Should A Wife Have Love For A Cheating Husband?

Cheating Spouses holding hands
This question came from Pat Robertson’s show where a lady asked him what she should do because her husband had cheated on her, but she does not know how to deal with it even though she has forgiven him. This is an except in one lady’s reply on Rawstory, “What people miss is the fact that divorce is only a man's option. Women didn't have the right to divorce husbands, they were owned by them.” Karie Ryan Ordway. I am using her answer because she was basing her fallacy from the Bible.  

Both your isagogics and hermeneutics on divorce are faulty. There are stages in hermeneutics: exegesis, application and illustration that you miss. At the level of exegesis, you will consider the exposition, morphology, tradition, culture and customs of a place at the time the writing took place. Then you apply what you have to the current people to make it culturally relevant as the Bible was neither written nor applied in a vacuum. The application of divorce recommendations changed from being the male monopoly to both male and female as they are made equal with the death of Christ (Gal 3:28; col 3:11; Acts 2:17). That is when I Corinthians 7 comes into play. You see that in this chapter, it is not only the man who decides if they are leaving, a woman too can. You see that it is not only the man who decides when to have or abstain from sex, it must be by mutual consent. If women were not considered, it would not have given them the alternatives to choose.
By advocating forgiveness for an adulterous spouse, the individual is merely applying the ethos of true Christianity. The "Beatitudes" and the "Sermon on the Mount" (Mt 5-7) are like the constitution of every practicing Christian. In it, Jesus changed the three strikes you are out into 490 times a day, virtually making it impossible to harbor a grudge or rancor against an offensive person in so far as they ask for forgiveness and abandon their evil.
What is monnaie courant nowadays is the lack of forgiveness in marriages, echoed best by the bachelors and spinsters and also the professional divorcees. Who would you consult if you were to run a race:  someone who has never run a race, someone who has lost every race he or she has run, or  would you consult someone who has won all his/her races? Who would you consult if you were searching for the best way to keep your car for long: someone who has never owned a car, someone who has messed up every car they have owned, or  would you consult someone who has kept the same car for donkey years? Which study group do you think would be helpful if you were preparing for an exam? The one made of people who have no clue about the exam, the one made of disgruntled people who have taken and failed the exam one or more times, or would you join the one made up of people who have taken and passed the exam? That is the same way marriage is. Many people are consulting the wrong people (even if they are specialists) to keep their marriages afloat. Consult people who have experienced marital success. 
To divorce is not a guarantee that the next option will be better. At times people have left from the frying pan into the fire. Relationships are like plants; at times they try to die, so you have to put manure, prone the tree and then add more water. In short, you pay it more attention until it starts again to blossom. For it to blossom to a very healthy level that it does not need too much work, one has to pay more attention at the initial stages. Sometimes, your ground is just not fertile, although it looked fertile. We have already decided to farm, we have invested in the seeds and the land, so we have to try our utmost best to make it produce crops for us. We cannot start jumping from one farm to another. That way we will die perpetually farming and never ever being able to enjoy the fruits of our labor. That is why some men and women are like grasshoppers. 

Until then, I wish those who are having bad marriages a happy one.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

This Racist White Woman Called Her “Nigger”!

I read a story from Rawstory about a Florida woman who called her neighbor, “black fucking nigger” in front of the cameras.[1] She said that she is not a racist, but others say that she is. I will narrate some anecdotes and let you be the judge. She truly might not be a racist.
In 2012, I visited Portland, Oregon. While I was jogging with my friend, I found a cellphone that laid by the corner of the road, so I picked it, especially because I did not want the threatening rain to damage it. I looked at the last two numbers and called the people, asking them if they knew the owner of the phone. They told me they were going to tell him to come and get his phone. While waiting, there were constant bombardment of text messages. Out of curiosity, I read one of them and it said, " nigger, when are you gonna grow up? This is your daughter's birthday and you cannot call. Aren't you gonna even show up to take her out?" I concluded that it was a mixed relationship because the lady whom I spoke to was white and now I have this "nigger" right here. Other insulting text messages were still coming, but now I was merely reading them and trying to interprete why a woman will send a man more than 30 messages (within two hours) if he is not responding. One out of every two messages had "nigger" in it.
Finally, I received a call that the owner of the phone was on his way. He wanted our address. I gave the address, and he came with a bicycle. Like I said, I was expecting a black guy. Instead, it was a white guy who showed up. So I said, “man I did not know that there were white niggers." The guy laughed and replied, “You are very funny. We call each other like that. My Baby mama too is white, but she always calls me, well, we always call each other 'nigger'". We call even our white friends that way too."
Another time, I met a lady at Walmart crying. I approached her to console her. She told me, “it is my nigger who is making me cry." Five minutes later, I saw a muscular white guy coming towards us. He asked me what I wanted and the lady said, " nigger leave him alone, or I gonna call the police right now." Finally, she explained why she was crying, and the man too explained his own side of the story. I concluded that both of them had other extenuating circumstances that were making them crazy. It is normal. If two people are crazy at the same time, one must feel more hurt than the other. I counseled them, and I adjured the man to be gentle next time.
Therefore, if this woman grew up in a household where "nigger" is used as a communal name or a common insult to everyone, she might not even be a racist, like the ladies in the above stories. Let us refrain from imputing into people's intentions. We don't know their hearts. If they say, “I did not mean it that way," we must believe them. I have had black people say to me, “black fucking nigger.” Are they racists? If she is telling a lie, she has her conscience. It will catch up with her when she goes to the loony bin.

