Thursday, September 30, 2010

Can I marry for papers?


“HI MR P.A I HAVE A QUESTION FOR U. WE ALL KNOW THAT ONCE U GET MARRIED BE IT IN ANY FORM WE KNOW THAT IT IS FOR LIFE, FOR BETTER OR FOR WORST.I WILL LIKE U TO ANSWER ME THIS QUESTION OVER THE NET, IS IT GOOD TO GET MARRIED IN THE NAME OF PAPERS, TO HAVE A GOOD STAY IN THIS COUNTRY, AND THEN TO DIVORCE LATTER ON AND GET MARRIED TO UR REAL PARTER IN LIFE? WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO ANY BODY THAT DOES THAT, IS THAT PERSON GOING TO HELL FIRE, AND WILL NEVER MAKE HEAVEN. PLEASE THIS QUESTION KEEPS ON DISTURBING MY MIND.”

Introduction:


Brother thank you so much for the question. I will expand this question again even further to include my foreign audience. Is it good to marry someone for money, popularity, for papers and other temporal reasons then divorce them later? What would happen to them who do that? Would they go to hell or to heaven? I will define what marriage is, lay down the dynamics and mechanics and then draw a conclusion.

Marriage has three aspects: a covenant, a covenant in love, and a covenant in love sexually administered. It is a covenant because it is a life and death commitment. The institution of marriage is not by force when the Bible says: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Gen 2:24).

There are only two occasions for a man to divorce. The first is if there is illicit sex (Mt 19:9), and the second is abandonment (I Cor 7: 15). The second point would seem new to many, but abandonment is tantamount to someone who is dead. Except the spouse dies, digamy is sinful (Rom 7:1-3; I Cor 7:39). When a spouse abandons a covenant, they are considered dead, and the living partner is no more under the covenant because a covenant is only alive by two parties coming together (Mt 22:32, I Cor 7:15).

Is it good to get married for papers?

God intended for marriage to be till death (Gen 2:24). Once we have this mentality then with hope we can fight to make our marriage work. Marriage has at least three purposes. Firstly, for a help meet or companion (Gen 2:20). Secondly, it is a medium of fulfilling the sanction of multiplication (Gen 1:28) and lastly a means to avoid fornication (I Cor. 7:1-2). Divorce and bachelorhood are not the primordial intentions of God for man (Gen 2:18, Mt. 19:3-9). If we follow the principles of marriage that God set from the beginning then we will expect at least a happy marriage. Prov 18:22 suggests a process of seeking: deep search. Therefore, we have to search for our mate. Then, when we find one we have to avoid premarital sex because it is cheating and cheating begets cheating. By having sex before marriage we open the door for the devil to come into the house. That is why Hollywood marriages go kaput. If relationship was only sex then Hollywood would be in a better predicament. Unfortunately, if love was shoes, then Hollywood would charter all sizes. Jesus explains the origins and conditions for divorce (Mt 19:8).

The analogy of divorce between Israel and God in Ezekiel is a figurative expression that indicates the level of commitment between God and Israel. It is not a physical marriage as that of a man and a husband where sex is involved. God is a spirit and would not have intercourse with humans. Consequently, all those divorces due to abuse, addiction, irresponsibility and what have you other than fornication and abandonment are sinful. In this case, it requires sexual intercourse. John reports from the mouth of the Pharisees, “They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.” (Jn 8:4).

If you are married to an unbelieving partner, and they want to run away, then let them go and you are free to remarry. That is what we call abandonment. That makes the marriage eligible partner passive. It is not saying if you marry someone for papers or for the wrong reasons, you should divorce as is the case today, but that if the unbelieving partner wants to run away, let them go. You are authorized to remarry because marriage is considered a covenant (Rom 7:1-4). Since one of the characteristics of marriage is that it is a covenant, the dead person cannot more partake in the covenant, so it annuls the marriage at once. Once one partner is dead, the living partner is free to remarry because God only honors a covenant between the living (Mat 22:32). In this particular case, it is a state of spiritual widowhood, and widows are permitted to remarry.

I always like to visit Christian websites and read the profiles of singles who are seeking partners for dating, friendship, pen pals or marriage. One quickly realizes the unrealistic conditions that they pose. “I want a man who is financially independent,” but she herself is jobless. In addition, she has a medical condition. Some write, “I want a man who will lead, loves his mother, is financially stable, very spiritual and has six packs," but she herself looks like sponge bob. Some men say, “I want a lady who can cook and who will obey a man and call him master," but he himself is a jerk. Stars want to marry stars, albeit being a star does not mean quality. Hence, it explains the rampant divorce. That is why in 2014 alone there were at least 60 celebrity splits. It is almost the same number each year since 2006. The stars put sex before marriage and cherish status, fame and looks over character. My friends, there is a serpent in every earthly paradise; so beware earthly paradise seekers.

