Sunday, October 18, 2009

"Why Must Good Girls Always Like Crazy Boys?"

If the question is kept in this frame, it makes the good girl a victim; meanwhile, she is not. Though the crux is that good girls like bad boys, it is not obligatory; for they do that optionally. Perhaps, the question is wrongly framed or perhaps it is rhetorical because there is no edict or law that says Good girls must like bad boys. Why must good girls always like bad boys? No, they must not! They do that on their own volition which itself is influenced by their hyperopia, their quest for prestige, and their vaulting ambition for absolute power.

People shouldn’t really pity the good girls who like bad boys when their poor choice yields them the fruits of discontent because they have reaped what they sowed. They have all the tools to make the right decision, but they decided to go with their instinct. That is one thing that differentiates an animal from human in that, while animals live by instinct, humans live by reason.

Surprisingly, in the Bible there are many good boys who married bad girls rather than good girls who marry bad boys. In addition to the examples in my previous article, you could find Herodias and King Herod the Tetrarch. Herod was a good man who wanted to please his daughter as every good man should, but the demands were unreasonable. He should have used his rationale than his instinct to appease the daughter. Herodias (Herod’s brother’s wife who was now his wife) had already requested for John to be jailed for speaking out against Herod marrying her. That wasn’t enough to her, so through the daughter as the broker, Herodias requested for the head of John the Baptist in a platter as a birthday gift for the daughter. Such action exposes the extent to which good spouses can be influenced by bad spouses.

Many at times you see a good girl who has had nothing to do with drugs fall in love with a fool; indeed a fool. By the time you know it, she is a mobile drug factory in human body. Other times, you see a girl who has never cheated anyone, not to talk of killing even a fly, but soon she is a cheater and murderer; all because she knitted her soul with a bad boy. Modern day examples are many, but the lessons have never been memorized. Like a cursed virus, the same evil replicates year in year out with the old generation, the modern generation and the future generation.

Naturally, women have always been impressed with craziness than with seriousness as classmates and my students serve as exhibit A. The good guys seldom get the beauty queens, but the bad guys have them in abundance. When I ask the ladies why they love them, they tell me that they are exciting and magical. Indeed such magic has plunged them into a reenactment of the Tantalus Myth, and it has made them cry more than Niobe.

The bad boys are always the talk of the town, and the good girls want to partake in that ambiance and attention grapping circus. There is no reason why beautiful girls always like crazy boys.

There is emptiness in humanity that cannot be filled by material things except spiritual. Unfortunately, most good girls have not learnt that lesson. The good guys are usually spiritual, and do not dulcorate their verbiage unlike the bad guy whose tongue drips chocolate. Naturally, the woman’s anatomy possesses the innate frailty as the weaker vessel and emotional being. That foible exposes them more to flanneurs as they easily give in to bad guys, because they are a plate full of drama. Such excitement is what they like.

God girls sometimes especially the very beautiful ones are high maintenance, as such they need these bad boys who are at times drug barons, con men, swindlers: making the money machiavellically and spending without recourse. But must they love bad boys? Not at all! Again they do that because of their desire to partake in the zeigeist.

The bad boys know that they cannot mingle with bad girls because the chemistry will be cumbersome for the bad boy to handle since bad boy plus bad girl equals a lethal cocktail. But bad boy plus good girl gives some hope of the good girl laying her life for the redemption of the bad boy.

Until then, I hope you find a good boy.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).
Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).

Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

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