Thursday, April 26, 2012

Perpetua: The Story of Most Women.

Perpetua’s father was from Fundong, and her mother was from Tombel or some Bakundu village where the people eat only pepper, pepper, and pepper. Perhaps because of her mixed parentage, she always stood between the South Westerners and North Westerners. If a South Westerner said something provincialist against the North Westerner, she will say, “even you too?” She was beautiful, intelligent and morally rich. Many men fantasized about her except for Fai. He told us that even if Perpe (diminutive for Perpetua as she was popularly called) was given to him for free, he will not take her.  He meant that even if Perpetua’s parents did not want the bride price, he will not accept her because he will have to be fighting her with other men, and he was not ready for that. “I don’t like a woman that every man likes.” He emphasized!
 It was my responsibility as their leader to guide them in the choices they made. We had a brother called Sama in our group. He liked Perpe, but she considered him incompatible. She only liked him as a friend or brother in Christ but no more.  Perpe was living with one of her aunts in Bambui village, so she lived in the hinterland itself. After school or church, Sama will accompany her to her house almost daily. We all thought she will marry him, but Perpe vowed never to. She did not like runts. Sama will say, “Yes, Perpe, I know, but I have not stopped growing, and I am not suffering from any bone disease that will prevent me from growing. We are still just 18.”  She didn’t like non athletic guys. “Perpe, are those playing football with ten legs? Don’t they have two legs like me too? I will learn.” He will plead his case smilingly. No matter his plaidorie, Perpetua had reenacted the Chinese proverb that said, “If a man wants to do something, he will give a thousand reasons, and if he did not want to do it, he will still give a thousand reasons.”
I used to have a crush on Perpe but when I saw Sama’s dedication to win her, I felt like God will never forgive me if I took Perpe from Sama. Instead, I tried to help Sama to marry Perpe. I told her that God wanted them to be together. “Please brother Arrey; don’t break my heart” Perpe echoed. “I don’t want to marry him.” She pled as if it was Prince Nico’s “Na My choice”.
When Perptual was going to Bamenda, it was brother Sama who trekked with her for perhaps 2:45 mins. When she had problems with her registration, it was brother Sama who went with her to Yaoundé.  He went to her class every morning to tell her good morning.  When Perpe was sick, it was Sama who slept with her in the hospital for two weeks. He was so into Perpe that gainsayers called him woman wrapper. Unbelievers said he was the nadir of the aphorism “monkey di work baboon di chop.” I had advised Sama not to give up, so his persistence made others to think that Perpe had bewitched him. I used to say, “Sama, good things do not come easily especially because women and pendulums are synonyms. She may swing one day to you. One day, one day, Perpe will knock at your door” I will add impetus!
Unfortunately, when a Bambui guy who worked and lived in Bamenda came to town, his uncle took him to church. He fell for Perpe and swept her off her feet. He was tall, athletic, economically buoyant and the talk of both the town and village. All qualities Perpe fantasized about in her subconscious and conscious nature.  They got married in  late 1991. Sadly, I had graduated and left Bambui.
In 1992, I was on my way to Bambui to visit the brethren I left there. I stopped at Sister Sally’s house in Bamenda. As I was eating the rice and drinking the Top Anana she served, she asked me, “Brother Arrey,” as we were accustomed to calling each other, “did you know sister Perpetua?” I said “Yes, who doesn’t know Perpe.” “She is in the hospital and we don’t know if she will even get well. We have been praying for her but now that you have come, please let us go, so you will pray for her.” Sally informed me. I quickly stopped a taxi, and we went there. At the hospital, the nurses refused that we should see her, except her relatives. I told them that I was her pastor, and I have come to pray for her. We went in, and once she saw us, she smiled and called, “brother Arrey, Sister Sally” in such a faint voice.  She had bruises all over her face, her hand and head were bandaged liked Lazarus from the grave, and her feet were suspended as if she had a car accident where she was the only survivor. 