However, if a marriage was contractual in that both the man and the woman knew that it was for mere business purposes,  then that is different. It is against both the law of man and God, but it does not destroy the individual like when they were caught by surprise. In a contractual marriage, sex should not be involved; however, most of the time, after the man has taken his money, he starts to ask for sex from the girl. If she refuses, he rescinds from giving her the papers. Some American women take the money, but whenever there is an immigration court appointment, they become sick. They try to keep the man an eternal slave. Can you relate to this?

Conclusion:

Therefore, those who marry for selfish reasons like getting papers, money, fame, status and then divorce,  commit evil against God and man  (in the case of papers) and man in the last three reason because they are not different from those mentioned in Gal 5:19-21, seeing that they are deceivers, thieves and killers.
Years back I wrote to decry about Africans marrying foreign women and men for papers. People told me I was anti African. Many Africans did that with foreign women to emulate the Eastern Europeans and South Americans, and it is now catching up with them. Nature just has a way of rewarding people in their own coins. Have you ever ignored anyone? Don’t worry, someone too will ignore you. If you deceive anyone and get married to them for a selfish reason, it will catch up with you. People have died before even enjoying their spoils. Marry someone for the right reason of marriage and make up your mind to live with them till kingdom come, and the Lord will give you a  hapy marriage!

Until then, “if a young woman says no to marriage just wait until her breasts sag” (Burundian Proverb).

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk



“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Is Your NonProfit Organization-Family or Village group Dividing?

Dear Compatriots,

Last Wednesday the presiding judge told the Manyu people to go and settle their differences as family, or he will be forced to appoint a receiver. Then he asked them this question: "why do you guys want to spend these monies on lawyers, rather than use it to help your own people." Shamefully, both sides could not agree; they prefer to let the receiver come in. Shame on you all Manyu people in Georgia. Considering that there are many African groups that are divided with some in court and others on their way to court, it behooves me to quickly submit a skeletal synopsis and to disperse certain myths about Nonprofit Organizations.

NonProfit Organizations are in two forms:

A. Union or Association and a

B. Foundation.

Difference: association is based on membership (a union of persons), but the foundation has no membership (it is based on assets). Membership in the Association is freewill and departure too freewill. Nonetheless, when trouble comes and the assets are in danger, then the courts set in.

Every Nonprofit Organization is subject to the Georgia Sunshine Laws of Open Records Act (ORA) and the Open Meetings Act (OMA). In the open records acts, it means that the association is compelled to submit records if requested by the public and the Open meeting Act, the association cannot close its meeting doors to the public. To comply with the Open Meeting Act, the organization must do the following:
A. Set the time, date and place of the regular meeting.
B. Post the information where everyone could see it.
C. Post the agenda two weeks before the meeting.
D. Allow record of the meeting procedures.
E. Post the attendance register and the matters discussed two days after the meeting.
F. if a meeting is to be cancelled or postponed, the members must be informed at least 24 hours before time.

N.B. If these OMA conditions are not met, then whatever decision taken at the meeting is non binding . While most groups look at the profits in acquiring the nonprofit status, they neglect the exigencies that come with it like the OMA.

If an organization was to cease to exist through the abolition of registration or bankruptcy, there are two scenarios according to the Georgian Organic Law "On Ceasing and Prohibition of Public Associations Activity :

A. The Management does the liquidation. This is if all circumstances do not face any challenges. If there are prospects that they will face one, then the second scenario comes in.

B. The court may appoint a liquidator or receiver (in cases of urgency).

During the process of liquidation, the association is made to pay its creditors, and then after a year, the rest of the assets are distributed among the authorized persons. If there are no authorized persons, then the assets are given to another association with the same goals and objectives.

However, in a situation of clear urgency, the courts will appoint a receiver according to the Georgia Code section 9-8-1-14 (2007). This usually occurs when there is infighting in the organization, and there is sufficient evidence of foreseeable destruction of the organization’ assets by the warring factions . A receiver could also come in if there is an injunction that prevents the usage of the association’s finances thereby delaying the progress of the organization and subsequently causing its deterioration . When a receiver is appointed, it is the receiver who determines what is to be sold, shared and who gets what . It should be noted that, it is the troubled organization that pays the court appointed receiver and when or if anything remains in their assets then the distribution takes place.

Notice that, the nature of the organization will determine the distribution of assets. In Nonprofit Organizations with membership, the assets distribution could be shared amongst the contributing members or qualified parties. One thing is certain there will be distribution of assets contrary to popular myth that assets of a nonprofit organization are never shared.