Until then, we are not God to know the intentions of people’s hearts.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Mama Paulina: The People's Nurse.

This was the type of bed in Mama Paulina's room.

Mama Paulina
Years ago, I had a Beti woman who lived just down,  below the little hill from our house in Nkoulouloun, Douala, directly behind Pharmacie Du Rail. She was popularly known as Mamam or Mami Paulina, depending on whether you were Francophone or Anglophone respectively. She had some beautiful girls who thought that no other child was like them or their mother. Their mother had been treating people in au quartier that she was known to all as "le docteur". If you were looking for a doctor, she was the first whom people mentioned, even though there was another doctor in the quarter.
She was a lanky woman whose cunning and beauty could wheedled the last dime from any patient in a joyful manner. She was a mischievous cocktail. She swindled from anyone who desperately came in contact with her. She was called a doctor, albeit she was only a trained nurse. She had elevated herself to a point where she prescribed medicine, did surgery, had an unlicensed pharmacy and even a clinic in her house. In Goebellian manner, her daughters boasted how their mother was the best doctor in town, and their braggadocio became truism in the minds of her quarries. Unfortunately, Mama Paulina’s ways were not different from those of many nurses from the Lanquintini or any other government hospital in the country at the time. 
Mama Paulina’s husband was a very quiet man with whom I played “damier” (draughtboard;checkerboard) all the time. He was not interested in his wife’s crookery, and he did not even like most of the girls who came there. He always muttered, “elles viennent verser comme elles prennent souvent.” It was a figurative usage for “they are coming to abort just as they conceive.”
One day, when Juliette came to Mama Paulina to tell her that she was pregnant, she looked at her and said, “Ma belle, il n' y a pas de problème. Assois-toi! On va arranger ca toute suite.” She took the girl into her Pharmacy, gave her something to drink and told her to sleep. After some time, the girl went to the restroom to pass out blood. Then she called her youngest daughter to spray the blood away with a bucket of water. After that, she gave her something for the road.
I just don’t understand how she had all the medicines she sold. Some of them were boldly written, “Échantillons médical à ne pas vendre,” yet she sold them. She was a Catholic, so I don’t think that she was stealing them. Perhaps, they were medicines that patients did not want anymore. You know how we always shared  our medicine with relatives and friends. Sometimes if she wanted to give you an injection and there were no more syringes, she took the old one, boiled it for some time and then gave it to you. She actually told you that she was boiling it. If you were a male, she sent you to join the husband and play draughtboard (checkerboard) while waiting for her to sterilize her syringe. The ladies were allowed to hang around her as she told them her exploits with men when she was still young.
One day, immediately she reached home, she complained that the world was changing faster. She does not understand how people want to drink medicine now like a hen is eating corn. “Each time they see a tablet, mwam, they swallow.” She said. She was always irritated with patients who were hospitalized in the hospital because that meant she will not be able to take enough medicine home to put in her pharmacy. Her pharmacy had a few types of medicine and at times she gave patients the same medicine for every type of sickness. One day, Mama Paulina was operating someone who had a hernia. The guy was screaming while we wasted our time outside.
Her fees were really cheap, so many people came to her first before thinking about the hospital. If your case was too serious, she will refer you to a specialist and give you a little note. Once the doctor saw that note, they knew what to do with you. She would first ask you if you had money to see the specialist. If you said yes, then she will give you the note. If you said no, she will ask you if you were ready to die. She will frighten you until you will have to go and borrow money or call all your relatives at home and abroad to tell them how your sickness was going to kill you if they did not intervene.
Her clinic had only two beds. If she had given you medications, asked you to sleep a bit and another patient came in, she will yell at you to get up and go to the living room for the other person to use the bed too. She admonished you this way, “ quand tu dors beaucoup, la maladie la s’augmente plutôt.” Meanwhile, she just wanted to use the bed. If you were sold a packet of 30 tablets and someone came for almost the same thing and you were still there, she told you to give her the package back. She said, “je t’ai même donné plus. Si tu pars boire tout ça, ça va te tuer, et  j’irai en prison. »
In one occasion, Clémence came with a wild type of malaria that forced her to striptease. She was all naked, so Mama Paulina called some guys to hold her down for her to administer some injections and then put her drips too. They held that girl for about 2 hours until she fell asleep. Even people from an aerobics class were not sweating like them.
If she wanted to give you medicine and you request to see the package, she said, “tu es aussi médicin ou quoi? Pardon, enlève tes main lépreuses avant que tu contamines les autres.” That was good enough to make you feel ashamed and just drink whatever she gave you, even if it was mere vitamin C that she was dolling out as medicine for malaria. She accompanied that with a cup of herbal tea from a huge black pot that was constantly on fire. There were all sorts of roots, herbs and even seeds in that pot.
There was a time she wanted to extract someone’s tooth. She could not, so she hired a taxi and sent the guy to Languintini with one of those notes. She told us that the tooth could not come out because, « le gars est envouté au village et les sorciers ne veulent pas laisser sa dent sortir. Tu sais que les médecins sont aussi des sorciers. Ils saurons quoi faire.» She did not want the people to know that there were things she could not do.
I don’t know if Mama Paulina is still alive. I hope she does because there are some crazy patients. When I think of how helpful she was to the community, I can only say God is great. Without Mama Paulina, many people would have died. There are many people who did not want to go to the hospital because they did not have the high fees to pay the entrance and later buy those expensive medications. If you came to Mama Paulina, no matter your sickness, she gave you un petit quelque chose, even if it meant for the same sickness. Most of her medicines were for the same sickness, anyway. It was just the first medication that could show up in her hands.
Until then, Mami Paulina was the people's nurse.