I asked Perpe what happened. She said one word, “Andrew” and began crying. Sally said, “Brother Andrew na yi massa.” I felt so bad as she sobbed the more, fighting these words through her tears, “Brother Arrey, I should have listened to you.  Before you entered, you came to my spirit, and I remembered how you used to say ‘marry the person who loves you most and not the one you love most. The one who loves you most will feel like they do not merit you and will treat you like their only world.’” I smiled and little pride entered into me that one of my prophecies was fulfilled. That is how much we were close as brethren that our spirits communicated together. Then she continued, “This morning, my younger sister told me that she went to our house to take some of my clothes, and Andrew had a girl there. His girlfriend said my sister must knock before entering the house.” For more than a month that I am here, Andrew has been here only once; I mean, one time brother Arrey.”
I muttered that those were grounds for divorce; abandonment and infidelity. Sister Sally quickly interrupted me that “the bible is against divorce.” I smiled and asked Perpe if she was in contact with Sama. She said she did not know his whereabouts, but Sally interjected that she had met him sometime at Mbengwi Market. I said “we could go there right now.’ So we went there, and Sama had his small secretariat he did documents. He was too elated to see us. I told him that Perpe was barely hanging on her life. He shuddered as if a part of him was in trouble. “Which hospital is she?” He asked. I told him. He quickly closed his store, and we left for the hospital. When we saw Perpe and she saw Sama, she almost jumped from her bed to embrace him, but the nurse stopped her, “Perpe it is not time for you to start standing.” She was just too happy to see Sama again. Thenceforth, Sama took over the visitation and even part of the hospital bill. Miraculously and graciously, the Lord healed her that she even became more beautiful.
In 2001, when I went home, they had already been married for eight years, and they are still happily married today. They had written me a letter telling me how grateful they were for the role I played in creating their terrestrial felicity. They said, “Brother Arrey, marriage is sweet. We don’t know why some people are not happy in their own marriages.” Sama’s shortcomings that Perpe saw have been conquered by his love, acceptance and value for her that they lived a happy life because Perpe married the person who loved her most and not the one she loved best. 
It is divine and natural for men to run after women and not the other way round. Perpe finally had someone who adored her because he felt he did not merit her. Marriage relationship is like the relationship between Christ and the church. Christ loved the church and died for her, the man should love the woman and be ready to die or her. If a man is beating you up, cheating on you, and treating you badly, he will never give a pint of his blood for you. That is not a good relationship. On the other hand too, the woman must submit to the husband as if she was submitting to God; that is why Sarah called Abraham, "My Lord." Therefore, if a woman sees herself running after a man, she should consult the oracles because something is grievously wrong with her. Can you remember someone who was ready to die for you? Go and call them or go to the net and write them now. Don’t let their shortcomings purloin your earthly bliss! That will be shortsighted!