My people, why do you prefer a court appointed receiver than to share the assets amongst you? I have heard people say, "I prefer the court to take everything than for us to give them a penny". That to me is greed at its best. The little money that we are paying the receiver could have been used for a project to help the poor people back home. I want you all to think twice before you follow your stubborn courses.

Until then, you can predict the outcome of your case now.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.





“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Monday, September 20, 2010

Be A Lady And Take Care Of Your Man.


Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher were married for 85 years. Please learn their secret.

After writing the article “Be a man and take care of your lady”, I was asked by many to write “Be a lady and take care of your man.” It is common to see women who have made it taking care of some men. I mean literally taking care of them. I remember a couple who went to the same church with us in Rock Street. The guy was a homeless guy that this professional picked and brought home. To her, she was taking care of her man but to many, she was a desperate woman who wanted marriage by all costs. She cleaned him up (so she thought) and wanted to show him love and care. A few months later, after he was now a “man”, he began cheating on her. She had one and only option she knew: kick him out to the curve. Today, I will tell you what it means to take care of your man and what it is not. If you do not want to become a Desperate Housewife or single-and-ready-to-mingle woman again and again then take this advice to heart. Therefore, please you stay tune!

I plead with you not to listen to foolishness outside. God can never  go wrong. The bible says that a good woman will make her man happy all the days of her life. There are three things that if a lady masters them well, she will take care of her man. They are sex, food and a peaceful home.

I don't understand these women who marry, but they do not want to have sex. A man should not beg his lady for sex. “My mind is not clear because my mother needs a new car, so I cannot do anything.” The lady who wants to take care of her man does not put a price tag on sex. It is more a dangerous game to place a price-tag before he could see in between your legs. That lollipop should not be licked on conditions; it should be a free gift to the man you truly love. “We cannot do anything until I have a new dress.” That is a tacit request for him to look outside. As absurd as it may seem that though the pinhole is where the man came from, he still wants to go back there all the days of his life. Any resistance and shilly-shally helps to frustrate and depress him. That will eventually tear down the walls that bond your relationship. Notwithstanding, some women give, but the man does not take because she does not keep it clean. Ladies, a little douch with clean water at least three times a day should keep you fresh and ready. Women are fighting for rights? They should force companies to build bidets everywhere, so they could take breaks to wash themselves like the ladies in the Red District.

Other times women say, "We do not have sex because he only pleases himself; I don't feel anything." Many women do not know that men see with dark glasses. You need to draw his attention to your needs. Telling him how to satisfy you gives him the impression he is doing the right thing or is closed to achieving your happiness, and that makes his joy. If you expect him to know, you will end up like a broken radio. Men have different skills, but they are not all true psychics or soothsayers. Therefore, tell them your needs!

Furthermore, to take care of your man does not mean you should spy on him or try to control his every move. A good man wants to be trusted. When trust is the foundation of a relationship, the man strives to do better. If you are the one spending, don’t make your man to feel like he is nothing because if that is the message he gets, he will dump you once he has his situation under control. I knew a lady who called her man almost 10 times a day to check his whereabouts.  Do you want to truly keep the man you have? Be a lady and take care of him!

Giving your guy friends the same place or even more attention than your husband will create suspicion and insecurity for the man, whether sex is involved or not; thus, you should avoid situations that corrode the fabrics of your love. You cannot be married or have a boyfriend, but you keep hanging out with guy friends.

However, no matter how much you love the man, do not offer him a strip tease party for his birthday. That is like giving peanuts to rats to toy with. Would you give a crocodile a goat to play with on its birthday? Many ladies who repulsed this advice can tell you it was the stumbling block of their man and the beginning of his fall.Would you like a story? I had a colleague whose wife took him to the strip club for his birthday, and he ended up making it his recreation home from Thursday to Saturday. Then .... well next time, I will tell you. I love to play with people! Your ears are wide open. Ok, Arabian nights! Next time, my friend, I will tell you. Let me treat the second reason; cook food for the home.

The second special way a lady can take care of her man is giving him real food to eat. How many times have you heard “we broke off because she does not cook, did not know how to cook, and she did not try to learn”? Certainly, cooking is not only a woman’s job; however, nature and traditions teach us that the woman is more endowed in that domain. The lady that feeds a man well will retain his attention. The same food you are buying from restaurant, you could still cook it at home. If you do not know how to cook, you could buy a recipe book and invite him to join you cook a certain meal. It is a recipe for infidelity to be sending him out to go and buy food for the family while single women are lined up like wolves waiting around the corners. Sometimes, women look at me as if they want to tear my pants off. I have seen women undress me with their eyes.

