Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Wife and Husband Beaters

Let me start by balancing the appellation that there are Husband Beaters too. In some Muslim societies, the man uses the same whip they use on their cattle on their wives. The first reason why especially men beat their wives is because of weak communication. Violence is the weapon of weak communicators. If you can communicate well you will try to convince your spouse.

Secondly, misuse of religion has led to wife beating. This problem of wife beating though plagues the entire world is very rampant in Northern Nigeria and other Islamic dominated areas especially because Islam favors the beating of women in the Qu’ran (Sura al Nisa4:34) and treats them inferior to men (Sura al Nisa 4:3; Sura al Baqara 2:230,236; Sura al Nisa 4:3; Sura al Nisa 4:34; sura al Ma‘ida 5:5; Sura al Baqara 2:282; Sura Al Nisa 4:11; sura al- Nur 24:31 and Sura al- Nur 24:33).

The Christian men who beat their wives justify it with the Old Testament that the woman is projected as inferior to the man. They lay claim to the suggestion that the Bible lines up the properties of a man, and includes their wives (Deut 17:15 -17; I Kings 20:5). In addition, the language of the Bible may lead them astray when they hear “And Sarah called her husband Lord”. The root word is etymologically that of a servant to a master (I Pet 3:6). Their position that the Bible shows the woman as the property of man is very correct contrary to those who say that the injunction was against many wives only. The first set of passages in Deuteronomy and I kings would not have meant that the man should not have many wives for it would then mean that the king was not supposed to have more than one horse, silver or gold. It would then mean that we today are not supposed to have more than one house, car, TV or computers.

However, looking into the position of the New Testament, Jesus raises the status of women and puts them as partners mutually submitting to one another with the man still the head of the household. He accepted to be born by a woman, had women like Mary Magdala in his ministry (Lk 8:2), taught that women too grow in grace as men in Mary and Martha; sisters of Lazarus (Lk 10:41 -42) and called the crippled woman daughter of Abraham (Lk 13:10 -13). The Apostle Paul, accentuates that in Christ we are one (Gal 3:26 -28). As such, the Christian men who treat their wives as property are lacking in biblical exposition. Consequently, wives and husband beating should not be considered as prescribed by Higher Authorities but as a lack of character because violence is the weapon of the weak communicator.

Therefore, wives and husbands beating is bad before God and before man for it is violence. It is a crime too! Peace is a recurrent sub theme in the Bible and a prerequisite to see God (Heb 12:14). The Bible encourages us to love our wives as Christ loved the church that he gave his life (Eph 5:25). Yet as you know, with the advent of home breaking philosophy of feminism, the insecurity of some men and women and the persistent male chauvinism in our modern society there will always be wife and husband beating. If anyone would want to save themselves from it, they must live according to the precepts of the entire Bible whereby communication and prayers would resolve the problems that beating would pretend to do (I pet 3:7). Note that the Bible only says in this passage that the woman is a weaker vessel but it does not say she is an inferior being. Hence, those who are married should treat their wives just as Christ treats the church with sacrificial love and care.

Until then, it is evil to beat your wife.

Prince and PA Hamilton Ayuk
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk).
Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).

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