Until then, insist more on people’s strengths than their shortcomings.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Ta Joe And Edimoley.

Behind Pharmacie Du Rail lived two friends. Ta Joe was from Dschang while Edimoley was from Ebolowa.  They were both in between 5.1 and 5.3 in height. They had lived in Douala for more than 20 years that they spoke more Pidgin than French and English. Except you knew them personally, you will always think that they were Anglophones. Both were very smart gentlemen when alcohol was away from them. If they ventured out together, they must fight. They were very very mischievous whether under the influence of alcohol or sobriety. I had visited Edimoley in his rewinding workshop where he repaired fridges, irons, compressors and other hydraulic motors. One Bafoussam woman came to him to repair the motor of her grinding machine. Edimoley asked her to give him money so he could buy her the parts, but she refused because she did not trust technicians. As a result, she went to buy it herself. Behind, Edimoley told me that he was still going to cheat her. He told me that these Bamileke women always think that they are smart. He advised me to watch how he was going to escheat her of her new part.
The woman quickly came back with smiles, happy that she just bought a new part. Edimoley smiled with the corners of his mouth foreshadowing mischief. He took the tiny part up, and the woman looked up. He brought it down, and the woman looked down. He took it up again, and the woman’s eyes followed. He brought it down, and she too looked down. At that point, he began to repeat the process until the women’s eyes got wearied that she could no more repeat the up and down movement. He quickly exchanged it with the old one that was by the side. After all, the old one was not even bad, the machine needed just some washers. He will later sell the new part to the next customer.
Ta Joe on the other hand was a builder. He built embankment walls. Unlike Edimoley, Ta Joe did his job very well and with honesty. He was happy to work and happier when the customer was satisfied. However, his lack of proper education always landed him into trouble even when Edimoley was the cause.
On July 21, 1988, Ta Joe and Edimoley went to a sack cloth removal ceremony. Both were drunk as was their habit of getting drunk in every party they attended. Edimoley started a fight and bottles were flying from one end to the other, tables landing on surfaces and women and even some men screaming for their dear lives as they rushed out for cover. There were 4 guys on Edimoley, so Ta Joe fearing for his life, went to Commissariat 6eme (just opposite Hotel Arista) to report the matter and bring the police.
Ta Joe liked to speak English, but I doubt if English liked for him to speak it. He said, “I have my friend in dangjey (as they pronounced danger in French). When he drinks, he behaves, but when I drink, I don’t behave.” Behave to have meant misbehave while don’t behave means behaving well. They asked him why he was not behaving. They kept beating him and asking him if he was not going to behave again. Ta Joe will scream, “I nodi behave, na Edimoley di always behave sah.” The police officer asked him once more “why you no di behave”. Ta Joe said “because I di respect myself sah. Na my friend nodi behave sah”. The police officers misunderstood him and instead took him for the trouble maker. They beat the more and locked him up.
Then the police officers went to the fight area, and eyewitnesses said they have sent someone who knows how the fight began to come and call for the police, but he has not come back. They told them that the trouble maker has gone home. One of the police officer’s realizing they were holding the wrong guy said, “Il parait –il qu’on a enfermé la mauvaise personne (it seems we have the wrong person).” So they hurriedly went and released Ta Joe.
When Ta Joe came home the next day, we asked him why he was locked up. He narrated that he told the officers that “when me I drink, I nodi behave, but when Edimoley drink I di behave.” We all understood the police officers did not know that behave was a parlance which meant misbehavior. For example, it was common for someone who was angry to ask you, “Do you want me to behave here?” What they actually meant was, “do you want me to misbehave here?” Students at times always said “I no behave for that test” which meant they did not do well. So locking ta Joe up was a miscarriage of justice and lack of touch police officers because he was actually the better person of the two.