Gloria was a Nigerian girl who was brought from home. When she came, she was cooking regularly, and the marriage was striving well. Then she found a job and stopped cooking. When Kalu asked her why she was no more cooking, she asked him, “kalu, where do you keep your eyes when you are driving? Don’t you see MacDonald, Chic-Fil-A or Burger King on the road? Is there a police officer on the road that will arrest you if you stop to buy Crystal?” Six months later, the marriage was kaput.

The third element you need to take care of your man is peace at home. Nagging your man does not create a peaceful environment. Sometimes the lady should be purblind at some of his mistakes. If he leaves his socks down, pick them and put them where you think he should have put them. If you thought he disrespected you in public, wait when he comes home and give him a pep talk. Don’t fight him outside and when you give him a pep talk at home, avoid being a harridan. When a lady produces love, acceptance and value (LAV): virtues that have magnetic powers to keep any man, the man will knit his soul to hers. Though men know how to mess places around, they like clean environments too. Therefore, if you want to be a lady who knows how to take care of your man, keep yourself and the place clean.

I have heard many women say, “You need to take your stinking butt out there and get a job. You cannot sit on my couch, drink my juice, eat my food, watch my TV, drive my car and sit there daily on that couch.” No matter what you give a man, nagging him does not create love; it creates resentment, and he will be there just for convenience. Once his stinking arse gets a job, he will vamoose. That is why some ladies have had different men come and go without any of them staying. Nagging tastes good in your mouth, but it is like Steve Ballmer cheering the Clippers. Sorry, Clippers fans!It is like gall in every man's mouth.

Submission to a man does not mean you are not emancipated; it simply means you are acknowledging him. Look, every woman I have known who has been married to the same man for more than 50 years tells me about submission. Every man, no matter how poor and scrawny still likes when he is regarded as a man. If to you a man is a lapdog who is only good when you want a lick, then you will be a chronic husband shopper. Repeat after me: Chronic Husband Shopper (CHS) or end up with the useless cliche, "I am a strong black woman." No wonder ,the black men are running to the white girls. The western woman has won the battle of strong women, but they have failed that of keeping a happy relationship or marriage. To be submissive does not mean acquiescence or domination. It does not mean you are a floor-mart either. It simply means that when  consensus fails on certain last decisions, you should let the man make them.

Until then, be a lady and take care of your man.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk




“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Friday, September 17, 2010

Be A Man And Take Care Of Your Lady.

King Edward VIII and Wallis Simpson. Read their story if you want to know why I chose them.

I had lent my car to a youngster who changed my radio station, so when I turned the car on, the radio station that came on was V103.3-Frankie Wanda Show. They were discussing on being a man. There were four people debating as I could hear well. One of them said to be a man means that when you go and sleep in a lady’s house, you must give her gas money. Her opponent said that is making you look like a whore because you are friends, and he should not buy you gas just because he slept in your house. Then two said, men need to be men and take care of their ladies. I have heard this at work, at the mall, in ceremonies, in church and in the street about men not being men. This lesson will tell you what being a man means and then will show you what being a man is not.

Years back I went to see a family that I wanted to marry their daughter. I was in town trying to do a job for CRETES as the supervisor (appointment by degree from Kodock- the then minister of Agriculture) for Fako 1 conducting a survey on the social and economic indicators of the South West Province. As usual, I came with a small promotional T shirt that was given to me. I concealed the fact that I was working to see their reaction. The family invited me to see if I was a man.

They asked me questions like “do you work”. I said I am trying. “How will you feed your wife?” The aunt followed up. I said, "if I eat, she will eat, but if I don’t eat, she will not eat. But just know that she will never stay hungry if I can find food." They said that she goes to school in a car, and I did not have a car. ‘How will you take her to school?" They asked. I said, “There are taxis, so we really don’t need a car”. The auntie told me that they do not think I will be the right person for their daughter. However, they gave me permission to talk to her officially even though I have been talking to her before coming to see the parents. After the interview, she did not talk to me again, no matter how many letters I wrote. Perhaps I was not the “man” the aunts were looking for. Years after, I saw the aunt, and she told me that now I was a man. Was she seeing breasts or what was she seeing that she thought I was not a man before? Here I am with two balls underneath my legs, and I am being told I am not a man. What type of trouble is this? So when I heard this debate, though it was not my type of station, I decided to listen to it till the end. I believe many people have it all wrong what it means to be a man.