St Arrey of Ntenako. 
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

The God I Serve.

The God I serve created heaven and earth
He neither slumbers nor sleeps.
He never hurries but is never late.
He walks with a pace unfamiliar to humans,
He leaves footprints even if no one sees him walk.
He performs surgery without spilling blood
The only that turns a seabed into a highway.
He turned a selfish bird into a kind chef.
He converted a fish into a submarine,
He has a voice like the groaning of thunder.

The God I serve had only one Son.
He walked like a man but spoke as God.
His Son died to set us free from sin
Horoscope and tarot readers hated him
He read their minds and foretold the future.
Master Lawyer who tore down the three strikes Law
He instituted the seventy times seven times doctrine.
His son’s saliva makes the blind to see.
The IRS will worship Him for not owing taxes
 He orders even fishes to pay his taxes on time.

The God I serve has overruled death
He gave coffin makers bad business
He usually raised up the dead of grieving relatives.
What would it be if he raised others and not himself?
His enemies took advantage of his people’s betrayal
They crucified him but death vomited him on third
He defied gravity and shot straight to heaven after 40.
He will defy gravity to take us home during parousia
Keep trusting in Jesus; He will never fail you.
The God I serve will never fail anyone!

 Hamilton Ayuk, 2014.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Have You Been Attacked By The Itchy Ear Syndrome?

This lesson comes from 2 Tim 4:3-4. “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.” How many people listen to Dr. Oz? Itchy ear is a condition where the ear itches and always wants you to poke it, so it can feel good. In life, there are many people whose ears like for you to poke them with some feel-good messages. That is why professors who teach well and make students to think are never loved. Those churches that preach feel good messages have many members than the ones teaching the whole truth of the Bible. The honest people don’t have many friends like their lying counterparts. Those with itchy ears will not entertain truth, they will not entertain a contrary view, and they will not entertain a view about reality. All should be about fairytales in fairylands, imaginary things, false claims and untested claims. They think that everything that comes out of their mouths is an opinion, so they always say, "that is my opinion."
Unfortunately, I hate to burst your bubble; it is not everything you say which is tantamount to an opinion. It means that, sometimes you are really just uttering gibberish because it is not everything that comes from your mouth that is equaled to an opinion. Worst still, opinions are not even facts. There are three categories of claims: false claims, untested claims and opinions. A false claim is a statement about the real world which cannot be backed by evidence. An untested claim is a statement that one makes which has not yet been proven. An opinion is an unsubstantiated belief; something you feel is true, but you do not have proofs.  How many times have you heard a pastor say, ‘My wife is the most beautiful woman on earth? ” That is an opinion.  However, when you say that the earth is a square, it is a false claim because we know now that the earth is spherical. Your belief shows that you have itchy ears!
Characteristics of itchy ears. You know you suffer from itchy ears syndrome when you are too gullible to fairytales in fairylands, and you promote endless controversial speculations, rather than advance God’s work. Everything people like Dr. Oz, psychics, prophets, preachers, priests and others say, they always mean something to you more than known facts. You know you suffer from itchy ear syndrome when you respect the commands of men than the commands of God, you get mad each time anyone tells you the truth to your face, your heart has become callous that you hardly hear with your ears, you easily believe delusions, you easily believe a lie, myths and endless genealogies tales. Dark skinned Americans should beware with the quest for DNA in Africa.
Those with itchy ears always become preys to their predators. That is because the predators like the TV evangelists constantly employ the shotgun technique. It is a technique where the predator asks generalized set of questions with the hope that someone will feel touched just as bullets from a shotgun into a pack of monkeys will catch one. The unsophisticated are easily duped because they always carry their problems on their heads. Those who carry their problems on their heads will easily become the prey of evildoers. Another technique that is commonly used is called the Forer or Barnum effect where the predator gives a description that could apply to many people around; although, they are giving it to one person. These generalized statements may be accurate for that individual, but they will mean or affect many more in the audience too. Those with itchy ear syndrome easily tell you that they do not want to hear from you anymore if you will not tell them pleasant things and illusion prophecies. When your quest for ungodliness over shadows godliness, then you already have the disease.
Now, I want to ask you this, “How are your ears?” Simply because you say something neither means that you are right, nor does it mean that it is even an opinion to be taken into consideration. Beware then of thy adulators whose flatteries will only soothe your itchy ears, leading you into the abyss of inutility. Lend your ear to those who sometimes criticize you and expect the best from you. Even if you do not attain perfection; their criticism push you to improve your character and maximize your production.  