Until then, do not behave when you drink, for it may land you in jail.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Sunday, April 22, 2012

“Are Weddings Ungodly Traditions or Traditions of Men?”

This question concerns almost everyone. Even if you are married already, you will give out for marriage or attend a wedding. A wedding is the ceremony in which a male and female actually come together ceremoniously to pronounce their vows openly in the presence of witnesses as a testament of their love. During a wedding, people exchange vows. It is a symbol of their commitment unto death. The wedding day tradition of parents walking their children unto the altar to abandon them to the groom or bride is a symbol of sacrifice. That is why elopements should be discouraged because they make the child a buffer sacrifice; meanwhile, every sacrifice must be offered by the owner or next of kin. Marriage is a covenant where both the groom and bride are sacrificed to produce one flesh. Theretofore the wedding, they become one unto death, and they start to build a new family. Some do it in secret while others do it in plum and pump. Some organize it in church while others do it on the beach. Some do it in the forest while others do it the desert.  Notwithstanding, there remains one lingering question; "are weddings ungodly traditions or traditions of men?"
            It depends!
Nowadays, it has become a wastage mill whereby people expend not only financial resources but human resources that leave some indebted for a very long time.  There are varying traditions surrounding weddings.  In matriarchal societies like amongst the Asians especially the Indians, and westerners, the parents of the bride spend; meanwhile, in patriarchal cultures like in Africa, the parents of the groom spend to make that day a memorable day for their child.  The conclusion is that everyone is spending. Yet, is that godly?
We determine if something is godly depending on what position the word of God tilts on. Wedding falls under ceremonies, and Israel had ceremonial laws (Ex 34:25-26; Lev 19:1-37). Those ceremonial Israeli laws are not the same as the moral laws, popularly known as the Ten Commandments (Ex 20:3-17; Deut 5 7:22) because they (ceremonial laws) do not transcend cultures. Consequently, the Bible is not that explicit on wedding ceremonies, although it shows giving into marriage. Nowadays, cultures have given new meanings to what a wedding is. Therefore, we will instead look at some wedding practices in different cultures to see which elements are godly and which ones are not as the notion of wedding is not inherently righteous or inherently evil.
Weddings are not intrinsically malevolent else Jesus would not have attended one. His first miracle was turning water into wine in a wedding at Cana. Some people consider the day as the most important and others do not. While there is no injunction against holidays, there are guidelines to manage days of feasting in our lives as God must be the center of them (Rom 14:5-9). In whatever we do, we are to do it for the glory of God (I Cor 10:31).
If you have the money, spend it, but if you do not, do not borrow. It is sorrow to borrow!  God does not want you to be involved in debts. Borrowing to organize a wedding is a sinful tradition. Make a simple wedding according to your means. I doubt that God will take the glory that you spend all the money you would have raised up your kids just for a wedding. Some people borrow money and wed, then divorce and leave themselves with insurmountable debts. Would God take glory in that? Some people organize a wedding and on that day, they drink and get drunk. In some traditions, the groom and bride sleep with a stranger for the last time. Some have ended up knitting their spirits with the last person they had sex with on that wedding night. The way you celebrate your wedding may add to your happiness in marriage or be a premonition for imprecation and unhappiness. Some people have ruined their marriages on the wedding day because they kept God out of its celebration. Everything you do in life should be for the glory of God who gave you the opportunity to even live, and perhaps wed.
            Do you want a happy marriage? Then involve God in your wedding.  I am not saying you must celebrate your wedding in church because some churches are dens of thieves and temples of Satan than are of God’s house.  I am saying that everything you do during and after that day as is with your whole life,  should be for the glory of God. Do you wonder why some people wed today and divorce tomorrow? God was not the wedding planner!
Making church weddings compulsory as some churches are doing is the doctrine of men (Mk 7:13). God simply does not want anyone to be alone, but He has given you the privilege to celebrate it where and how you want. Loneliness is not a good thing( Gen 2;24) and to avoid fornication, everyone should get their own spouse (I Cor 7: 2), even though some of you are never satisfied until you sleep with someone else’s spouse. Yes, some of you are EVIL. You are called home wreckers! Am I now your enemy because I tell you the truth? Relax! People wed as a sign of commitment.
It rests to see if people even keep that commitment anymore.  You can do the exchange in a church or out of church; it does not matter.  If you regard the church as the preferred locale, then do it. Nonetheless, it is preposterous to think that until you celebrate your wedding in a church, God will not bless you. What about those cultures with no churches? What about the weddings before the existence of churches? What if in your village there is no church? Shouldn’t the people wed?  God is the blesser of marriages and the one joining the people together. As you know, the wedding is a mere ceremony. Once the two people have made their vows to each other in private, they are married. Any other thing that comes thereafter is a ceremony and left for everyone to handle as they want as they come public to seek the endorsement of witnesses,
However, whether a wedding took place or not, it does not peter out the existence of a marriage again because a wedding is a mere ceremony just like baptism. Whether there is baptism or not, it does not annul the existence of repentance and salvation. As a wedding is a mere symbol which is an occasion for witnesses to show their support for you. 
          The absence of a wedding is not a license for cohabitation in the sense that, you cannot simply move in with a boyfriend or girlfriend and call that marriage. Before we call any union marriage, it must be between male and female, the two must make a vow unto death before God and then must have the presence of witnesses. Once that is done, the rest is ceremonious but consequential.