First, when someone sleeps in your house for one night or a week or a month, that does not change the bills. You will pay the rents, gas bill and light bills you were paying before they came. That is why I have never asked anyone who lived with me to contribute for anything in the house. Now if you have a man who comes to sleep in your house, it is proper if he decides to leave something, but if he does not leave anything, that should still be ok. One thing you must look at is if the man has the ability to leave something. By the way, why should a man leave the woman gas money when she makes more money than him?

All these complaints about him sitting on your couch, watching your TV, eating your food, breathing "your air" are bunkum and greed. If you look at all the women who think like this, they are unable to keep a man. They are on their fourth marriage. Some though single and ready to mingle have no man interested in them for marriage. Listen well: interested in them for marriage.

If a man visits a girl he loves, he will provide to the needs he sees without her even asking. That goes for the lady. If he sees her watching a small TV because she cannot afford for a bigger one, he will buy her a bigger one without her asking. A man does not sit playing video games while the woman cuts the grass. He cuts the grass of the yard, motivates her to prayers and exercise.

It is proper for a man to get up and check the fluids in the car. He must accept the responsibility of their relationships by making everything possible to make it work. Why does a woman need a man to give her money to go do her hair when she can pay for it?

To be a man is to sit with your wife and kids and think about leading your family to a happy port. That is; make serious consensual decisions and not spend time running away from your problems and transferring responsibility on your wife or others.

Being a man is to have core values that override societal exigencies. A man who is being pulled by the nose by his family, the society, friends, alcohol and drugs is not a man. A man should lead by example. A man is a person who puts God first and his relationship second. Nothing comes before his family. In terms of priority, after God, comes your wife and kids, your family, friends, career, society and leisure and pleasure.

To be a man is to believe in your capabilities and be willing to take risks even if you fail.

To be a man is to provide to her emotional needs not as you need and want, but as she wants. How will you perform your manly duties if you are never home, or you come home drunk and tired? Watch over your sex life and make sure it is in top form.

To be a man you should be ready to defend your family. The animals do this better. The lion watches over the pride. How will you defend your wife and family facing danger if you are always in clubs and bars or with friends and in church?

While paying the bills and providing food on the table, clothes on their backs and shoes on their feet is important, being a man encompasses more than just that. If that is all it means then rich people will be the happiest couples on earth.

I remember counseling a couple, and the woman telling me in reply to the man’s defense that he gives her all she wants. The woman said “I married this man; I did not marry this house. Those things we have in this house, I could get them myself. I need a man and not things. He is never there to play with the kids or even with me. We do not have quality time together as husband and wife. He is always at work or with his friends.” Irresponsibility is in various forms and that is one of them.

To be a man is not walking around opening the door for the lady. Who was opening her door before you met her? If she did not die then, she will not die now. Just because you are a man does not mean when you get lost you should not ask for directions. Just because you are a man does not mean your driving is better than that of your wife. Just because you are a man does not mean you are smarter than your wife. Show your manliness in things that matter most to her well being.

Until then, be a man and take care of your lady!

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk.


“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Do You Make Empty Pledges Just For Palmarès?


There are words that are intermittently and interchangeably used nowadays. Initially, a pledge was something you gave someone to hold till you sent your gift (Gen 38”17). Everything was accepted except human life (Deut 24:6). You were also not authorized to enter into someone’s house to seize his pledge. The second is a vow. A vow was a votive offering you promised to give to someone towards a cause. For example, you can promise $1000 to a cultural organization towards their efforts to build a school. You could promise $100 to a church towards missions. However, the word vow is now commonly used as pledge although the real word we should be using is a vow. In a pledge, if you did not come back to fulfill your promise, the victim could keep your pledge but in a vow, you were dedicated to fulfill it (Num 30:2). While there was freedom in fulfilling a pledge, you were obliged to fulfill a vow because it was a debt! Nowadays the word pledge has replaced the word vow. For example: When you go to a cultural organization night and say you pledge $2000, you have committed yourself to make a votive offering (obligatory gift) because you are not giving them anything to keep till you bring your gift.

When I was writing this lesson, I remembered that I had made a pledge to one of my ex students. I had to go and fulfill it before I could post my lesson. The pledge you make is made unto God. It is not unto man though it is man who takes it. You are telling God to hold you by your words. Can we trust your words these days? I hear many girls tell me that you cannot trust a guy these days. The guys too say the same thing. Perhaps many do not know what a vow or pledge is. Let me show you examples of people who made such vows and how they fulfilled them. Solomon said God has no pleasure in fools, so if you make a vow fulfill it. (Ecc 5:4). It is better you do not vow than that you vow but do not pay (Ecl 5:5).

