Monday, June 22, 2009

Why Are Girls Always Crying For Lost Love?

These days I have read many blogs and the general cry amongst college girls is love. If any of my students was crying they automatically have more attention than the rest because I ask myself what if she was my sister or niece crying will I be indifferent. So I spend more time reading those sad blogs thoroughly to see why they are crying.

Indeed there are three things that every human needs in life: love, acceptance and value (LAV). Yet in the pursuit of these thereof, most make many mistakes that seal their destinies with unhappy lullabies. I am writing on it because of two things: firstly because it is a miserable pattern I have seen from close female friends and secondly because it is a shameful and wicked thing to be happy alone.

However, my intervention today may look like a surgeon carrying surgery without anesthesia. I will be blunt in my descriptions and prescriptions. Their blogs describe the men in their lives. Their common and # One mistake is that they love boys who don’t love them the same way. I have a simple and experiential advice that has worked with many. Always go for the person who loves you most and not the one you love most.

The second love killing mistake is when communication is one sided. Those girls are the only ones talking and if they never initiate a conversation there will be none. He or she that is talking but there is no one responding is merely running his or her mouth.

Language is the vehicle we carry our love. Some people drive empty vehicles. But the process of transporting to and fro is called communication. Some people have less or none because for this vehicle to carry enough loads and function properly it must be regularly serviced. Most people do not service their vehicles so they break down without warning and sometimes very badly. Communication needs to be entertained and maintained regularly for it to be able to carry our love to its intended destinations. There are many ways to communicate: phones (calls and texts), internet (emails and chat or meeting places) and physical communication (visits).

Nonetheless, many have been hijacked by artificiality that they spend more time on the net than the phone or meeting eye to all. When machines replace physical contact, then the relationship will be mechanic. That is why with people most relationships are broken now behind the machine. They feel less or nothing when they maltreat the other person. Eye contact and mouth to ear communication is the most efficient means of communication in romance. So quit burning your hours on the internet.

The third anomaly these days is that more young girls spend more time crying than laughing. The third mistake ladies do is to think that the tears today will convert to joy. If in the beginning that you all have not yet discovered the peccadilloes of each other you are now Niobe then how much more when you will see those tragic flaws? Young girls always think that crying today will change for better tomorrow. Actually it becomes the sandcastle on which your relationship is built. If a man is constantly making you to cry by not showing you interest, not showing you commitment and emotionally torturing your poor soul then, leave that relationship alone. I say leave it alone for it will never be better! When a man does not want to appear with you in public then the vehicle is empty sister. If he does not want to appear with you in public then he has someone he appears with in secret.

Until then, you may limit your tears with good judgment.

Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk
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