Friday, November 29, 2013

Should Pastors Bless Children Conceived Out of Wedlock?



Sometimes it is difficult to condone or condemn the action of a pastor who refuses to bless a child conceived out of wedlock because it could imply that the pastor encourages premarital sex, or by refusing to bless a child conceived out of wedlock could also mean that the pastor holds the child responsible for the sin. Remember the mother brought the child to be blessed and not herself. It is no fault of the child that he was conceived out of wedlock. It is not that I disagree with the pastor and other pastors who do it, it is just that they are wrong. There are four reasons why they are wrong, and I will explain below. Firstly, blessing children is a biblical tradition. Secondly, Jesus came for the sinners and not for the righteousness. Thirdly,  Jesus himself indiscriminately blessed children and finally, God does not discriminate in his blessings.


1.      Biblical tradition.
According to Jewish tradition, every male child had to be taken to the temple in Jerusalem to be blessed and set apart by the priest on the eighth day of them being born. For that reason, Jesus was presented to Simeon (Lk 2:21-38). Simeon blessed the child and gave a word of prophecy for the child. Why didn’t the man of God just bless the child if he could not prophecy? That edict to bring the male children on their eighth day did not hinge on perfection or condition. They needed just to be males. God was going to take care of the redemptive and salvific part. If she was unwed and conceived, the pastor should still bless the child but rebuke the mother for living in sin so he may know that it is not right, rather than refuse to bless the child. By not blessing the child, the pastor was not even holding the woman accountable; he was holding the child accountable.
Taking your child to the pastor for blessings is not bringing your child to the wrong person. It is a biblical practice  because Jesus himself and John The Baptist were taken to the man of God in their days to be blessed (Lk 1:76-77 ).
It was the issue of membership that made the Catholic Church to start baptizing kids because by baptizing kids, they kept a future membership drive that they could not have when the kids were old and not baptized in church.

2.      Jesus Came for the Sinners and not the righteous (Lk 5:27-32).
Jesus although had no sin but came for the sinners. Some people argue that Jesus himself was conceived by an unwed mother. That is untrue! Mary was espoused to Joseph. Espoused is a synonym for bethrodal which was as binding as marriage (Deut 22:22-23-24). Take note of the usage, “betrothed unto an husband” (V. 23) and “because he has humbled his neighbor’s wife” (V. 24). She was not yet living with him, but she was his wife because since women were given out for marriage before they were waned, they had to live with their parents until they attained full puberty. Mary was a virgin, but she was not single.  Therefore, the comparison of Mary conceiving as a single mom is false. More so, her conception was immaculate.
Jesus did not come for the righteous; he came for the sinners. Lk 5:27-32. Jesus came for the sick and not those who are whole. Even if that child and her mom won the sinners prize, it was the place of the pastor to bless not only the child but the mom too. Jesus in several occasions showed that there was nothing inherently wrong with associating with sinners, talk less of blessing them. He lived with the Samaritans for two days (Jn 4: 40-43) at a time when the Jew did not want to catch the Samaritan. He accepted an invitation to Zacchaeus’ (a well hated tax collector) house wherein he partook in the meals in his honor. He accepted the treatment from Mary Magdalene: a well known prostitute.

3.      Jesus Himself indiscriminately blessed Children (Mt 10:13-14)
 In the scene where kids were brought for Jesus to bless them, there are three things we should note. Firstly, he rebuked those who were hindering the kids from coming. Secondly, he reinforced that their childlike nature was a prerequisite to receive the kingdom of God. Finally, He merely blessed them.
The truth about it is that nowadays Ecclesiastes 10:19 is as true as it was yesteryears because if that woman was wealthy, the same pastor would have gone to her home to bless the child. Did you all not see Tyler Perry blessing T D Jakes on TV? Could a poor man had crossed the 5.5 meter box of Rev Jakes, talk less of laying his hands on him? The church today is all about money and wealth!


4.      God does not discriminate in his blessings (Mt 5: 45).
He blesses both the wicked and the righteous. By stating this beatitude, Jesus established that we should do good to everyone, no matter their social or spiritual condition. Actually, it becomes a sin when the pastor refuses to do it because if you know how to do good and do not do it, it is a sin (James 4:17).  God showed it himself by allowing the rain to fall on the wicked and the righteousness too.  By showing love, it shows that we are the children of God who is love itself.  Refusing to bless the child lacked both love and kindness on the side of the man of God. I am always flabbergasted how the American pastors always say that they love God, but they hate human beings. How can you love God you do not see when you cannot love man you see? It is alleged that the pastor has a school. Does he admit only kids born out of a wedded family, or does he accept the kids from the unwed families too? If so, is holiness only in church or it is a process that encompasses our entire being in and out of the church?  
By insisting that until a couple is married their children would not be blessed, we imply that every child brought by a couple is really theirs. Why then do we have the words Sancho in Spanish and cuckold in English? Therefore, those who are turning these kids away due to the faults of their parents are against the bible because their fail to heed to  Ezekiel 18:20, “The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him.”

Until then, ministers are supposed to bless whoever wants to be blessed.

St Arrey of Ntenako.




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