Until then, tell me if you are a victim of Itchy ear syndrome.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

  “Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Cameroon Nurses vs American Nurses.

I was recently sick after 24 years of being sickness free. It bothered me a lot. An African proverb says, “If a child does not find out what killed its father, that same thing will kill it too.” I know that I dove very badly into the pool and hurt the side of my stomach that caused me the blood clot, but I could not be indifferent to the treatment I received from the medical staff of Banner Gateway Medical Center in Mesa, Arizona. That is what I am going to share with you. I want to compare their treatment with what I received and heard people receive in Cameroon. 
I was very surprised to see that the nurses constantly came into my room during the day. At night, they were still checking on me. In Cameroon, the nurses would not even visit you. They will only come if you bribe them. They will sit there and cut their nails. Those who pretend to go to church will be reading their church hymnals or “cantiques de victoire.” Cell phones were not rampant in Cameroon in the 90s when I was last sick; however, I do remember that the nurses spent their time visiting with other nurses who had left their wards. They will say things like, “J’ai épousé un chien, il lèche ici, et il lèche la bas. Il lèche par tout, ma sœur !” Her colleague will say, « Mon car est diffèrent; c’est ma belle-mère qui va me tuer dans la maison là. »While life may be different form privately owned hospitals, but my description is exactly what you will find in every government owned hospital. Look at Laquintini in Douala and Hospital Général in Yaoundé, aren’t they the microcosms of my descriptions?
In America, my nurses will come in and check my IV to make sure I am taking the required dose. If it stopped, I had to only press a button, and they will rush in. In Cameroon, the nurse will steal that IV to sell it to another patient, at times in the same very hospital or to cronies and strangers in the neighborhood. If you called them, they’ll not even come! They will look at you and say, “Your friends have died since, what are you waiting?” The nurses in America beg you to take your medication. Sometimes as if the devil was mocking me, the patients will refuse to take their medication, and the staff will be begging them. The patients in Cameroon want to take their medications, but their nurses do not give them. The patients in America do not want the medications, but their nurses cajole or pamper them or at times even secure a court order for them to take them. The nurse in Cameroon will instead be very happy if a patient does not want to take his or her medication. If you want to take all your medications, she will get very angry with you. She will say, “Hey mister, you will die very soon trying to eat medicine like candy. Are medicines now your new bonbon?” It is not because she cares so much; she wants you not to take the medications so that she will sell the rest. I always laughed when my nurses asked me to take my medication in front of them because they want to make sure I actually took them. The Cameroon nurses will even shorten your dosage. If you were to take ten tablets in the morning, they will give you 4 and keep the rest for themselves. That is how some of them have pharmacies without suppliers, or they are suppliers without buying medicines.
Have you been to the maternity in America? The nurses pamper those women as if they drank the pregnancy through their mouths. “If a woman does not fear the penis, why would she fear delivery?” Our people will say. Cameroon nurses take it to another level. They will say, “Ashuka ngong gori; when you were taking it, it was sweet. Now you are screaming ayooh bandeeeh, ayooh bandeeh like a little girl. Was I there when you were taking it? Please push the child out and stop trying to break my eardrums.” She will lecture the expectant mother. Those in America will say, “Oh strong girl, push once more! Oh, I can see the baby, he is coming! Oh yeah, you can do it, push and push!” At times, your husband is right there holding your hands as if delivery is now a community affair. If your husband or you did not bribe the Cameroon nurses, they will not even be around when you deliver your baby. They will be in their rooms. Now that even dogs have cell phones, I hear that they will be on their cell phones. They will be saying things like, “I want to go to America one day, mahh ma! I will shake my buttocks like Beyoncé, and I will work 18 hours a day until they drive me home.” Some of them actually fulfil their dream. When they come here, they work 80 hours a week. That is why only African nurses work most holidays in our US hospitals. They don’t know the word vacation.  
One time, when my nurse was coming to inject me while I was still in Cameroon, she stood almost a mile as if she was aiming for the bull’s eye. Then she threw the injection that landed on my dry buttocks, and I screamed, "ai, ai, ai, ai, ooohhh!” She turned to me and said, “Tais-toi! Tu te comportes comme une femme.” It means, “Shut up, you behave like a woman.” Michele and Andrea at the Banner Gateway Medical Center in America will say, “Hello Hamilton, I am going to make you a little uncomfortable. I am going to prick you a little bit; you will feel a little tingling on our skin.” While she is doing that, she is asking you what you like. Despite my trypanophobia or aichmophobia (pick your choice), I would not even realize that they had given me an injection.  
Those women at the Banner Gateway hospital did their job as their calling. They held conversations with me; albeit to my chagrin because I wanted to sleep. Being in the hospital, I could only sleep with my one eye closed, so I woke up every time someone came in. I was fascinated with the care the people showed me. Nurse after nurse, case worker, chaplain, doctor and specialist came in to check on me as I laid in bed pondering on why I was sick in the first place. In Cameroon, the doctor was like God and the nurses his angels that you could barely see. Americans are really blessed; I hope they know that. You can just reverse it now and say, “Cameroonians are really cursed; I hope they know that.”

