Why Are So Many Women in America Killed By Their Husbands or Boyfriends?



40% of murdered women worldwide are done by their husbands or boyfriends.[1] 6 women are murdered daily in Mexico.[2] Oh, Mexicans are barbaric. Oh wait before you send troops to protect the lives of women in Mexico. More than 3 women are murdered daily in the United States.[3] This does not mean that women do not kill men. You can ask Nancy Grace[4] because she has every current news and drama with her hyperbolic histrionics and melodramatization. Here are some women who killed their lovers: Francine Hughes,[5] Sheyna Hubers,[6] Jodi Arias[7] and Opal Williams[8] at least. However, that number pales in comparison to the number of men who kill their female lovers. Femicide rates are about 40-50% of the homicide rates.[9] Many people are focused on treating the symptoms, but this article is an attempt to cure the disease itself because most of those deaths could have been prevented.  Therefore, I will provide four causes and preventions or solutions.  
The society is used to being too reactionary rather than preventive. Why are so many lovers killing each other nowadays? Most relationships nowadays are not based on love; they are based on physiognomy, wealth, social status or personal interest. These are ephemeral factors that vanish with time and do not provide real satisfaction. Most of those relationships have no bond since love is a bond in spirit that is physically administered in friendship. The bond by an object vanishes as the object depreciates in value. People should start building relationships on love rather than artificial things that have no value.
Naturally, American men do not know how to treat women[10]; that is why you will see that none of the advanced countries in Europe has the same femicide rates as the US.[11] Surprisingly, femicide rates are very high too in Bible belt areas which can cast a glimpse of the cause.[12] There are some people who misread when the Bible says that the woman is a weaker vessel (I pet 3:7). They take that to mean that she is an inferior being.
When I visited Universidad Autonoma de Guadalajara in Mexico, I found out that 4 out of the 6 divorced Mexican women in our group had a similar tale. Their husbands ran away with younger women. I asked them why they could not correct it by marrying older men. They told me that they did not know better when they were young. At the time, each of them was dating a guy older than them. Women age faster than men. Since most relationships are based on the physique, the women age ungracefully, leaving their lustful lovers no other recourse than to run away for the one who is still looking young. That running away is not really running away because the tentacles of the law will draw him closer to the woman he now considers Mendusa if they had a child. Most marriages where the woman was older than the man or they were both almost the same age, ended up in divorce. It does not mean that the one with a considerable age disparity between the man and the woman always lasts eternally. Most women do not kill their husbands or boyfriends because they know that they can just walk away and let the courts rob him for them. Men do not have that luxury. 
Men see themselves as abandoned and consider murder as the better recourse. The men tried to remedy the situation by forming the Father’s Rights Movement, Dads in Distress and Battered Husband Club all to no avail. As a result, they apply jungle justice. The fear of losing property is one of the risk factors.[13] The solution is to revise the laws of the country about divorce, property partition and inheritance and custody. Most divorce laws discriminate against men in alimony, child support and child custody. In addition, there is unequal reaction to wife rape accusation. To solve this problem, you will have to look at the causes. Otherwise, you will have to kill or imprison all the men because you do not know which one will kill his wife or girlfriend. 
Most men have killed their girlfriends when she was pregnant and refused to either keep it secret or threatened to stake him with child support.[14] If a man tells you to abort, you should immediately report it to a trusted family member or friends and then tell him that you have told them, so in case you die or something happens to your child, he will he held responsible.
Notwithstanding, child support should totally be abolished in our society. It is making most men the human ATMs for some women. I knew a woman who had 6 dads for five children because she had four men for four children and two men for one child. Both men paid child support while she slept and went to the spa salon twice a week. In most countries where there is no child support, the men keep the children, but if the man wants the woman to keep the child or children, he assisted the woman. Do you mean that only American women love their kids more than their men? Most women in America fight to keep the kids for child support. People always write to me and say," you are very stupid."Well, I am wise enough to figure this out. If any of the parties wants to keep the child, he or she should be willing to foot all the bills, but they will still have 50/50 custody. You will see how many of these women will run away from these kids. You want to know that most women will run away from the kids if there was no child support, you look at the abortion rates. It portrays that mothers do not love their kids more than the fathers. 
More so, there should be means to implement equal custody. The government has to make sure that no matter how poor or bad the man has been to his wife, he should have equal custody of his child with his wife. A man could be mean spirited to a woman who entrapped him to having a child with her or just for some other reason, but he may be loving to his child. Simply because a man was a bad husband or boyfriend does not mean that he will be a bad father to his child. However loving the mother of your child helps the child to understand the meaning of love. Unfortunately, many men have been kept away from their kids by their spiteful exes. When a woman threatens to cut him away from the child, it sometimes results in the death of the woman.
The law should also be changed about spousal rape. Many men have killed their wives when she threatened him with rape. Most spousal rape are considered rancorous to do away with the man they do not want. Seeing the gravity of sexual offense convictions, he tries to do away with it the wrong way. I don’t think that a man should ever be charged for spousal rape. I doubt anyone will steal his own property. I am not calling a woman property. I am saying that each of them belongs to each other, including their bodies. That is what the Bible says (I Cor 7: 4-5). If a spouse must withhold sex from the other, it must be by mutual consent and not unilaterally. Albeit, I always tell men who complain that they do not have enough sex at home to consider the ungodly advice “get it elsewhere) because I do not see myself having sex with someone who does not want it. That is why European men do not have such complaints because they run to the Red Districts. Once more, American men do not have such luxury. It explains why American men are always angry. They are deprived of sex or sex starved. Femicide rates where not this high in Mexico; it rose when the Mexicans passed laws that mimicked the Americans. They forgot that a lizard is not a crocodile or that a cat is not a lion. 
Most women make their husbands cuckold with impunity. When you flaunt your sanchos openly in front of your husband, it may result in your death.[15] Try to conceal your relationships, even if you are separated. I am not saying that cheating is good; I am merely saying that if you were to do it, it should be discreet because there is nothing like the anger of a cuckold. You may want to ask the Nigerian-American men because many of them have killed their wives in America. I am sorry Nigerian-American men, you should not make me your enemy because I speak the truth (Gal 4:16). You should just type Nigerian men who killed their wives.    
Another solution is for alimony to be equitable, commensurate or proportionate. I do not see how a man will buy his home before a woman comes in, but he loses it when they are divorcing because they have children. The man is asked to move out of the home, so she can live in there with the pretext that she is caring for the kids. When men start to sense that, they fear the outcome and the reaction is nefarious.[16]
 Furthermore, spouses and lovers should try to breakup or divorce peacefully. The more protracted the divorce case, the greater the acrimony and hatred. That is why many men have killed their ex-wives. In most cases, even killing the kids too. 
Another factor is the emptiness of the society. The society is also responsible for the behavior of these men. People are too individualistic, so there is no one to advise them against their actions. Take the example of Dr. Martin MacNeill, he was married to a beauty queen but lost interest in her.[17] We need to go closer to our colleagues, neighbors or relatives to talk and share the beauties of life with them. Many may misunderstand your intentions, but you should keep doing it. Whenever I hear a woman say that she is divorcing, I always say, “make it as short and peaceful as possible for your own safety and happiness.”An extended divorce battle is a punishment for both spouses. 
However, many of them don’t talk to people; they run to their lawyers who add the monster potion that makes them more spiteful than Hera. The men counter back by taking their lives. Boom, we have lost one or more lives! The circus begins again and we start to wonder why. You can end this circus in this age. People should learn to let things go. If one party wants to take all, let them take it. It is impossible really to do that but pray God that you have the strength. Pray God that he gives you a faithful and honest spouse for life. If you can easily see why you love someone, then your love is vain. Real love that lasts forever has no real reason (I Cor 13:5) because it is a bond in spirit that is physically administered in friendship.
Until then, women’s lives matter too!
St Arrey of Ntenako.



