Monday, December 1, 2014
Is Cuddling with strangers wrong?
A woman called Samantha Hess has opened a professional cuddling shop in Portland Oregon that charges $60/hour to be cuddled. People are alarmed because it seems very dysfunctional to the greatest optimum. Both strangers would exchange farts too. Hahahahaahha! I will show you the causes, why it is wrong, and how society could remedy it.
It behooves to know that she is not the first in the US. In 2012, a 29 year old woman: Jacky Samuels from Penfield New York opened her home to cuddling for $1/minute. On the website, she says that sexual arousal is perfectly normal and ok. The reason is that through it they acquire, “the level of human contact that we want or need in order to be our optimal selves.”
The first question you ask is why are they then buying for hugs and cuddling? The answer is found in this Japanese newspaper-Japan Today that was published in October 2012 with this title, “Japan’s first 'cuddle cafe' lets you sleep with a stranger for Y6, 000 an hour.” In it, they explained, “Sometimes, after a long, stressful day, there’s nothing more comforting than crawling into bed with your significant other and falling asleep in their arms.” The café will let you sleep with a stranger. How did we lose human contact?
Japan was not like that until the industrial age which separated families and kept them away from home for such a long time. After years of militarism and the colossal damages of WWII, the society went further down the drain in mores. In the US, the quest for the American Dream which is led by the Rat Race plunged the country into this individualism. The effects are cumbersome that the society seems to be crying now in a different manner.
In such societies, many people are very lonely; not having anyone to talk to, talk less of giving them a hug. We live now in a society where every act of kindness (especially from the opposite sex) has sexual overtones because people are not used to being treated kindly. Consequently, even mere greetings, hugs and friendships (platonic) are very rare. No society can live like that and be sane. Except we change, we will soon have robots to cuddle people; after all, today you have people having sex with dolls and even carrying them in their cars. Every human being wants to be loved, accepted and valued and a hug is a sign of that acceptance. The more people are enslaved to social media, the more they destroy interpersonal relationships. Things like this will keep germinating across the country.
Here are the services involved: cuddling, hugging, hair strokes, hand-holding and a plethora of cuddling positions. If nothing went beyond the naked eye, then we will not hear things like “talking is optional and pajamas are encouraged.” She sends assistants to deliver fresh hot hugs across town. One question remains; how can two strangers cuddle without emotional contacts? Any rich man who will get involved with this will be sued for rape or sexual harassment. Things like this start like that, but underneath is much more than merely cuddling. There are people who have different fetishes like massaging the feet or body of a beautiful girl, and they have orgasm. When a society starts to pay to be cuddled, then they have reached the apex of their dysfunctional behavior.
In most instances, it could be a veiled form of prostitution because no man is going to pay a girl to chat with him on the weather. The tired and lonely men could just watch the TV. When they go to meet these young women, they talk dirty, real dirty. Cuddling and sleeping with another woman who is not your wife is adultery. There is total impossibility for a real man, except he is a eunuch to cuddle a woman without coitus. At this point, the acts are tantamount to having carnal knowledge.
Cuddling with any type of person has hygienic problems. This is the easiest way to catch Ebola because if one party starts to sweat and shed tears due to nervousness or excitement, they transfer bodily fluids. Apart from Ebola, you have other diseases like hepatitis B or hepatitis C.
The Bible prescribes two ways to avert loneliness; the first is to marry (Gen 2:18; I Cor 7: 2), and the second is to create friendships (Ecc 4:11). If you marry, you can hug and cuddle your husband or wife all you want. If you are not married, you can have friends that provide the warmth that fill the emotional gap for those who just want to be cuddled without sex. A colleague once told me why he did not like talking to coworkers. He said that after you talk with them and leave, they remain behind and say that you used a bad word. Nonetheless, you should still strive to make people feel good.
One time, an elementary school teacher wrote to the parents of a pupil that their child hugs her classmates, and that is inappropriate. She told me and I encouraged her to reply to the teacher that the child was merely living her tradition because they greet with hugs to make others feel welcome and affectionate. If coworkers bonded, classmates bonded, relatives bonded, and neighbors bonded, we will not have an individual grow lonely in the midst of people. That is why you will hear students say “Mr., please give me a hug. I just need a hug.” Therefore, share a smile with people, greet those you see in and out of work, chat with your coworkers, classmates, students and neighbors. Make genuine friends and try to be there for people less they feel lonely.
Until then, beware less you encourage people to loneliness.
St Arrey of Ntenako.
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