Until then, I just wish that Cameroonians will change their mentality.

St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).


There was a woman who lived in the quarters.
She had a child called Lovina from the barracks.
The father was conscripted and ferried to the oil war.
So the barracks made her mother a whore .
The generals and captains dipping in her arse.
The young bachelors flocking en mass.
Everybody says Mami Lovina is not thinking.
Only Mami Lovina knew she was calculating.
Edulcorated by nectars, she attended every stag.
One day papa Lovina came back in a bag.
People had different reasons to cry.
Some shed tears of joy for their leftover pie.
Pimps were eying Lovina's theobroma cacao.
She herself has now developed her own motto.
Lovina has not learned it in school.
She saw her mom pinned on the stool.
Let it be her turn to build her stocks up.
She is humping and grinding her way up.

Lovina cherche l’amour à Georgia!
Lovina demande l'amour à Arizona!
Lovina supplie l'amour à Montana!
Lovina a besoin d'amour à Philadephia!

Everybody loves Lovina!
Everybody wants Lovina!
Everybody touches Lovina!
Everybody snifs Lovina!
Oh oh oooooooo Lovina!
Ei ei iiiiiiiiii Lovina!
Ye ye eeeeeee Lovina!
We kehhhhhhhh Lovina!

This girl is the mother of those beautiful daughters.
Gyrating her ikebe and makandi like sea waves.
That was the virgin the society has made a monster.
Giving her soul away to the many men who hover.
Do you see her now making her own decisions.
Men lust for her, but she is their lovely accismus.
During bedmatics she will crawl and moan.
Meticulously calculating every dime to own.
War has brought untold sorrow .
Women and children are like grass they mow.
Villages have been burnt and erased.
Vitativeness is now totally deceased.
After world war I the League of Nations was formed.
After world war II the United Nations was formed.
Young beautiful have been ligated to prostitution.
Yet the canons have continued ratadtadtad in motion.
Syria is burning and Central Africa is glowing.
Hunger and famine's havoc are overflowing.

Lovina cherche l’amour à North Dakota!
Lovina demande l'amour à California!
Lovina supplie l'amour à Nevada!
Lovina a besoin d'amour à

Everybody loves Lovina!
Everybody wants Lovina!
Everybody touches Lovina!
Everybody snifs Lovina!
Oh oh oooooooo Lovina!
Ei ei iiiiiiiiii Lovina!
Ye ye eeeeeee Lovina!
We kehhhhhhhh Lovina!

Lovina decided to go back to school.
She became a lawyer which was cool.
Men who had exploited her now tremble.
Determination will take you up the pinacle.
Lovina in swaps will not die in the swamps.
Lovinas rise and put your hands up for success.
They thought they had given her schadenfreude.
They are finding out she is giving back lebensfreude.
Lovina is now shaking her body with hakuna matata.
Lovina married serious papy so no more wakawaka.
Lovina shouts and dances no more like a mistress.
Little Lovina's father treats Lovina as a special princess.
Let love put your back down and not desperation.
Even if the poor are growing poorer and the rich richer.

Lovina cherche l'amour, wakawaka!
Lovina demande l'amour, wakawaka!
Lovina supplie l'amour, wakawaka!
Lovina a besoin d'amour,wakawaka!

Everybody loves Lovina!
Everybody wants Lovina!
Everybody touches Lovina!
Everybody snifs Lovina!
Oh oh oooooooo Lovina!
Ei ei iiiiiiiiii Lovina!
Ye ye eeeeeee Lovina!
We kehhhhhhhh Lovina!
Hamilton Ayuk 2014.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

“Should Christians Visit Mediums and Psychics?”

I want you to start by watching this video.