[1] US News. U.S.News & World Report, n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[2] "Six Women Murdered Each Day as Femicide in Mexico Nears a Pandemic | Al Jazeera America." Six Women Murdered Each Day as Femicide in Mexico Nears a Pandemic | Al Jazeera America. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[3] "Number of Women That Are Murdered by Their Husbands or Boyfriends in This Country Every Day." Number of Women That Are Murdered by Their Husbands or Boyfriends in This Country Every Day. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[4] "Nancy Grace." HLNtv.com. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[5] "A Violent Death, a Haunted Life." : People.com. N.p., 08 Oct. 1984. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[6] "Hubers Trial: What You Need to Know." Cincinnati.com. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015
[7] Fredericks, Bob. "Jodi Arias Admits to Killing Boyfriend after Day of 'rough Sex'" N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[8] "Police: Wife Worked with Boyfriend to Plan Husband's Murder." Indianapolis Star. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[9] Campbell, Jacquelyn C. et al. "Risk Factors for Femicide in Abusive Relationships: Results From a Multisite Case Control Study." American Journal of Public Health. © American Journal of Public Health 2003, n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[10] "Prince & PA Hamilton Ayuk (Ph.D)." : American Men Do Not Know How TO Treat Their Women. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[11] "Top 5 Most Visited African Cities 2013." The Top 5 European Countries with the Highest Rates of Women Killed by Their Intimate Partners (femicide). N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[12] Scheller, Alissa. "At Least A Third Of All Women Murdered In The U.S. Are Killed By Male Partners." The Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[13] Campbell, Jacquelyn C. et al. "Risk Factors for Femicide in Abusive Relationships: Results From a Multisite Case Control Study." American Journal of Public Health. © American Journal of Public Health 2003, n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[14] Reporter, Associated Press. "Father Who Killed His Ex-wife, Two of Their Children and Her New Boyfriend before Turning the Gun on Himself Had 'argued with Her over Custody'" Mail Online. Associated Newspapers, 09 Feb. 2015. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[15] Press, The Associated. "New York Man Kills Three Family Members, Then Himself: AP." N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[16] Press, Lynne Tuohy Associated. "Man Who Killed Wife on Day She Filed for Divorce Gets Prison." ABC News. ABC News Network, n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.
[17] "Doctor Murdered Wife, Abused Daughter, Stole Identity: Book." NY Daily News. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Apr. 2015.




