Monday, November 8, 2010

"Should An Impotent Man Get Married?"

When I first read the question, I laughed. I asked myself what is he doing thinking about marriage? It seems a very simple question to just say no, but it is not as it will soon be displayed. A synonym for an impotent man is a eunuch. In Biblical times, the eunuchs played a large role during wars and serving the kings because there was absolute faithfulness and concentration. The king will never fear that he would be cuckolded. When they went to war, they fought without fear of losing their lives because they did not have anyone to look back to when they returned. There were three types of eunuchs: natural eunuchs, manmade eunuchs, and devotional eunuchs (Mt 19:12). These eunuchs are impotent.

Impotence is a medical condition where a man is unable to have and maintain erection. Marriage is a bond in blood that is sexually administered. Marriage has three functions in sequential order: a help-meet or companion (Gen 2:20), multiplication (Gen1: 28) and means to avoid fornication (I Cor 7:1-2). That means, when a man is getting married, he is ready to fulfill the above duties. How will he multiply if he is impotent? Considering that there is cunninlingus and fellatio, he could still commit fornication. Thus he is eliminated from two but could still fulfill one: erase his solitude if he gets married. This paper is to show you why the author believes that the impotent man should get married, if he wants.

This situation may raise more alarm in Africa than in the West because of the fact that oral sex has not been integrated (which it should) into their sexual lives as an integral part of sex. Yes, you heard me well; it should be integrated fully without reservation. I know that if some of you were birds you will want to shit on my head right now. If you do it, I will understand that you had to go real bad!

In between 1997 and 1998, a brother in Christ got married. He was impotent, but he had faith that God will heal him. He knew if he revealed it to the church leaders, they will not allow him to wed; consequently, he kept it a secret. Immediately after the wedding, he told his wife that he was impotent. The wife told her best friend as a prayer topic, but she leaked it to the leaders. There was an unheralded great commotion. People treated him with all sorts of adjectives and told him how wicked he was especially because the mission taught that once married, you are married for life, and there was no chance for divorce. The brother was calm and collected. He told us to simply pray. As one of the leaders, I visited them regularly to pray with them. One day, he told me that his kasingo was no more just sleeping peacefully; it is now like the opposite of mimosa; when you touch it, rather than sleep, it wakes up with such vigor and purpose. They had their first child and during the wife’s delivery of their second baby, she died.

Had he been prevented from marrying, we would not have experienced that miracle you just read now. Furthermore, the impotent man could find a lady who cannot have children and does not want to adopt and fulfill his responsibilities using toys and cunninlingus.

However, if you are suffering from impotence, you should not feel ashamed; you should be upfront about your condition. You should seek treatment and persevere in prayers, peradventure God works out a miracle. If you have partial impotence, that again is due to several factors like psychological, artherossclerosis, disease, damage to the penis nerves, diabetes, medications, and illegal drugs. Nowadays, there are many types of treatments and even nuts that when you eat, the man in-between your legs catches fire and wants to score as many goals or touchdowns as you want. Therefore, impotence is not that a hopeless situation.

Nevertheless, those men who are not exercising now in their 30s and 40s will definitely have problems in their 60s, so if you want to perform even while 70 and 80, you must be exercising to enable sufficient blood flow from your arteries into the penis. Now that I have given you a line of hope,  you can make a donation into the ministry. Thanks!

Until then, let the impotent man get married if he wants to.

Prince & P A Hamilton Ayuk.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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