Until then, wed if you can, but do not sweat about it if you cannot.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." "Women reject me all the time and I don't open hell for them, but when I reject one, immediately she opens hell for me to enter thereafter." Hamilton Ayuk Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Judith Bushfaller.

 “You see that Judith like that, we grew up in the same house. We ate in the same plate. Her mother and my mother were best friends.” A pale voice in a slender body echoed. “Boy, let me tell you if you don’t know. When we were little, we used to go to the farm together.” He continued. It would seem he had a lot in his stomach that he wanted to throw out. After all; don’t our people say that the porcupine has hidden things in its stomach until its entrails have been embittered?  His friend too, a man with similar stature listened as if the priest was ready to make an ablution. Time and again he will interject intermittently a question or a provocative comment. “Obab is that how you were with that girl?” “Do you know the stream that is just behind that coconut bush?” Obab boastfully asked. “We used to go and swim there.” He pointed to a river on his left. “Sometimes we did mami and papa too.” Obab narrated to assert himself. “Massa, you too be don worry oh (boy, you have been the man)?” His friend praised him. “Na small one (is it small). I be di shake shake shake (I have animated the place).” He uttered his braggadocios. "But, na nyango that since wey i don go Etas, i don forget me (But that is the lady, since she went to the United states, she has forgotten me)." Obab lamented. “Boy, you di learn nga dem da so (man, you are only learning women)." His friend amplified the evil nature of women.
Judith went to the US with a Green Card, and she was braiding hair in one salon. Judith did not have a trade, and she did not have a career. How were they expecting her to start sending them money is only God alone who knows. More so, Judith was only one, they who are left at home are many. They can each remember her, but she cannot remember all of them. They should be the ones to contact her and say “Judith please don’t forget me. Instead, they assume that Judith should remember all her friends, relatives and neighbors. Even if she remembered everybody, she could not call everybody. So Judith had to stay in touch with those who stayed in touch and forget those who did not. The pressures of moving to a new place, and the pressures of the family and friends expecting money from her became cumbersome. Judith lived abroad, but her physiognomy was like that of a grandmother in the village.
Then on Tuesday, January 12, 2009 one of her friends called her. “ Allo, allo, allo allo, and Judith answered, “ yes, allo, yes, allo.”  “Na Obab, na Obab” (It is me Obab, it is me Obab). He seemed to be repeating everything as if Judith going overseas is now deaf. “My mami eh Obab, you still dey alive so?” (Oh gosh, Obab, you are still alive).  Judith exclaimed. “Why shouldn’t I? You cannot just go there and forget your own people like that. Even if I was too small like an ant, you should not have forgotten me.” Obab expressed his anger.” “Weh Obab, nice to hear from you again. I am happy for you.” She added. “Judith, you would have heard that I was dead already. I mean since you went to America then everything began falling apart for me. You know my mother passed away. My uncle’s brother who was like his father also died. Oh, did you know that my other sister who was always insulting you like that, she too just died. Then now my mom just passed away.”  “ weh Obaba, you have too much badluck. Weh obab, ashia. I am so sorry.” Judith consoled him. “Judith, that is why I called you. What are we going to do again? Now is not the time to cry; it is a time to mourn. Please, I am the first boy, and I want to make the death celebrations for all these people before you hear that I am mad. If I did not remember that I had a friend like you in America, I should have killed myself.” Obab told Judith.  
“So Judith are you married now?” He asked trying to find out if he could sweettalk Judith into thinking he was interested in her. “I am also still single.” Judith remembered their childhood, adolescent, and teenage days. She thought how Obab used to provide for her and defend her. She has had some men in between but none was like Obab. She said, “Obab, I will send you some money tomorrow.” “Judi, Judi , that is my girl. Hahahahaha” he laughed a loud.  “Judith, I knew that you will never forget me.” Obab sang her flummery. To Judth, one good turn deserves another. It was not that she had forgotten her cronies and relatives; it was just that she could not think of all of them. They needed to reposition themselves into her mind because the worries of the foreign land shortened her memory.

Until then, if someone you know traveled, you should call or write them to stay in touch.

St Arrey of Ntenako.   
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." "The world of love is unequal because women reject men all the time and men don't open hell for them, but when a man rejects a woman, immediately she opens hell for him to enter thereafter." Hamilton Ayuk
 Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Thursday, April 19, 2012

When The Blood Of The Innocent Flows On The Carpet Of The Sparrow Hawk.