“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Unequal Justice: Judge's daughter gets no jail time for sex with student.

On October 1, 2014, it was reported that Shelley Dufresne, a married mother of 3 and an English teacher at Destrehan High School in Destrehan, Louisiana with Rachel Respess were arrested and charged with having a threesome with a 16 year old boy from 9 p.m-6 a.m the next day.[1] She struck a deal by pleading guilty to one count of obscenity, so she received a deferred sentence of three years in prison, three years of probation, pay $1000 fine, complete a mental health program, have a curfew that only allows her to take the kids to school, church, and also go to her treatment. Louisiana’s Age of Consent is 17 and the acceptable age difference between the two is 3. That means, the person having sex with the 17 year old must not be older than 20 years. Dufresne is 32 years old. She is half the age of the young man. How on earth did she avoid jail time?
There seems to be two simple reasons. The first is in the words of Eric Owens, “As this graphic from Mandatory.com illustrates fairly conclusively, judges tend to find it in their merciful hearts to give lower prison sentences (and often no prison time at all) to attractive female teachers who have sex with underage male students. Ugly female teachers frequently fail to garner such compassion.”[2]  The second is that her father is a judge. This reason is the most plausible one for her propitiation. Otherwise, it should have worked better for Kathryn Ronk than her since she too is very beautiful, but it did not because she had no father as a judge.

