Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Are women really safe in America?


My heart bleeds every day I read news like this. Even countries who are fighting wars do not have 32 people killed in 15 days, excluding non-fatal shootings as what just happened in Detroit, Michigan, USA.[1] I have been pondering this over and over and over again each time I read the news, so I thought I should narrow it to women. Young women in their primes are plucked off the tree of life by evil men. The rate at which women are killed in America; a supposedly civilized society is frightening. Could you imagine if this was happening in another country? More women have been killed by their partners since 9/11.[2] You even have American organizations in Latin and Central America fighting for women equality and liberation. I don’t want to depress anyone this morning, so I will keep some horrid numbers to myself. Nonetheless, I will tell you what this country needs to do.
I don’t know if it is the society, the schools or failure to ensure personal responsibility. For example, how does 18 year old Hannah Graham meet a man at a bar, drinks with him, gets drunk and then leaves with him?[3] Granted that the man who killed her is a monster, but why did she drink that late at a bar and then even worst of it all left with him again? These were basic lessons we were taught as we were growing up. You should never leave with a stranger. If anyone evokes personal responsibility, the modern society calls it blaming the victim. That is why the young people nowadays do not learn. The truth is that everybody in this world is not nice, so you should protect yourself. Another example is when the religious folks refuse their kids from carrying condoms or hearing about sexually transmissible diseases because they should not have sex anyway until they are adults. It is as if they believe the world is a perfect place. It is not a surprise that the Red States who believe that way are then the ones with the highest number of teenage pregnancies and even abortions. There is such a personal responsibility called prevention. Parents and teachers, in short the society should teach them that.
The first thing is to integrate streetwise knowledge into the curriculum. Count how many women have been killed this year for turning down the advances of men. 27 year old Mary spears was shot and killed for refusing to give her number to a man who asked for her number and she refused.[4] Just last week a student asked me if a woman has ever rejected me or turned down my advances. He told me that he feels very hurt when he is turned down and feels like he should kill himself. I told him that if every time a woman turned me down, I went and killed myself, I would have died and resurrected several times. These are things that kids need to know as they grow up. It is ok to be turned down. Every woman is not going to accept you, so it is ok for her not to give you her number. 
I always tell women, give it and if you do not like them, you block them. Why put yourself in harm’s way when technology has made things very easy nowadays. Unfortunately, most schools do not know that it is high time to integrate streetwise knowledge into their curriculum. Parents should teach their daughters that it is unsafe to drink and get drunk on your first date or with people you do not know. If you meet a man or woman outside, call your friend or close confidante and let them know where you are. You could also tell the man or woman that you have given their number to your friend or relative that way they know that someone is monitoring them.  Except we teach our kids streetwise wisdom, we will go nowhere with the draconian laws because many still fail to integrate the letter of the law and the spirit of the law.
That is the second reason why you have many women being murdered. I visited some sexual offenders one time, and one of them told me how his offense was just touching a lady. He lamented that he should have raped and killed her for him to really suffer because his punishment does not fit his crime. Consequently, my suggestion to the society is that, we must do all to integrate any convict who has served their time. To quarantine sexual offenders does not protect the society. When they know that they cannot really do a decent job or live normally amongst people, crime is easy to become a walking partner than perseverance. Is it not disheartening to see a man kill 7 women just like that?[5] Granted he is a serial killer, but there is a motivation.  The hopelessness and despair if he is caught for perhaps raping. 
This is sad for a seeming advanced society! Why are American organizations in Latin and Central America when we have such an epidemic here? Shouldn't charity begin at home, or shouldn't they remove the logs from their own eyes before trying to remove the dust from those of other countries? More American men are seeking foreign women for marriage and bringing them into the country. That is sad and pathetic when you realize that there are many beautiful women too in this country. Now, tell me how they could protect those here with them when they do not see any value in them? Let us get down to the basics as a society to teach personal responsibility and tolerance.

Until then, I wish that women will be protected more.

St Arrey of Ntenako.  



“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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