Let me put this into perspective. There are marriage vows, love vows, ceremonial vows (pledges) and many others. When a man and a woman promise to marry each other till death do them part, that is a vow they have made to each other. When you tell someone that I love you and will never leave you, that is a votive offering you have made. When you promise your daughter that if you pass the graduation test, I will buy you a laptop, you have just committed yourself to a pledge. If you promised to give $50 to a cultural group during their convention, that is a pledge. If you promised a church to give them $10,000 for the construction of church building, that is a pledge. Or perhaps you pledge to support the Cancer Society with a $10 a month donation. Such a promise was not a habitual or common promise or practice you made everyday. It was also not a promise you made or took lightly. If you pledged, you must fulfill it (Deut 23:21). If you know you will not do something, do not say it. Do not promise it! The only time you could not fulfill a vow (pledge) was if you died (Deut 23:22). A vow was the same as a written contract: it was not to be broken no matter how foolish it was.

For sample, if you promised a group $100 because you wanted to amaze a girl sitting on the other end that you are rich, you were obliged to pay the vow. If you made a vow during a fundraising party to give $500, you are obligated to pay your vow. It is not if but just when, but you must pay it. Sometimes you hear people who go to fundraising parties and pledge $1000 here and $1000 there but just to boost their palmarès, and they do not pay. Know that it is a sin before God and actually it brings you a curse. That is because the person who always breaks his promise brings a curse to himself/herself. If you know you cannot fulfill a pledge then don’t do it. No matter how people coerce you and flatter you with titles, don’t do it if you will not fulfill it. Sew your coat according to your size.

I went to one party, and they called me to sit with the other dignitaries. I knew I did not have money and did not want to make a pledge. So I refused going to the high table. They begged and promised me they were not going to call me for money. I said, man, I don’t believe it. I am sitting down here. I am just fine. I knew that sitting on the High Table comes with donation or pledges (vow), and I was not ready for any.

Perhaps they are building a church somewhere, and the pastor is asking you all to promise how much you will give. If you know you do not have money, there is no reason to pledge. God knows you cannot give what you don’t have. But if you decide to make a pledge just to please the pastor and the Christians, you must pay the pledge. The church has the right to ask you the money as a debt. There is a very sad and moving story of a man who kept his words.

Jephthah’s father got him from wedlock with a harlot. His step brothers and step-mother drove him away from their house. But when they were attacked by the Ammonites, they went and solicited his help. He asked them to make him their leader first before he could fight for them. They accepted and did according to his wishes. Then he in turn made a vow to God that if he won the war, he will give to God the first thing that came out of his house to greet him. Jephthah had only one daughter and the only child.

In those days when someone opened the door, they first sent out the sheep and cattle. But on that faithful day, when Jephthah came, rather than the cattle, it was the daughter who was the first person to step out. The excitement to see the father had made her to forget ushering the sheep out first. Rather than joy, it brought him sorrow as the Bible says “when he saw her, that he rent his clothes, and said, Alas, my daughter! thou hast brought me very low, and thou art one of them that trouble me: for I have opened my mouth unto the LORD, and I cannot go back”. She told her father to carry his vow but to give her two months to bewail her virginity. After two months, she came back, and her father sacrificed her to fulfill his vow. Though it was foolish, but he had to do it.

Hannah was another example who promised God that if God gave her a child, she will give Him back the child to serve him as a priest. That is how and why Samuel became a priest (I Sam 1:11; 21).

So let me ask you this. Have you made a pledge anywhere? Did you pay it? You must pay it. If anyone made a pledge to an association, their names should be written in the book of debtors and they should be required to pay the money with every debt collection procedure followed.

Until then, pay your pledges for they are debts.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk




“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Thursday, September 2, 2010

A review of Bassa Antiquity in Contemporary Limbe written by Emmanuel Konde published by Pyramid House in Albany Georgia in 2010.



This is a 142 page book, written in sophisticated syllogism, analogies, anecdotes, and a reproduction of Camnet (Cameroonian forum) debates verbatim literatim. This book made its name before it was even read up to a point where a cabal petitioned the author’s school (where he teaches) urging them to stop its publication because it will promote ethnic cleansing. Now, after reading the book, I think it was pure rashness, for the bite of the book did not merit the bark of the people. Konde says “the question of land and ancestry are the subtexts of Bassa Antiquity in Contemporary Limbe” (P 11).

If you have not bought a copy, you may just realize you are missing out on what matters most in Cameroon history. This book will play a great role with the implementation of the autochthones law of ceding power to the original and majority settlers. He craftily lays claim to the Bassas as the original settlers of Victoria by establishing a proficient timeline, historical and anthropological syllogism and carefully dismantling the contentions of other pretenders staking their claims as original settlers of Victoria. Whoever reads this book and from which ever stand point he/she reads the book, he/she will find it beneficial. Some of the people who almost ate Prof Konde raw should actually be happy because without him citing them in this book, no one will ever, ever mention them in any book. This book converted useless discourses into useful historical narratives.