Kathryn Ronk was a Spanish teacher at Bishop Foley High School. She was 30 years old when she had sex with a 15 year old. She was half the age of her lover, and the boy was also one year shy of the Age of Consent just like Dufresne, yet she was sentenced to 15 years with eligibility for Parole after serving at least 51/2 years just because her state had criminalized relationship between teachers and students or school employees. Isn't 51/2 years too much for sex with teenagers? Is that justice? I think that losing one's license should be commensurate to the crime. Let us say that both of them had sex with people below the Age of Consent. What about Steve Parkma
Steve Parkman was arrested and charged with having sex with a minor. The problem was that, although Parkman was 32, the girl was 17 which was a year above the Georgia consensual age with zero difference in age gap. Georgia age of consent is 16, and the acceptable age difference between them is zero. That is, once a girl is 16, she can have sex with anyone she wants, no matter the age difference. The judge will later throw out the case against him.[3] However, he had been sullied for no just cause. To show that the law is unjust, the Georgia Lawmakers decided to make a crime by passing another law.[4] Here is where the law is stupid. If a teacher has sex with a student, even if the student has attained the age of consent, they say it is a crime.
However, there is no law barring the teacher from having sex with a girl who has attained the age of consent but does not go to school. Where then is the justice? If God guides people in making laws, then this is one of those cases where God has made a mistake. However, if God has not made a mistake, the legislators are wrong here because they make unequal laws.  Permit that we move just a little bit away from sex. I want to show you how the law in this country is so unjust.
11 teachers in the Atlanta Public Schools system have been convicted of fraud and racketeering.[5] They were immediately remanded into custody after their verdict and were sentenced  to 7 years or less in jail on April 8, 2015. Do you think that these teachers should even go to jail while those who sleep with students are given probation?  As much as their act is unethical, I don’t think that it warrants a jail sentence. However, that is what happens in America, the country that runs around the world seeking to install just societies. How come there is no justice here then? 
Marissa Alexander had an abusive husband, she said. In one of his violent stupors, she shot a warning shot in the presence of their two children. She was convicted of aggravated assault on three counts and sentenced to 20 years in jail. Folks, I am talking here of 20 years for firing warning shots in the air against someone putting your life in danger. When she appealed, the prosecutor said she was going to ask for 60 years.[6] Is this what you call justice? Well, I am not sure you have had enough of sex today, so let us go back to sex.
Do you still remember the story of Mr. Megargel Chris: a former janitor who was sentenced to 6-23 months in jail for sexting with a student?[7] The worst of it was that he had to register as a sex offender. He was a janitor. He neither had a father nor godfather who was a judge. Do you mean that texting an underage person is more serious than actually having sex with the said person? Ok, well hear another story. How did it happen that a sex offender was working or teaching in a school?
Tera Hines was convicted of having sex with a minor. She served her sentence and registered as a sex offender, but she was hired to work in a school.[8] When the news caught up with the school, they put out a statement that they do not comment on personal issues. I do not agree with the sexual offender laws; however, I wonder how she got a job while others did not get and worst still those with clean records cannot even find one. It only tells you that the law that many pretend to up hold and say that it is blind, it really not blind. It sees the colors, the status and the relationships.
Notwithstanding, I do not blame Dufresne nor her father, so they should not lose sleep on anything. Firstly, I don't think that anyone should go to jail for consensual sex, and secondly, if we had the same opportunities, we will do just the same thing. I just wanted to show that the law we pretend to uphold is applied differently to different people. While the colored people are disproportionately affected, the poor and the downtrodden face worst. We all know all countries are corrupt, but there is no country on earth whose citizens try to lecture everyone about justice as the citizens of the United States. Unfortunately, they do not live to the very standards they want to uphold other people. There is no way she should not have served jail time while others are ditched 15 years and others are given jail time for mere cheating. The justice system is unfair and needs a total overhaul. 

Until then, God hates injustice!

St Arrey of Ntenako




[1] "La. Teacher Gets off without Jail in Sex with Student Case." NY Daily News. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Apr. 2015.
[2] Owens, Eric. "Louisiana Teacher Accused Of 9-HOUR THREESOME With Teen Gets No Jail Time For OTHER Illicit Sex." N.p., n.d. Web. 14 Apr. 2015.
[3] "Ex-Cobb Teacher Sentenced to Prison for Sex with Student." Ex-Cobb Teacher Sentenced to Prison for Sex with Student. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Apr. 2015.

[4] "Teacher-Student Sex Bill Passes Key Committee | 11alive.com."11alive.com. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Apr. 2015.
[5] "Mugshot Mania – 11 Atlanta Public School Educators Jailed in Cheating Scandal..." Straight From The A [SFTA]. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Apr. 2015.
[6] "Marissa Alexander Now Faces 60 Years in Prison for Firing a Warning Shot in Self Defense." Marissa Alexander Now Faces 60 Years in Prison for Firing a Warning Shot in Self Defense. N.p., n.d. Web. 14 Apr. 2015.
[7] "Former School Janitor Sentenced in Sexting Case." PA Homepage. N.p., n.d. Web. 14 Apr. 2015.
[8]Woman convicted of having sex with minor allowed to work at school.” Yahoo! News. Yahoo!, n.d. Web. 13 Apr. 2015.



“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Dr. Jean Bosco And His Team Made The Last Step Towards Finding A Cure For Lung Cancer.

