Saturday, July 11, 2009

Are You Asking The Important Questions Before Marriage?

Is there is a perfect partner out there for me? The first thing we should all know is that there is no Mr. Right or Miss Perfect, and there is no earthly paradise. Every human being has its own nivaquine. It just depends on how much syrup you put it.

Would he cheat on me? When you snatch a man who was cheating on his wife, I wonder why you think he will not cheat on you. Cheating begets cheating. It is also not reasonable to ask anyone if they plan to have an affair. Having an affair is the work of the devil that comes with time as the fire of the relationship glows dimmer.
When people start to date, nowadays we have simple tools to test their level of honesty. Surprise them to accept you check their emails. Ask them for a surprise visit to their house. If they have skeletons they will ask you if you do not trust them. Trust does not exempt supervision. Like my mother used to say, " My son, love does not exempt control.”

Why date anyone or marry anyone who has a problem with you answering their phone calls? That means; can I trust him/her?

Is he open minded to carry a debate? For any relationship to blossom, there must be tolerance and adjustments. However, long courtships do not mean knowing the individual. It is preposterous for any human being to pretend they will know the other person. Man is neither static nor flat. The human being is the only being that repents and the only that must do so. We turn to trust the other person as we adjust and tolerate their gaffes. People who are open-minded easily overlook differences.

Are we talking enough about sex? The people have to talk about sex and come to agreement what type of sex and orifices they would explore before they marry rather than think that they will be adventurous. Adventures burnt the anus of the chimpanzee and it will burn yours too.

Finally, do you have boundaries? Setting boundaries in each relationship is necessary for they serve as a moral compass: from raising kids, managing money to how you handle differences.

Until then, may God give us happy relationships.

Prince and PA Hamilton Ayuk
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“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).
Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).

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