Thursday, July 9, 2009

“Can A Man Rape His Wife?”

Evil is not relative to sexes. That means; since a male and a female commit evil, there is no particular evil that is tied to a particular sex. Consequently, any sex: male or female can commit rape. Rape is socially defined as forceful intercourse with another human being or animal. The word rape does not exist in the Bible, but the concept does in two passages: Gen 34:2-7 and 2 Sam 13:14. In both instances, it was a man who committed the act. Shechem raped Dinah, and Amnon raped his own sister: Tamar. In each instance, the brother of the girl retributed the perpetrators with death.

If a married person is charged with raping his wife, then it would be a double whammy in that it is both adultery and rape. Sexual sin and not just adultery is the most mortal of all the sins that one could imagine in the Bible. And Paul argues that it is against the body (I Cor 6:16-20). Yet, let us not drift afar from our target question “can a man rape his wife?”

The answer will be no. The Bible underscores it this way:
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency (I Cor 7:2-5).

By getting married, the couple enters into a covenant with each other whereby they pledge their bodies to one another anytime, anywhere and anyhow as the twin become one flesh (Gen 2:24; Mt 19:5-6). The volition of the woman or man to use her/his body in a marriage in a way pleasurable to him/her alone is a breach to the covenant and augurs a train bound to wreck. The invocation of rights could only be done in consensus. When a tree decides to grow in a given soil, it has entered into a covenant to tap its roots into that soil anyhow, anywhere and anytime, and the soil has to receive cover- oxygen from the carbon dioxide that trees originally have, cool the temperature, stabilize the dust and then control erosion anytime anywhere and anyhow.

Therefore, if you do not want your partner to use your body anyhow, anywhere and anytime then stay single until the time you are ready to give away those rights and privileges. Thus, a wife should not (even though he can) be charged with rape in case she uses force. It is violence, but it is not rape. It challenges the divine given right over that body.

Nonetheless, it should be noted that if a husband loves his wife, he cannot force her for sex after all what good is it for you to have sex with someone who is not interested. If a woman loves the husband, she cannot deny him sex, after all, if you don’t give it to him to whom will you give it? Couples should seize the opportunity to have all the sex they want as they are able to, for there comes a time when they will not be able to have it anymore because all of them are old. Yes, I mean old, and their bodies can no more perform as they could even with the help of external stimulants.

Until then, a man cannot rape their spouse.

Prince and PA Hamilton Ayuk

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).
Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).

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