Dr. Jean Bosco is bearing the fruits of education. I first want to congratulate Dr. Jean Bosco Tagne for this brilliant work and contribution to the cause of mankind survival. The bible says, “Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour (Rom 13:7).” It simply means, give recognition to those who do good things. There are many people who will die without ever publishing anything, and even those who publish may never be of any importance to the cause of mankind. Therefore, to see someone like Jean Bosco and his team take the arduous task of looking into ways on how to cure cancer is an achievement worth taking one’s trumpet to the highest skyscraper because lung cancer kills without warning. 
Dr. Jean Bosco and his team of researchers at the University of Boston Massachusetts where he is the corresponding author have published an article, “Transcription factor and microRNA interactions in lung cells: an inhibitory link between NK2 homeobox 1, miR-200c and the developmental and oncogenic factors Nfib and Myb.” This research is to show the link between epithelial cells proliferation and how tumors begin in the lungs. By creating a link, they not just establish a preemptive (preventive) pathway, they do actually create both preemptive and reactionary pathways. No wonder the article is rated as highly accessed. If you have not yet read it, I adjure you  to read it as soon as possible and join me in congratulating these scholars.
This research is extremely important for human kind because lung cancer is usually very difficult to detect and by the time it is detected, it is usually very late and more advanced to cure. In most cases, doctors and their patients always realize that it has attacked and contaminated other vital organs of the body. Therefore, this research is very essential because it will help in diagnosing and treating lung cancer in its early stages and even late stages too. The rate at which cancer is snatching lives, any effort towards its containment should be very encouraged and supported. I hope that they will quickly engage in taking this knowledge from theory to practice, from a dream to reality.
What amazes me is how a prophet is never great in his hometown. I remember some years back in the Cameroonian forums how many people because of their political disagreement with Jean Bosco were blatantly lying that he stole his PhD, and that he is not a researcher. They said that he was a mere rat Cather at the Boston University.  Others went as far as writing to his school to incriminate him with lies. People made fun of him as a rat doctor. They called him names that he did not have a PhD and how it was fake. Today, he is the one showing who is educated and who is illiterate. If a man’s education is not geared towards the summum bonum of mankind, that person’s education is vain. I am sure everyone can see whose education is of any value. Dr. Jean Bosco is showing the gainsayers who is the erudite scholar and who are the noisemakers. The good thing about his research is that it will save so many lives, including those flibbertigibbets. It seems as if the world is now upside down that people will celebrate scammers and feymen, but they find it luxurious to insult an intellectual simply because he has a political position different from theirs.
Until then, let us celebrate people like Jean Bosco who are changing the world with their education whether we agree philosophically with them or not.


St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Why Are Black Kids Always At The Center Of Primitive Behavior?



April 12, 2015



April 7, 2015


Reverends Al Sharpton, Jesse Jackson and president Obama should call out behaviors like this too. It should not only be when they are shot and killed. This is unacceptable behavior! People will start to say that they are kids; they are just fooling around. Well, fooling around should have limits and consequences.There is no well brought up child who is going to play knockout with human lives, gang beat another child or do body slams with people's properties they suffered to acquire.

 I just don't understand why when you go to a school that is majority Dark Skinned , Hispanics or Native Americans, those schools are so bad that they constantly resemble crime scenes. Dark Skinned Americans, Hispanics and Native Americans parents must do more. This is from an objective observer. The knockout game was by Dark Skinned Americans, the throng beating at MacDonald was by Dark Skinned Americans, and this slamming thing now is by the same people. These types of behaviors arm people with serious prejudice to erroneously think that once you are walking together in a group, you are prone to commit a crime.   

Until then, the dark Skinned should not always be the center of primitive group behavior. 

St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

The Bible Has A Better Solution To Solve The Suicide Quagmire.

Missouri Gov. Jay Nixonon Feb. 26, at left, bows his head in a brief prayer service for the family of Missouri Auditor Tom Schweich who shot himself in an apparent suicide a month before his spokesman would be found dead by his own hand as well.

