Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Should Maria Shriver have Banned Miley Cyrus from Attending their Christmas Party?


News broke out that Maria Shriver has banned Miley Cyrus (the girlfriend of her son: Patrick Schwarzenegger) from attending their Christmas party. This is not news worthy; however, we should talk about it now that it is out here. There are serious ramifications theologically, socially and morally for us as a society. Should parents be allowed to select spouses for their children? Can a human being know the other person? Can humans know what sits in the hearts of others? In an attempt to establish answers for these questions, we will be taking a position with her actions, whether they are good or bad.
As a Christian, I would want to counsel people and say marry other Christians, yet that will be unrealistic, considering that Christian marriages are failing too just the same as non-Christian marriages and mixed marriages between Christians and non-Christians are even surviving better. One thing we have seen is that sometimes, the words may be different from what the individuals are living as was the case with Gingrich and Ted Hager. There are certain reasons why I think Miss Shriver is wrong.
Firstly, Christmas is a time when we celebrate the coming of Jesus: the Prince of peace. That is not even a good time to ban anyone from coming to your home to celebrate with you. It should be a time to invite the poor girl to your home and be a better mother to her. It is a time to pull her to your laps and counsel her. What type of a mother are you? She should think her decision over!
Secondly, by banning the girl, she showed that she was a failed parent. A parent who has succeeded in raising her own child does not need to warn the neighbor’s child; he or she talks to her own child who will hearken to her advice because her child is well brought up. If she failed to raise her child up properly, she should not blame it on Miley Cyrus. Therefore, her actions instead raise questions with her parental skills.
Thirdly, if this was happening in North Korea, we would have been calling it forced marriage or unforced marriage. By refusing her son to date Miley Cyrus, she is tacitly selecting a spouse for him. Shouldn’t kids be merely advised but allowed to date who they want? Do parents still select spouses for their children? What is the difference with forced marriages? It is the son’s personal choice to marry whom he wants, so she should not bother the young woman.
Fourthly, we should differentiate between stage props and performance from real life living. People have to make a clear dichotomy between stage props and real life. Sex sells and we know that. If Ms. Cyrus does not engage in wayward behavior, no one will see her. How many see me right here for what I do. If I began walking naked today, I will be in the news. Therefore, people should not consider the young woman as being vile simply because she dances provocatively on TV. She knows that is what will make her pocket book big, so she is doing just that. We should even commend her for being a savvy business woman.
Fifthly, we should be a society that reforms and not one that deforms. People argue that Miley Cyrus has shown very bad example on television; therefore, “she is no marriage material.” This is contrary to scripture. God who is without sin asked prophet Hosea to marry Gomer: a notorious prostitute, and he did (Hosea 1:2-3). One thing I will like for people to know is that, God has not given upon humans to decipher the hearts of others. The bible says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it (Jer. 17:9)?” There are girls who do not act as Miley, but they are ten times worse than her, and they are married simply because they are in church. Duncan said, ‘There’s no art to find the mind’s construction in the face.” (Macbeth. Act 1, Sc 4, L 12). That s Duncan talking about Cawdor. Let us say that Miley Cyrus is that bad. Couldn't it be an opportunity for the good guy to reform her? J’en suis conscient  que, “evil communication corrupt good manners,” yet this is not one of those situations. If ever there was a need, it would be to encourage her to good behavior. 
Sixth, time is the best judge. If the relationship is not going to be, time will determine that. Time has a way of breaking things apart beyond any human explanation. If she is a bad person for the guy, time will reveal it, and  they will both go their separate ways. Time is like a battle ax that cuts opens the road for you to see afar. 
Therefore, Ms. Shriver is wrong banning her. She should not be the scapegoat of her failed parenting, and she should not choose who her son should marry based on television performance. That is too synthetic and superficial for a woman of her caliber. I have always loved and respected her; albeit, sometimes good people do stupid things, and this is one of them! Let those who consider themselves morally better than her encourage the young woman unto good works and not quarantine her unto Satan’s shrine.Time has a way of sorting out the chaffs from the wheat and the goat from the sheep.

Until then, let us not judge for the same judgment may await us.

St Arrey of Ntenako.





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