I will start by defining what the word Christian means. Christian means “follower of Christ” (strong G5546), and it is used only three times in the entire Bible. In all three occasions, it retains the same root word “Christianos”. If you remember in the beginning of Jesus’ ministry, He called people he met to “follow” him, so He will make them fishers of men (Mt 4:19-20; Mk 1:17). It was a fulfillment of Ezekiel’s prophecy (Ezek 47:10). Those followers will later be called disciples (learners, students, pupils). The Master then takes them for a crash course in what will become “The Sermon on the Mount” and “The Beatitudes”. A medium is a mediator between humans and the spirit world or the world of the dead and their spirits. You can call them necromancers or ventriloquists or popularly known as psychics in the US. In Africa, the traditional healers also act as mediums, for example, the Sangomas of South Africa. They consult the dead to gain knowledge about the past and future. The words medium and wizard are synonyms because a wizard is someone with a familiar spirit and the medium is someone who uses a familiar spirit to communicate or gain knowledge. The question now becomes, “Is there anything bad for the followers of Christ to consult people who talk with the dead or who will link them to their dead ones to know their past or their future?”

Another question we must ask is, “Are the mediums really communicating with your departed beloveds?” Each person has an angel encamping around them. The Christians have the angel of the Lord (Ps. 34:7) while the unbeliever have the familiar spirit. After the fall of man, God and the devil struggle to win every soul over. That means; although the breath of God resides in you, the angel of the Lord sent by God and the demon sent by the devil each hover around in an attempt to seduce you. The demon is familiar with you and is called familiar spirit (Lev. 19:31; 1 Sam 28:7, Is. 29:14). When you die, the spirit of God goes back to God. The angel of the Lord is withdrawn, but the familiar spirit remains. The familiar spirit can reenter the body of the dead man and you start to live. That is what we mean by a ghost. Ghosts are not a new phenomenon because they existed in the Bible both in the O.T ((Lev 20:27; 1Chr. 10:13; Chr.33:6) and N.T (Mt 14:26, Mk 6:49). The term ghost in the Bible means life while its equivalent is spirit. That means a ghost is the natural body of a dead person vivified by a demonic spirit.

Yesteryears, divination fell under what was generally called the Mantic Arts. Nowadays, divination is monnaie courant in these three fields: Chiromancy or Palmastry, augury and cartomancy and horoscopy and astrology. This practice of speaking to the dead was common in the Old Testament and the New Testament. At Endor, King Saul wanted to talk to the defunct Prophet Samuel (I Sam 28), albeit a practice that was totally prohibited in their days (Deut. 18:10-12). Considering that we live in another dispensation (Dispensation of Grace), it might not concern the modern Christians, especially because it was not a moral law. However, the condemnation of Barjesus by Paul shows that God’s dislike for it transcended the Old Testament, and Paul and Barnabas will meet Barjesus (Elymas) in a confrontation as they attempted to evangelize Sergius Paulus (Acts 13:6-8).

The confrontation exists between Barjesus and Paul because the former was an agent of the devil whose task was and is to hinder men of God and men of power from coming to God and Paul-a follower of Christ is to bring them to God. Therefore, in their different missions (same like the familiar spirit and Spirit of God), they are diametrically opposed to each other. Consequently, the medium cannot be drawing you to God; it is to draw you away from God.

The reason many are flooding to talk-shows to talk with mediums like John Edward, Theresa Caputo, Sally Morgan, etc is because they have forsaken God and his statutes (2 Chr. 7:19-22). When you forsake God, he will forsake you (2 Chr. 15:2). I am sure that you are aware of the falsehood of most of these psychics. Some of them are very wretched, yet they say that they want to make you rich. Others say that they will help you win the lottery, yet they ask you to pay them. Why don’t they just win the lottery themselves? See how a Psychic is being exposed. It is not as if everything those mediums say is false. Some are true and others are false. The mediums use two main techniques to capture the attention of their preys. They use the shotgun technique and the Forer Effect. The Shotgun technique is a technique where the speaker asks a foray of generalized rhetorical questions with the hope that some stray bullets (some of what they say) catch some of the unsophisticated minds. In the Forer Effect or Barnum Effect, the speaker makes a generalized statement that applies accurately to one person, but it could still accurately apply to a thousand or a million more.

When the Israelites walked with God, they used Urims and Thumins to find the will of God for them (Num. 27:21, Ex. 28:30; Lev. 8:8). When they abandoned God, they resorted to fleecing, almost like guess work (Judge 6:34). When they walked with the Lord, their guide was “the pillar of cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night” (Ex 13:21). We all are in some point of our lives looking for directions, especially our futures because we do not know them. In biblical times, the people were asked to follow the priests and Levites. Nowadays, the prelate should have been the lighthouse. Unfortunately, although most of them seem heaven bound, they are actually hell-bound. Consequently, others now rely on their counselors and other human professional. In so far as it is a human being, he or she will have limits. That is why Ahithophel-the best of counselors in his days, still failed and committed suicide (2 Sam 17:7; 23). Should the modern Christians now resort to biblical times?

Jesus says: “I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me” (Jn 14:6). In the New Testament, the disciples used lots in determining Judas’ replacement (Acts 1:26). However, after the Holy Spirit baptism, the practice disappeared because “He will guide us into all truth” (Jn 16:13). Nowadays, fleecing is redundant to those who tarry in prayer and supplication because of the presence of the Holy Spirit that abides with us and guides us in our decision-making.

