefore, God prohibited incest and made it sinful. God took the pain to detail out the different relationships. Consequently, the law prohibited incest.
Considering that we do not live under the law, we will look at incest in the New Testament. Jesus said that he did not come to abolish the law and the prophets (Mt 5:17-20). John the Baptist had condemned incest when Herod married Herodias-his brother, Philip’s wife. That condemnation will lead to John’s beheading (Mk 6:17:29). Here we see that the prophets were against incest. Paul too took a position against incest when a young man seized his father’s wife, and Paul rebuked the Corinthians for not disciplining him (I Cor 5:1-5). Someone could only be disciplined for an act of sin and not of righteousness. Jesus and the Pharisees used “fornication” as a more inclusive term for illicit sexual intercourse, including incest (Mt 5:32; 19:9; Jn 8:41). Therefore, the New Testament too condemns incest.
In states where incest is prohibited, marrying your father will automatically be prohibited because it will fall under the definition of sin (I Jn 5:17). New Jersey does not prohibit incest, so if she and her father went there, it is not against the law, but it is still morally wrong. Any act of wrong doing is a sin. Therefore, the 18 year Old’s act is against biblical norms in other states except New Jersey. Connecticut prohibits marriages but not incestuous relationships. Hence, the 18 year old will be living in sin if she married her father because it is incest and incest is prohibited in the Bible.

Until then, it is unacceptable for the daughter to marry the biological father.

St Arrey of Ntenako

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