Saturday, July 11, 2009

My Husband Died and They Want Me to Leave the House.

Why does the society sit mute when a man dies and his widow is being tormented by relatives? There were two sets of people that God wanted the society to defend at all times: the fatherless and the widow (Deut 24:17). If you had a farm you harvested and left some for the widow (Deut 24:20). How many people still think about giving things to widows? I do to mean Veuves Joyeuse or Black Widows. When Job was being tested he though that perhaps he did not treat the fatherless and widow well (Job 31:16). What is this world becoming today that people have no regards for fatherless and widows? If Isaiah, Jeremiah and Ezekiel were in our days they would have been crying aloud again against the way we treat widows and fatherless.

Greater testimony can no man have than that he cared for others as God commanded. Can anyone say today that you were a beacon of kindness and a well of knowledge from which both strangers and kinfolks drank? There is a time for us to be born and a time to die. Then when you undertake this eternal voyage of no return you leave behind a wife: your beloved. This is a voyage to a place where there is no news on how the pioneers are faring. In every death there are always two camps: those that rejoice he is extinct and those who lament he vanished. But there are certain people who when they die there will be few rejoicing that he is gone. O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, which gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, let this weeping endure only for a night because he has gone to begin rejoicing in the morning.

While an individual was yet alive, we fasted and wept: for we said, who can tell whether GOD will be gracious to us that our brother would live? But now he is dead, wherefore should we mourn with ashes and sackcloth? Can we bring him back again? We shall go to him, but he shall not return to us.

Now that God has picked his number, it is not the time for relatives to reappear and start to harass the wife for property. Remember, the man has left kids and if he did not have kids he has left at least wife. What he left belongs to his wife and kids. Instead of squandering all he has left to give him a befitting burial, let us learn to keep it for raining days ahead so that his kids will never lack bread.

Let us remember his affliction and his misery, the wormwood and the gall. Let our souls paint them in our spirits so we are humbled. It is of the LORD'S mercies that we are not consumed because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is His faithfulness. The man left a legacy and a story for others to tell about him. What would we write when your turn comes? That you seized your brother’s things or of that you drove your sister in-law form you brother’s house? Perhaps we will write that you took over your brother’s farm and tilled it until she had other babies. The man may never carry messages back from the world beyond but please, carry our messages to them and tell them, some are running and others are trekking steadily to meet them soon. Go, it shall be well with your family.

Until then, those who fight these widows should prepare their turns too.

Prince and PA Hamilton Ayuk



“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).
Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).

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