Bassa Antiquity in Contemporary Limbe (BACL) does not only give an authorial but also a political voice to Bassa ba Limbe; thus,  filling the void of historiography of Limbe. The historicity of the settlement of Victoria now Limbe, bears some polemical and political consequences because whoever is the original settler, automatically gains the governing rights. Perhaps that is why the Bakweri people are afraid of the book and did not want its publication, or perhaps they just don’t believe the man Konde can write an unbiased account to establish the rightful heirs of Limbe.

BACL starts by establishing the Bassas as the first inhabitants of Limbe even in his acknowledgement (p1). According to him, the absence of a written history of the Bassas has relegated them to second tier immigrants though they were the first to settle the place. At some point, he bases his claims on oral history from individuals like Papa Albert Bibum, Papa Jonas Kota Bissala, Papa Gabriel Maier, Mama Pauline Ngo Bassanguen (popularly known as “Mama Nyango”)- (p. 2). Oral history has been the same medium his contenders have used to lay claims to the land. To cement his theory in the opening paragraph of chapter three, he says “Bassa and Duala oral sources maintain that the Bassa were the first settlers of Wouri Estuari” (P. 41). The question is: which of the oral histories should we believe?

Konde says that by ascertaining himself as a “Victoria Boy”, it links him directly to Victoria (now Limbe):

And provides readers the necessary basis from which to judge the veracity of my enterprise and the spirit in which Bassa Antiquity in Contemporary Limbe is crafted (P. 9).

According to Konde, it is difficult to speak of ancestral lands because Victoria has been greatly affected by European civilization. Perhaps we should ask this question. Who did those missionaries dishing out land to African kings meet in these places when they arrived? Perhaps that is why “in Limbe there are two graveyards: one for “indigenes”, the other for “strangers” (P 19).

In BACL, Prof Konde traces three waves of Bassa migration to Victoria. The first wave is the pocket that came before the Whiteman visited the land: those Bassas who were locally referred to as creoles. These ones “originated from the banks of Nile River near Meroe, the Southern capital of ancient kingdom of Kush” (P. 33). The second wave was directly connected to the plantation economy established there by the Germans who confiscated land between 1884 and 1916 (P. 22). “The third wave of Bassa migrants were uproots of the UPC struggle in French Cameroon in the 1950s” (P. 22).

Those who are really contesting for the rights of first settlers are the Bassas, Bakweris and Dualas. Konde claims that the Bassas were the first because their settlement has been acknowledged by scholars like Eugene Wonju, Edwin Ardener, and Robert Cornevin (P. 29). He also states that even “the Duala’s themselves have acknowledged that they encountered the Bassa upon arriving at the Wouri Estuary” (P. 29). During this time sprouted splinter groups like Bakweri and Oroko who coexisted with the Bassas.

Konde actually acknowledges that the homeland of the Bassa is Sanaga Maritime (P. 30). The author makes a wonderful analogy with the Duala settlement in Douala region and the Bassas in pre-Victoria Limbe (P 30). Konde emphasizes later:

While we know that the Duala encountered the Bassa at the Wouri Estuary, and both groups have proffered what happened there thereafter. No similar narratives exists of Bassa encounter of the Bakweri in pre-Victoria Limbe at the time when the former group filtered into the area and effectively occupied desolate, uninhabited sections of what would become Victoria and now Limbe (P. 38).

He buttresses his analogy by showing that before the coming of the colonialists, the Bantu-speaking Africans migrated freely and settled freely. The artificial divisions were brought by colonialists who did not have the rights to possess and distribute land.

Prof Konde goes further to prove that the Bassas were the first settlers of Limbe by citing manuscripts of Pastor Samuel Massing and Monsignor Thomas Mongo that support his assertion (P. 34).

The author gives plausible reasons why rather than the Bassa, the Duala live in the coast. He alleges that traditional anecdotes stated that the Duala were very filthy people who excreted “into small pots that they carried around” (P. 35).

Though the Bakweri occupy more than 100 villages, they were not the first settlers. One thing to be noted is the fact that most African societies did not practice written history. The history about when the Portuguese first established contact with the coastal people is right, but it raises a question. Who did they meet when they came there? To Konde, it was not the Duala or Bakweri but the Bassas. According to the author, the Basas were merely forced to move out of the area by the construction of Victoria-Buea Road (P. 49).

