Thursday, April 10, 2014


Simply put, most Americans are very dysfunctional, preferring a life of pomposity and Carpe diem. A very artificial and synthetic people whose good works are drummed mostly in the face of a camera. Listen to one of them, “As a working mother who has had issues finding child care, my heart goes out to Ms. Taylor.” These people live like the African golden cat which lives and dies alone. It is alleged that Shanesha Taylor was arrested for child endangerment because she left her kids in sweltering heat to attend an interview. Americans are alarmed that she was arrested, and they are raising money to help her. I guess with already $91,000 and more raised to support her, she can now support herself and her kids for the next 2 years. However, what about comrades in suffering who wear her very shoes but are in the media dustbin? Who raises money too for them? This act, albeit benevolent, does not even solve the problem; it merely shows how dysfunctional the society is. This is bad for society, bad for America and bad for the world.

There are bigger issues that Americans must face. Every sane society knows that it takes a village to raise up a child. How abrupt was her interview? Did Shanesha not know a relative, a friend or even a neighbor and no church in which she could drop her kids just for a day or talk less of a few hours? The excuse may be that she is homeless. If she had built a community, she would not have been homeless with two kids. If a man or woman is living like an island, then therein lies the dysfunction. 

Most of these women fight to keep kids mainly for child support, even if they are unable to cater for them. They also know that by keeping the kids, they can qualify for food stamps and other state provided amenities. It is more about themselves than the kids because in countries where there is no child support, mostly the men keep the kids. That is why no one should even ask about the father(s) of the kids. Like Kathleen Sidoniasked, “If she couldn't find a sitter for an interview, what exactly did she plan on doing with her children if she actually obtained the job??” Shanesha is not alone in exhibiting this dysfunction.

In July of 2013, Keri Engholm “left her 7-month-old daughter die after being accidentally left in a minivan while she rushed off to attend meetings.” ABC reported that Earlier that month, “a Southern California foster mother left a 3-year-old girl in a sport utility vehicle for 15 minutes and she died. In May, a Colorado woman left her 13-month-old son strapped in a baby seat while she went to work at a McDonald's. In March, a Texas woman returned to her car after a day at work at a shopping mall to find her 5-month-old son dead.” In January, 2014, Alicia D Brown “left her four-year-old child in a casino parking lot for eight hours.”

If she was a good person, she would not have lacked even a neighbor to keep her kids. Let us say that she did not have relatives around her. Doesn’t she have even a single friend? Doesn’t she have even a single neighbor? In a great society that functions well, a relative, former colleague, a friend, or a neighbor could sit with your kids. Nay, it cannot be because women like Tanesha will not even greet their neighbors. They do not create any platonic relationships. They are the type of women who do not even answer when their neighbors greet them. Nevertheless, the dysfunction does not end with her; it goes beyond.

The passersby who saw the kid crying probably knew that the woman was in one of those offices. In a normal society; I mean where everyone is caring and it takes a village to raise up a child, they will go to the front office and ask them to announce that the person whose kids are in the car should come and attend to them because they are crying. Oh, no, they feel unattached to her pain. Their first reaction is call the police because the monster of a woman has left her child in this scorching heat. These people are even kind enough. Others will take out their cellphones, take pictures and make videos and then place them on YouTube as funny videos of kids crying. Do you see how dysfunctional our society has become?

The police then arrested the mother for her wickedness. In a normal society where it takes a village to raise up a child, the police will look for the mother and then tell her to take the child back home and try to look into her situation. Paul said, “The letter of the law kills, but the spirit vivifies” (2 Cor 3:6). It is not for nothing that the nexus for adjudicating jurisprudence is equity. The police is a civil institution meant to protect society and not terrorize it. Everyone time and again could have a lapse in judgment and could also forget even their most prized possession. God himself acknowledges that even a suckling mother can forget her child (IS 49:15). Notwithstanding, the woman is already arrested.

In a normal society, the facts of the case do not show any negligence; they show a lack of shrewdness. Society should have been to reform and rehabilitate; instead we now live in a time when everyone wants to condemn and maim the other. Shouldn’t the prosecutors instead see how they could help her out of her situation rather than file charges? None of them knows how she feeds those children. Even people who did not care about her homelessness will be showing care because the camera is there. Some may argue that she is on food stamps. How much food stamps could actually help her and her kids? These are questions that a normal society should be asking.

Therefore, the solution to averting opprobrium like that of Shanesha is for people to build solid communities, by first building their families. I just don’t understand why so many Americans do not talk to their families. They spend more time on the internet and social media with fictional friends and families (like those found on Facebook) more than they do with their real families. If her relatives were talking to her, there would have been a solution. I have called people in other countries and other states to give lodging to someone in need because I had a relationship with those people. Americans, listen to me; to build a happy and strong society, we must build better families because a better family will build a better society.

Until then, that is my Pamplemouse for you; you can squeeze and drink or do with it as it pleases you.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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