|Catherine Zeta-Jones (40) and Michael Douglas (65)- married now for more than 9 years. Why she did not like young men.|
|Soon-Yi (39) and Woody Allen(74)|
|Ashley Madison (24) and James Wood (63)|
Nowadays, the news ache our ears, and the experiences disillusion us. Many women are going through very unpleasant situations with men they thought were their terrestrial felicity. The tales about their emotional and physical torture make even a rock sheds tears. Why has true love eluded so many? Has it got anything to do with age or would age help? There has always been a busybody buzz whenever you see a couple with age disparity. Generally, if the woman is older than the man, gossipers call her "cougar" and say the man is there for the money, but if the man is older than the woman, rumormongers say the man still has it. A common trend in Mexico is that older men abandon their marriages for younger women. Does a huge age disparity matter in love then? Many Christians and students have always asked me the question. This lesson will examine different couples in the Bible with a huge age disparity and from there establish conclusive principles. Furthermore, it will carve out concepts from those situations and show them how to escape the snares.
Notwithstanding, age may matter to an extent. If a man expects to have his own kids, and he takes a woman who has past her prime of conception, he may not be doing himself justice. Age then will matter!
Woody Allen is 35 years older than Soon-Yi and he thinks their relationship is paternal. Rene Angelil first met and worked with Celine Dion when she was 12 and he was 38. They began a relationship when she was 19 and have been together ever since. These few are names that one can count at the blink of the eye. Sometimes people have argued that when a younger person marries an older person, it is for the money. While the love of money is the root of all evil, money answereth all things (ECCL 10:19). There is nothing bad in actually using a stone to shoot two birds. If the person who loves you can afford more than you, it should be a blessing. It is opportunistic when you go out looking for rich people. Those who do that have actually met disastrous destinies.
Psychologically, the older man is most at times mature, gentle, mellow, and patient. Since the younger woman will mature faster and sooner or later she will catch up with the man in physiognomy, that will bring them to almost equal levels.
Biologically, the woman’s emotional needs are more than those of a man. If such a pairing is used properly, they will actually be in real paradise on earth. Since beauty is one of the parameters considered before a woman is chosen, then she will still keep her beauty even in her wane days. Let’s have a quick glance at the Bible.
Abraham and Sarah Genesis 17:15 had a ten years difference. According to Bible traditions, it is recorded that Boaz was twice older than Ruth.
Tradition too has it that David was far older than Bathsheba (II Samuel 11:3). Bathsheba was taking a shower when David saw her. David asked for her to be brought to him. She willingly consented to the relationship because probably though young, she knew that the older man had what she needed in life. I have always wondered why two illegal immigrants get married, rather than using a stone to shoot two birds. They should have married for love and for papers too. David brings in his acumen to win bread for the family and Bathsheba brought her youthful vigor to energize David to greater heights (2 Sam 11:3).
The story of Nabal and Abigail is very didactic. Nabal had all that a man would want in life and that had made him arrogant. Abigail found in Nabal what she wanted. The fear of losing it propelled her to use her beauty and feminine side to quench David’s anger (I Samuel 25:14).
I am sure we all know that king Ahasuerus was twice the age of Esther before he took her as a queen (Esther 2:16).
Therefore, the woman should be far younger (above the age of consent) than the man because women mature faster than men in personality and intellect. When the woman is older than the man, the elasticity limit is far shorter than when the man is older than the woman.
However, age disparity does not determine the outcome of marriage since people of the same age are divorcing. What matters in a relationship is supernatural love which is attained by exfoliating our egoism and primitive instincts. The man must love his wife and be ready to die for her. I don’t mean going to commit a crime to show your love like the guy who went and stole a limo to take his wife out for a wedding anniversary. The wife must submit herself to the husband as unto the Lord. Women who have done this have always had a joyful home, but those who think the contrary have hopped from one marriage to another or ended up with many heartbreaks. Ab initio, the creation of the institution of marriage, God told Adam he was making a helpmeet. It does not say he was making him a servant or property, so the later tradition where women became the property of men was a deviation from the purpose God. Whatever the age, the spouses should submit to each other to experience the bliss in marriage.
Until then, marry the person that will give you true love and joy.
Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).