The rest of the book deals with Camnet reactions, rebuttals and commentaries. The list ranges from Konde, Makaka, Mbua, Martha Kebbi, Ndoko, Fobedzong, Somdah, Tom Keng, Mukefor, Jesusman, Asongayi Walters, Samira, Microwave, Wamba, Awah, Ms Joe, Ni Manjong, Dibussi, Ekosso, Mbella, Christmass Ebini, Akintola Manga Che, Samira and Ewusi. However, despite the many participants at the debate, none was able to rebut substantially the facts of Konde. Perhaps he knows how to sell his lie better, or perhaps he is the truth speaker.

However, the government should not encourage settler polity, for it regresses the society to the intertribal war era because it will encourage nepotism and tribalism which are like our cankerworm and palmerworm. There are third generation Bassas, Bakweris, Banyangs and Orokos who consider Limbe as their original home because their second and first generation ancestors all settled here. Therefore, there should be some opened democracy for all autochthones and indigenes of Limbe to run and whoever wins, rules. In this age and time, people should be encouraged to live together no matter their language, color, tribe or origin. Let us make this world a small village and a better place for everyone to live happily.

Until then, it is a book every Cameroonian and those who cherish oral history should read.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).
Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).
Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Libation And Oblation: Good Acts To The Wrong People.


In most African occasions and ceremonies, libation is a religious act that is enshrined in the culture of the people. With alacrity, they hope to conjure blessings from the ancestors on the organizers or the main subject of the occasion . The question is should libation be done? To whom should it be done? In this lesson, I will define the terms libation and oblation, show their origins and usage and then show their misuse. Perhaps the pouring of libation is at the very root of the African misery.

The word libation comes from the Greek word leibien meaning to pour. Though the act existed before, but its first known usage was around the 14th Century. The word per se does not exist in the Bible, but the act does. The Bible synonymously uses the expression drink offering. Libation (drink offering) was wine that was poured upon the altar or other objects during religious ceremonies (Num 15:5, 7, 10, 24; Num 28:7). It was done as a form of worship to God and not gods. However, later the heathen nations copied the practice and when Israel strayed from God; they took the ritual to heathen gods. Today, most African communities pour libation.

The practice is said to have begun in Israel when Jacob intended to appease God with a drink offering and oil (Gen 35:14). Although from Genesis 1-35 there is a mirror that captured the culture of the surrounding nations, there is no indication any of them performed the ritual before this time.

During the consecration of the priests, libation was performed to endorse their calling before God. During this ceremony, there was both oblation (food offering) and libation (drink offering -Ex 29:40-41; Lev 23:13; Num 6:17). That sacrifice was important in the vocation of the priests. That is why Paul metaphorically uses himself as an oblation (Phil 2:17) because in serving Christ, he has offered himself to God for the sake of the Philippians.

It raises clearly the purport of libation and oblation. In the Old Testament, it was to appease God and help the priest. Those who offered the libation and oblation were to be sinless, not harboring any malice against the priest. Can we say that those who are offering it today do wish peace for those whose sake the libation and oblation are offered?

As always, anything destined for the glory of God has always raised up phonies.
Immediately as Israel goes astray, it starts to append the same ceremonial custom to heathen gods; thereby committing idolatry. In the ceremonial requirements for worship, it was prohibited to offer sinful libation (Ex 30:9). That means; it must be with a clean heart. Sadly, today others have wished people evil than good during libations.

Apart from not offering it with a clean heart, they began offering it to gods; thus practicing idolatry (Is 57:6, Jer 7:18). In these words of Joel “The meat offering and the drink offering is cut off from the house of the LORD; the priests, the LORD'S ministers, mourn.” (Joel 1:9)

Nowadays, many African communities do not offer it to gods, but they offer it to their ancestors (dead people). Whatever thing you do at this time, it a sign of waywardness (Is 66:3). Drifting away from God has nefarious consequences. Perhaps that is why most African countries entrenched in ancestral worship are backwards because they seem to invite more the wrath rather than the favor of God. From Africa to Asia, Latin America to Europe and North America to Central America, there is enough evidence that abandoning the ways of God will fetch us disaster now and hell fire in the world to come.

When this starts to happen, that libation is offered to the wrong person (ancestors or gods rather than God), the priests, preachers and ministers must lament and howl (Joel 1:13), so that the reprobate will repent, and God will leave a blessing for them. Isn’t it time for us to start seeking the blessings of God? Couldn’t it be due to libations that our communities are kaput? It is time to repent and come back to God for God to bless us. For thus says the Lord:

If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land (2 Chronicles 7:14).

Until then, stop libations in our communities!

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk


“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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