When news broke out on April 16, 2012, that former Prime Minister Ephraim Inoni and Marafa Hamidou Yaya have been transported to the Yaoundé Central Prison in Kondengui, it was with mixed feelings; those in support and those against. To all or most, it was full of surprises as it was the first for a former prime minister to be locked up. Those who rejoice at their demise feel justified for them allying with the regime to mete out repression and others feel anyone that has worked with the regime should be sent into a special dungeon. Many think the accusations are justified and thumb their chests that “it was just a matter of when and not if.” It is surprising to see that Cameroonians have not realized the falsehood of Biya’s Operation Sparrow Hawk. In my first treatise, I had heralded the falsity and intend to unfold more with this current saga. It is alleged that both Chief Ephriam Inoni and Marafa Yaya are locked up because of the Albatross Affair. Here are some questions to start with. Should the aircraft have been bought at all? Why was the $31 M aircraft being bought via a third party? How much did these guys embezzle, and why did it take so long for them to be indicted and charged? Has there been due process in their detention? Those are the questions I will answer briefly. Why are Chief Ephraim Inoni and Marafa Yaya locked? 
Like I told you earlier in that Operation sparrow Hawk and Albatross do not sleep onthe same bed. There is a reason other than embezzlement why Ephraim Inoni and Marafa Yaya are incarcerated. They were the last bastions to fall despite ample proofs that they were involved in the purchase of the Albatross. Why were they left out that long? Were they still serving in the government meanwhile their co defenders and accused Jean-Marie Atangana Mebara, Jerome Mendouga, and Yves Michel Fotso have been put in jail years ago?
It behooves I lay the setting for those mixing up the timeline and asking why and how the former prime minister should be implicated. Marafa Yaya was the secretary general at the presidency and Ephraim Inoni was his deputy. Ephraim Inoni was later appointed as the prime minister from 2004-2009 while the Albatross affair has already been staged.  They participated in the purchase and transfer of the aircraft. Chief Inoini was brought in by Jean Marie Assene Nkou a former parliamentarian for Mefou And Afamba. Being at the presidency, Chief Inoni was part of the delegation that traveled to the US. Jean Marie Assene was paid $2 million for serving as a liaison or middle man in the Albatross Affair. When the deal went flat, Nkou Assene was arrested and locked up but was later released. In 2008, their passports were confiscated by judge Pascal Magnangamabé. So why were they not investigated? Instead, the president went on his defence.  
It is not Cheif Inoni’s ties with APM and Ansett Worldwide sagas on embezzlement that have embroiled the former prime minister to be bundled to Kondengui else he would have been in jail ere long since these were independent acts committed out of the Albatross. Furthermore, he was arrested with Marafa Yaya and interrogated on the Albatross rather on the APM and Ansett Worldwide affairs before being taken to prison portraying that his fall is more tied to the Albatross than with the other cases of embezzlements.
Albeit, each of the accused was involved in one way or the other. However, Biya’s anger is not that they embezzled and bought him a dilapidated aircraft but that it was a tacit ploy to assassinate him after all, Atangana Mebara and Jerome Mendouga fall in the other Beti clan he suspects planning his demise.
 Whatever crime they have committed, whichever party they belong too, they still merit due process. It is sad to see someone like Mendouga being jailed for embezzlement while the case is still ongoing. That is because Biya has been brainwashed to believe that his onetime myrmidon is behind a plot to assassinate him. It is the same thing with Marafa Yaya. The latter has been dubbed as Biya’s immediate and incontestable replacement from the wikileaks revelations.  The best was to eliminate such a hindrance is to lock him up.
In fact, if any of these guys has embezzled or is found guilty of corruption, the most logical and justified solution would have been to imprison them. Conversely, that is not why they are jailed; there is an underlying reason behind the veil of the Sparrow Hawk vitrine.
Cameroon was under the IMF and World Bank structural adjustment program (SAP) where she was not allowed to make such expenses. To camouflage the state expenditure, the Biya regime decided to use CAMAIR Airlines to do the purchase. In other words, Biya has embezzled public funds for a personal luxury. If it was only for embezzlement, Biya should have been indicted and locked up. He that comes to equity cannot come with dirty hands, but here is Biya with blood in his hands. The other guys were like the drug lords, and Biya was the king pin. Once he had the booty, he decided to eliminate the chefs des gangs.
The plane was old but functional as it passed all the tests and the representatives of Boeing had testified that Mendouga had nothing to do with the money. So, why has he not been released if it is just the Albatross affair?  It is surprising that this affair began in 2004 and eight years after, we are still talking about arrests and detention even with closed doors trials? Should a mere case of corruption be done behind closed doors? What is the Biya regime hiding?  
If you look at all the more than twenty dignitaries locked up already, almost all the Beti are people who have resisted Biya continuous reign as president. This is a ploy by Biya to take Cameroon back into the early Ahidjo days whereby everyone kowtowed just to save their lives. This has shaken the ranks of those in government that all are too afraid because almost all are embezzlers and crooks. None of them can come to equity with clean hands. Even members of the opposition who worked for the government know their files could be dug out now at anytime, and there will be free transportation to Kondengui.
Ephraim Inoni is a collateral damage of Biya’s insatiable vaulting ambition to remain as president by eliminating possible adversaries as corrupt members of government. With the arrest of chief Inoni, it shows that no one is above the law and now the hunting dog of Sparrow Hawk can now spill the blood of Biya’s enemies as it has started spilling on the Albatross.  
Until then, Cameroonians, the time has come to resist Biya’s attempt to form a monarchy.

St Arrey Of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Should Christians Date?

"It was first reported that Scarlett Johansson was dating New York ad exec Nate Naylor in January, 2012. A few weeks later they were spotted vacationing together in Hawaii"