It is expedient to know that you may very well know about your future but still be helpless to defend yourself from impending danger because “man proposes, but God disposes” (Prov 16:9). Who is stronger: your dead relative or God- your Creator? God has outlived your future, and he has pledged guarantees. No one visits the medium if he/she is not overladen with the cares of this life. They can enjoy those guarantees if they cast all their cares unto Him, for He cares for them (Mt 11:28; I pet 5:8). God has a future of peace and not of evil and the end you desire to give you (Jer 29:11).

Therefore, the consultation of mediums and Mantic Arts are practices that God condemns without reservation. Do you want to go to God, or do you want to go to the devil? In listening to mediums who communicate with evil spirits, you are separating yourself away from God. In listening to the Holy Spirit, you are abiding in the Lord ,and he will abide in you. Mediums are of the devil and not of God. God has your future locked up. You should stay focus and not allow yourself to be sidetracked by the devil and his agents.

Until then, let God be your Guide.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

“Can Someone Be A Christian And A Homosexual?”

Bishop Gene Robinson on his wedding day with his now divorced partner: Mark Andrews.
Finally, I have found time to answer this question, albeit, it is better late than never. Perhaps the question should read, “Can one be a sinner and a Christian?” By homosexual here we mean both lesbians and gays. I will use strictly the Bible to answer this question. If you do not like my answer, write yours, and I will post it on this very blog. The first thing is to define both words and then examine their operations in the Bible.  
Homosexuality is like a hobby. You decide to learn it. In this case, you use your body in the unnatural way possible. While the word Christians (standing for little christs or people mimicking Christ) exists in the Bible, homosexuality on the other hand does not. Nonetheless, the Bible mentions same sex rape and same sex coitus as serious violations. People always ask me, “If the Bible does not mention homosexuality, how then do you know that it is talking about it?”
 There are different ways to use words and project meaning, and one of them is euphemism. The expression, “that we may know them” in Genesis 19:5 is euphemistic usage for having sex. Remember, the men only were the ones who wanted to have sex with Lot’s male visitors.  Jude (verse 7) on the other hand uses another expression, “strange flesh” which is euphemistic usage for another man. In other words, having a strange desire of going after other men. That indeed is very strange! Don’t you think so?
 In the OT, the Bible openly condemns same gender sex; that is, a man having sex with a man and that will indirectly apply to a woman having sex with another woman too. The Bible calls it abomination (Lev 18:22; 20:13). The word abomination will simply mean a violation of customs and traditions of righteous living set by God. The direct consequence of committing an abomination is the judgment or wrath of God. I want you to take note that it was under Judaism. If we are to abide by the OT and Judaism, then Christ died in vain. However, not so fast; you should hold your fire!
Jesus modified Judaism into Christianity by pointing to himself as the Messiah the Jews were waiting. He then introduced the new covenant whereby he involved the Gentiles into the salvific plan of God. That plan replaces the old guard of Judaism with a New Religion that would be called Christianity (Acts 11:26). That rejection subsequently brought his death. In the new religion, he amplified the laws of the OT in the NT and carved a path of salvation through Himself by his death on the cross and his blood as the ablution solution.
Furthermore, in the NT, it is Paul who mentions same sex marriage which will correspond to what we call today, homosexuality in the following passages (Rom. 1:26-27; I Cor. 6-9-10; I Tim. 1; 9-10).
Therefore, while it is possible for a homosexual to be a Christian, it will be no different from a bad student. They are Christians, but they are bad Christians, “who hath trodden underfoot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?” They are no different from those who practice concubinage or those who are racists although wearing the cloak of Christianity. When the Judgment of God shall start in the house of God, they will be the goats that will be separated from the sheep and will be those to whom the Lord will say, “I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.”
Notwithstanding, while still waiting for our parousia, it is the responsibility of Christians to show love by warning the wicked and the righteous to turn away from wickedness.
Until then, I hope that I have answered your question.
St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Mass Shootings In America Will Only Increase.

On March 24, 2014, 22-year-old Elliot Oliver Robertson Rodger of Isla Vista shot and killed 7 people and wounded 6 others because he could not deal with women rejecting him. The deadliest American school shooting took place in 2007 when Seung-Hui Cho went on a shooting rampage, killing 32 people at the University of Virginia Tech because women rejected him. Back then, the authorities found a motive. Did that prevent the one we just heard now? In 2012, Adam Lanza killed 20 children and six adults, and the authorities again went into study mood to figure out the motive so that they could prevent future mass shootings. Every time there is a mass shooting, the authorities always jump in to ask the motive. They resemble the, “captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.” (2 Tim 3:6-7).With a motive or no motive, the heart of man is deceitful and desperately wicked. Why is it that a child can steal a cookie but not $2 million? She can see the cookie, but she cannot see 2 millions. If she could see 2 millions and she can carry all at once, she will do that. I always try to place myself in the position of those who have lost loved ones. Should they have lost them now? Why can’t the authorities stop mass shootings despite having seen many? They can learn all they want, but they will never succeed, except they come to the knowledge of truth.  

