Saturday, January 25, 2014

Ladies Are You Waiting For Your Boaz?





There is a false doctrine called “waiting for your Boaz" where women wait for their soulmates or their right husbands. Well, I am sorry to let you all know that firstly, Ruth made the move for Boaz to see her by going to work for him in the field (Ruth 2: 1). Secondly, she went to sleep at his feet for him to redeem her (Ruth 3:8).  That was faith as it is defined, "Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Heb 11:1)." You must know that not making any move while you wait for your Boaz is either faithlessness or presumptuousness because, “without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him (Heb 11:6)." What attracted Boaz to Ruth was her faithfulness which gave her a good testimony or report (Ruth 2: 11-12). Let me put an excerpt from my book: Chasing Princess Brigette Hager.

   There are at least four ways in which people got married in biblical times. In the Bible,  we       see different approaches. Firstly, the parents could decide for the kids like when         Hagar       selected for Ishmael (Gen 21:21), Abraham through his servant selected a wife for Isaac (Gen 24), Laban does same for his daughters (Gen 24, 38:6, Gen 29) and Mr. and Mrs. Manoah did same for Samson (Judges 14;2). Secondly, the man could make the first move (Gen 29 and Gen 2). Thirdly, the woman could make the first move (Gen 38:11-30; Ruth 3). Yesteryears customs restricted women from taking a forthcoming approach but nowadays women have been emancipated to be more forthcoming. In some cases too, daughters were given to marriage by the edicts of the king (Est. 2:2-4, 8-14).Wives could also be gotten by purchase (Gen 29:20; Ruth 4:10; Hosea 3:2; 12:12) or by kidnapping (Judges 21:21-23). Nowadays, the last two will not pass through the legal eye of most nations, but I still had to include them for elucidations.

As we all know, God does not select a spouse for anyone. I have elaborated that in Chasing Princess Brigette Hager. While the Bible encourages the faithful to wait in patience, they cannot let their oil run out. Making the move does not mean that the woman initiates the move; it simply means that she makes herself available. There are many women who are too busy to date. Others are dreaming about fairytale husbands in fairylands. 
I met a teacher one time in one school. She gave a request in a teacher’s launch that she would love a boyfriend for Christmas gift. Having many of these single guys asking me to introduce them to a great woman, I asked her if she had some time to hang out, but she told me that she was too busy. I am sure that she is too busy waiting for Boaz on the internet dating sites. What a waste of human resources!
It is inconceivable that people still want to apply the culture of yesteryears in a world of technology. Not even in biblical times was wooing ligated to men alone, so why do people want it to be so now? With the invention of internet and the progress of technology, women and men could sit in the comfort of their rooms to meet people. Hellas, some want to stay forever serial daters. The saddest ones are those who are waiting for their Boaz, even with their poor etiquettes. 
Without works, faith is dead. It is no surprise that many will find themselves reenacting the book "Waiting For Godot" as they eternally wait for a Boaz they will never see. If you want a man, make yourself available so men can see you, meet you and date you. All else you do is building imaginary scrappers. After some time, age will remind you that you did not have one.  If you dream everyday of meeting your Boaz, but you are growing old without one, then you should wake up from sleep because just like poverty overtakes the sluggard, singlehood will overtake those women waiting for their Boaz but hide behind the veil of their computers. 

Until then, I hope many women will wake up form sleep. 

St Arrey of Ntenako.




“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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