I am not of the old school, but I do not believe in dating. To me, dating is a sign of unbelief.  There are many people talking about dating and some even ask you if they can date two or more people simultaneously. Others have become champions of dating until the world now qualifies it a game.  When you ask people why they date, they tell you it is for them to know the other person. The question is; can a human being know the other person? Long courtships do not mean knowing the individual. It is preposterous for any human being to pretend they will know the other person. Man is neither static nor flat. The human being is the only being that repents and the only that must do so. We turn to trust the other person as we adjust and tolerate their gaffes. People who are open-minded easily overlook differences. It is not how well you know the person but how well you treat them that will make them live longer and happier with you.The bible says the heart of man is deceitful and desperately wicked that no one can know it (Jer 17:9-10). In this lesson, I will tell you if people should date or not.  
In the entire Bible, we do not see anyone dating. Adam married Eve on first sight. Abraham married Sarah, Isaac married Rebecca, and Jacob married Rachel on first sight. It was love on first sight, and they lived happily thereafter. We never heard they divorced. We never read that they were miserable. Some people say so how would you know the other person? Some people argue that the society has evolved and things have changed. Although things have changed, the basic emotional necessities of humanity: love, acceptance and value have not changed. They are the same anywhere we go. There is not a single person who does not want to be loved, accepted and valued. More so, those who have been dating have not fared better than those who have not dated. On the contrary, divorces have increased far more than they were in the days when people were not dating.
When you look at the Oriental societies like Africa, Asia, and Latin America where there was and still no too much of dating, you will realize there is less divorce. Our parents never dated, yet they had long and lasting marriages.  Meanwhile, the western society where dating has become normative and a game is plagued with divorce as divorce papers litter the hallways of their courtrooms. Some people even now date longer than their marriages. So why would you take a longer time to figure out someone and when you have figured them out you cannot live happily and longer with them? This is why!
Another reason why I believe dating is unbiblical is because people date to know the other person before they can engage. That is like putting the carts before the horses. Trust (faith) is the rudiments of love. If he that comes to equity must come with clean hands, he that comes to love must come with trustful life. He or she must believe that the other person is the rewarder of their trust because to the pure, all things are pure but to the corrupt all things are corrupt (Titus 1:15). Dating is faithlessness. It means, we think that God cannot guide us into our daily lives. I believe that if a man’s ways pleases the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him (Prov 16:9).  The Holy Spirit will guide you into all truth the bible say (Jn 16:13). So can’t the Holy Spirit guide us into a trustworthy person? Those who live by sight should gamble with the dating game, but those who live by faith, and the just shall and must live by faith (Heb 10:38; Rom 1:17; Hab 2:4), should count on God to guide their footsteps. Doesn’t God know how to give his own children good gifts? Do you understand what it means by "the Lord is my shepherd?" So, why wouldn’t he make you lie down in green pastures (Ps 23:2)?
Do you know why some people date longer than their marriages? That is because we cannot know the other people. However, the human being whether black or white, short or tall, African or American European or Asian needs three basic things: love, acceptance and value. Show them love as shown in I Corinthians 13: 1-8, accept them just as they are without trying to change them or telling them they have put on or lost weight, or they dress badly, and show them that they are the treasure of your life and cannot be compared or replaced with another person, and they will hang on you like a magnet.  Couples that have practiced these principles without even dating, and those who have dated and have practiced these samples have lived longer and happier marriages. That tells you it is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you. If we all lived trustworthy lives, we do not need to fear untrustworthiness because there will be none. That is not utopian as trustworthiness will beget trustworthiness. I have always trusted people until they failed me rather than distrust them until they convince me. Therefore, trust people until they fail you
Therefore, I will encourage people to go back to the rudiments of trust which is love at first sight.
Until then, dating does not help in anyway.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

“I have a male friend, but he is so adamant to the gospel. What is happening?”

Some people believe that you can marry a person and convert them later. I do not believe that in married to convert; notwithstanding, I believe they could be converted later. The question is they converting to a better life or a worse lifestyle? You know that there are some people who although being Christians are worse than non-Christians. Why would the non-Christian convert to their lifestyle then? I believe, people should copy the life style that is morally superior. Nonetheless, let me go into the question.
There are reasons why people live with Christians or know some Christians or just plainly do not want to hear anything about the gospel. Some have lost confidence by witnessing the way some Christian live. Others have been traumatized by experiences of their close ones. Some are mere victims of the copycat syndrome. If you live your life honestly and christlike, it always attracts people that even if they do not follow you instantly, they will do that later.
My family-mother and sisters gave their lives to Christ without me preaching to them. They just saw that my life had changed and the miracles God was doing through me, so they knew that it could only be God to do such a thing. Furthermore, I have had about 20 people lived with me and only two left without believing in Christ. I believe that our lives should be the living sacrifice. Our lives should be the book where men and women may read the strange and familiar matters of life.
Many people lack role models and if you live like Christ said in the bible: loving your neighbor as yourself, doing unto others what you want them do unto you, loving God with all your being in spirit and in truth, there is no way you will not influence the nearest person. I cannot count how many times students have called me to tell me they want to be like me when they grow up. Godless behavior cannot invite such great desire for emulations!
However, if you think that you will make them receive the bible and follow you to church as a sign then you have mistaken. If you gossip like the harridan, cheat like a dog, swindle like a flaneur, or you are a champion of trysts; changing boyfriends or girlfriends like some women change clothes, then it will be difficult to impact any life.
I am not saying you are a bad person; I am saying that your lifestyle is not convincing enough. You know you have to treat people so nicely that they think you are faking. When they stay around you for long, they become so fascinated with your life style that it becomes like a magnet. Every human being likes to be treated well. Everyone likes to be shown love and care as the basic necessities of humanity are love, acceptance and value (LAV). Once you show those three qualities, it is difficult for people to be irresponsive. They will definitely gravitate towards the area of LAV.
Some other people too are adamant simply because they want to behave like someone they saw. I remember when we just newly went to the high school. The students of the science department always thought that they were great scientists and erroneously thought they did not have anything to do with God. Others were just influenced by peer pressure.
Some people have given themselves to the devil that they resist the gospel unconsciously. For such people, you need serious fasting and prayers to liberate them.
Nevertheless, whoever you are dealing with will be converted onto Christ if you show them LAVspiced with prayers. Do not impose your lifestyle on anyone but let them decide else you form hypocrites.