In April 24, 2014, Christopher Plaskon stabbed Maren Sanchez to death on the hallway of their school: Jonathan Law High School because she refused to be his prom date. One can easily point to that as a motive, yet that is not the leitmotif. It is his inability to accept rejection that caused him to murder. We are living in a society where it is insensitive to tell people the truth to their face for fear of hurting their feelings and many have grown to think that everything must go their way. Many young boys and girls do not know that they can be rejected. Many think that due to their beauty, smartness, opulence and popularity everyone must go with what they say and want. A child who is well brought up will know that men undergo a lot of rejection, no matter their social status. That happens so because it is generally the man who makes the move to woo a woman. If women were making or when they make the first move, they experience as much rejection as their male counterparts. Consequently, the problem here is the inability to deal with rejection and failure.  

On May 3, 2010, Amanda Hess published an article about a fox 5 News report that showed a young woman who was shot on the ankle for refusing to give her phone number to a stranger. Both the victim and assailant contributed to the situation. The woman could have given him the number and then block it or report him for harassment if he persisted in calling her when she had banned him from doing so. Refusing to give him was jeopardizing her life. She did not have to fight that battle! We are neither endorsing the violent nature of the man nor are we approving his behavior. The assailant should have known that a woman has two answers to give him: yes, he hangs around and no, he continues to other women until he finds the one who will accept him. Hellas, we are in a society where rights triumph over common sense.

A few years ago, a male student told me how he approached a female classmate to go to prom with him. She turned him down, but she did not leave it there. She propagated how she turned him down, and the young man was furious. The fault again is on both sides. If you turn a man down, do not make him feel worthless. If a woman turns you down, it is not the end of the world. If parents will sit down and talk with their children, these shootings will greatly reduce.  How then can they benefit from the family when there is a familyquake? Divorce here and divorce there, and no marriage is standing upright anymore. Kids are left to fend for their own tutelage. Complicating matters again is the culture of guns.

I had used the analogy of the kid stealing cookies and was unable to steal 2 million. It is not because she cannot; it is because she does not see the money. What she can easily see are cookies. That is why she steals them! The culture of guns has made killing easier for these young people. We can blame the young man all we want and say how wicked he is, but had he had a good family structure, where kids sit and express their feelings, his parents would have taught him on how to handle rejection. Many young people do not know how to handle rejection. Sometimes, even adults do not know how to handle rejection. Nowadays, we must be politically, religiously and socially correct so that we do not offend others.

One day, I told the students that, "It is important to watch your weight by selecting what you eat and drink and make sure you exercise." A young obese girl stood up and asked me, “Are you calling us fat? If not, why are you telling us about our weight?” Another student said, “He did not say anyone is fat; he is saying that we should not eat what will make us fat.. You all should chill!” If a child at that age already has those itchy ears that make her want to hear only feel-good things, even when she is going into the abyss, then what do you expect when she is in a position of power? Everyone wants to live their lives at the expense of others. Such a child is not ready to deal with rejection.

The young people are not taught at home on how to approach life’s trials, failures and disappointments. That is why suicide is increasing amongst them today. They are also not prepared in school as many schools think that everything towards building character is religion. Many kids lack a favorable self-esteem. They do not know how to deal with rejection.

A boy asked me one day in private if I had ever been rejected by a girl. I told him that I will not answer him in private. I will like for him to ask the question in front of the whole class. I wanted the entire class to benefit from the lesson and to know that women have rejected me a lot, and I have rejected them too. The boys were shocked and asked me what I did. “Did you beat her up? Did you curse her out? One asked me. “I will tell that bit..h to go fu.k herself.” His male classmate echoed. I realized how many young boys think that every woman they speak to must go out with them. It also showed that those kids were not ready to deal with rejection. I told them that it was normal to be rejected, and we should not overladen ourselves because a lady or man rejected us.

Another student asked me one time, “Mr. Ayuk is anything wrong with me?” I asked him why. He told me that, “Every girl I speak to, rejects me.” I laughed and undertook a self-esteem building project to let him know that he must feel good about himself. and know that it will always happen. In so far as a man approaches women, there are some who will reject him.

These are lessons he should have learnt from his parents that it is ok to be rejected. No matter how rich, smart, beautiful or popular we are, it is not everyone who will accept us. Although guns are a part of this killing culture, the inability to deal with failures and rejections are the main culprits. Look, there is no mass murderer who did not have a character deficiency. The time has come to invest in raising up young people to be ready at the attacks of life. They should be ready to fight against everything that life throws at them. Except we do that, we will keep learning to find out the motives without coming to the knowledge of truth. If Elliot Oliver Robertson Rodger was taught that, he would not have killed these people. With the money he bought the ammunition, he would have gone to Eastern Europe and picked up a bevy of Ukrainian beauties.

Until then, it is high time for education to target the mind and the heart too.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).