Monday, September 19, 2011

Maria Shriver: A Casualty of American Intolerance.

I had heard about Arnold Schwarzenegger when I was 15 because of his movies: "Terminator" and "Commando". So, when I heard he was getting married, I was curious. Then as I was reading the background of the wife, I realized she was from the Kennedy clan. They then disappeared from my sight until he began running as a governor of California. I followed the elections and was amazed to read that the wife was a democrat, and he was a republican. I thought to myself that would be a difficult marriage. Surprisingly, it was not politics that will separate them; it was sex. Something that has baffled many is how the American public has held the woman more responsible than the man with the battle lines well drawn between the women and the men. Almost every woman thinks she has handled it well; meanwhile, the male commentators seem to be shocked she is getting on with her life well.

The US is still a very intolerant place towards women and lacks chemistry amongst the races. One can still hear most people saying that they did not vote for Hillary Clinton over Obama because she is a woman. Sarah Palin and Michele Bachmann face the same onslaught. The proofs are that the paparazzi follow Shriver more than Schwarzenegger who has had a national and international influence. The media does not feel amazed that Schwarzenegger is going on well, but they seem to harbor those feelings that Shriver is doing well. The simple explanation is that women in America are not totally emancipated. Don’t mind the noise; look at the signs on the ground.

The feeling of America towards women is still just slightly different from the epoch before the 19th Amendment. Americans preach democracy, but they are still very intolerant. A glaring example is that Americans do not discuss politics, religions, sports, or even race at work for fear they offend the interlocutor with a contrary opinion. Aren’t those social milieus where societal concerns should be discussed? The same goes with the treatment of women.

Here is a woman who is lawfully separated and rightly so, trying to move on with her life, but people still feel she should not be coming out? She has kept a low key unlike those media hungry women who run after every talkshow for an interview after a failed marriage. She has stayed away from public histrionics of a betrayed wife; she has rather embraced her one time profession-journalism.

Shouldn’t she be left alone to manage her life? What is her evil in her failed marriage? The husband has failed her and has assumed his responsibility. They have come to amicable terms. Isn’t it time for gainsayers and rumor mills to grind to a still now that the manufacturers have refrained from manufacturing their products? Isn’t it time for canards subscribers to seek other companies and subscribe for marital dirt?

While divorce is bad with nefarious residual effects, it is still morally permitted on grounds of infidelity (Mt 19:9) or desertion (I Cor 7:14-15). As much as we could dissuade those concerned from divorcing, they do nothing wrong if they persist and divorce. What the society should do is encourage them to pick up the broken pieces, mend them into reusable vases that will bring joy to themselves and to the community again.

Until then, America must grow tolerance.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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