Until then, you just live Christ and conversion will follow.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Regina Boyderfield.

I did not understand why Christians could not find mates in their respective churches until I met Regina. Regina Boyderfield attended a very big church with a male who played in their church band. Regina liked Lucas, but he was not aware. The brother did not seem to have a self-worth or good self-esteem. Regina told her friend that she had seen a young man in church she liked, but he did not seem to have her time. The friend advised her to go closer to catch his attention. She did to no avail. Surprisingly, on May 24, 2004, she was surfing the net and fell on the profile of Lucas where he has written “single and looking”. He was very opened but did not have a fixed target yet. Regina approached him, and they began to talk. They exchanged numbers and were talking. They finally made arrangements to meet. Then one day Lucas seeing the picture of Regina said “I seem to know this face.” “Yeah, maybe,” she replied, “Do you live in Kansas City? Do you attend this church?” To all the questions, Regina answered yes. Lucas was broken. He did not know someone from the church has finally met him looking for a mate out of a church of thousands of people.
She always told the men who met her in person that she had a boyfriend just to wade them off, but year after year she was single. She did not consider keeping a promise as important because she will tell you she was coming but will never show up. She did not know that those things counted towards her and nature paid her back with men who did not love her. I mean men too who could not keep promises. That is the hypocrisy that is rampant all over the churches. Regina weeded the keys of her keyboard for a mate, yet tended a blind eye to the people in her churches. If a brother said, “can I talk to you a minute,” she will measure his height with her eyes from his toes to hair. Then slowly, she will walk away. At times she will say “nope!” In economics, business is good and prosperous when it is near to raw materials. Why does especially Regina pretend she doesn’t like a man but will talk with the same man behind the veil of the net? Why do we always want to get involved with the unknown?
Regina did not know life is too short to be knocking the wrong doors and asking for love from the wrong people. She did not also know that internet love is easy for players but dangerous for serious people because very few people really succeeded. She will have to double her steps of faith should double. The stakes and the risks are too high. Yeah, real high!
She has been bypassing many men in her churches toiling on the net. Another mind told her that the people who should look for love from the internet are those with no churches or whose membership is too small because their chances of finding a partner in that church are limited. Because personal contact is very difficult in the developed world, the internet could be the easiest of planes to take them to that destination of love.  But Regina has always come from a church with at least 300 members. There should be someone there for her. Instead, she and her friends who come from mega churches or churches of thousands like those of Eddie Long, Creflo Dollar, Del Brown, T.D Jakes, John Hagee, Marilyn Hickis, Joyce Myers and a lot more invade the internet looking for partners. Are churches failing Regina and her friends or Are Regina and her friends failing themselves? I am merely a narrator, so I don’t have an answer.
 Regina even thought about going back to her hometown to get married. Perhaps she should rather build her self-confidence or accept their spiritual family overseas or even both.  Why can’t the foreign men be her husband when they are fit to be her brothers in Christ? Are there no men in those churches whom she could marry here in America? She lacks self-confidence, and secondly, she does not want to “corrupt herself with foreign men”. Consequently, she travels to space looking for love when love is on earth. Regina, look around you and select a spouse. There is no perfect man on earth! There is no Mr. Right or Soulmate. These people are already sitting in heaven. The ones here are broken pots that have and could be repaired by the master Porter called Jesus Christ.

Until then, stop looking for Mr. Right in the wrong places.

St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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