About two months ago, a student told me that, “I just want to call it quit. I don’t want to take it anymore.” I said to him, “Son, my own problems are more than yours, but I have made up my mind to overcome.” I gave him a tip of the iceberg and encouraged him to conquer his fears. Two weeks ago, he saw me and came to greet me. He told me, “You are my inspiration.” Last week, I was sitting in a church, and I heard 4 prayer requests for people who know or have lost someone through suicide during the past week. I was heartbroken. I was almost saddened the whole day. I said to myself, “This should not be happening.” I also knew a young woman who committed suicide about 4 months ago . Suicide is really a problem nowadays. Many people have attempted or thought of suicide. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) wrote that “every 12.8 minutes, an American is dying by suicide.”[1]While I agree with their findings, I disagree with their solutions. Many people think that suicide is the easiest way out of their despair. I tell you today that there is a better way out than suicide. This treatise is to show faith in Jesus as the most effectual fervent solution in the reduction of suicide.  
If you look at the AFSP suicide prevention solutions, you will realize that they target the physical man but not the spiritual man. That is good advice but do human beings have the power to do those things? Romans 7:15, Paul said, “For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I.” Human beings cannot do the contrary on their own volition because they are carnal, thus under the law of sin.
Suicide is a mortal sin because the person can no more repent and that is damnation. Suicide is morally wrong and sinful because the bible says, “you shall not murder.” You are not only going to not murder other people, but you are equally not authorized to murder yourself. We know that God forgives sins after we confess. However, since the last act the person did was killing himself, there will not be any remission of sins because he will be unable to confess, talk less of forsaking his sin.
The Bible does not condemn suicide directly as it does not even mention the word, but it showed 6 instances of suicide merely as moral failure. We do not treat moral failure by going to the hospital and seeing a psychiatrist or a psychologist. We do not treat a moral failure with immorality. Many people who commit suicide suffer from panic disorder which is symptomatic of “recurrent, unpredictable unprovoked attacks of sudden, intense anxiety, or a panic attack.”[2] This panic disorder could be cured by true friendship of mutualism because “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad (Prov 12:25).”
Charles Morris says that, “In fact, most people who kill themselves have mentioned their intent beforehand.”[3] However, many relatives and friends are always surprised to hear that someone committed suicide because even when they seem close, they are still far from each other due to the lifestyle we have now decided to live. These words of Solomon explain the current relationships amongst niggardly relatives, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee (Prov 23:7).” They say things they really don’t mean.
Suicide is not a happy person’s act; it is an unhappy person’s act. Gary Stewart said, “The problem is not that such despairing people want to die; it is that they do not know how to live.”[4] If suicide is an unhappy act and unhappiness is a spiritual issue; therefore, suicide is a spiritual problem. Consequently, the prescription to treat suicide or prevent it should be both physical and spiritual rather than merely Physical (neurologically and physiologically).  The exemption of the spiritual side leaves the rest of solutions as rodomontades because it leaves out the main cure.
Hallahan, Kauffman and Pullen established the link between depression and suicide in this statement, “Depression, especially when severe and accompanied by a sense of hopelessness, is linked to suicide and suicide attempts.”[5] You should take note again of the word “hopelessness”. That is because it is not all depression that is bad. Some light depression equips your body with the ability to deal with difficult problems in the future.
In so far as we are on earth, we cannot always be happy because of the evil of sin. Even those who live a godly life know that they will have trials and temptations. If your happiness is from the world, your unhappiness will outweigh your happiness because the world is empty and unfulfilling (John 16:33). Solitude makes people to live with anguish and desire to die than to live. Many people attend churches, go to functions and go to schools, but they live in solitude. A lot of people have gone into solitude because of poor treatment they received from churches, broken marriages and relationships, life of debauchery, and others are victims and proprietors of past hurts. Many have refused to heed to Paul’s advice to look into the future rather than the past (Philippians 3; 13-14). Those who look at the past with regrets, embitter their souls and force the future to pay for the broken vases of their past.
Why is depression then so rampant despite all the mechanisms to procure us happiness? Why has happiness and life deserted many? People do not pray for themselves. They ask others to pray for them. What has happened to their own mouths? When was the last time you sat down, knelt down, stood up or slept on your bed and prayed for yourself for even just 30 minutes? People praying for you is good, but it does not replace your own prayers. The teacher’s lectures or group studies do not replace your own studies. You have seen psychologists and psychiatrists, but your depression came back immediately after you left their offices. Could the solution be in your own mouth and heart? Churches are now social playgrounds and not spiritual temples. If they were spiritual grounds, we should be taking the sick from the hospital to the churches and not the churches to the hospital. 
           Some people are depressed because they cannot pay their electric bills. Then we send them to the psychiatrist. What for?The psychiatrist gives them another bill, and the bill adds to their depression again. A young woman is pregnant and has been rejected by the father of the baby. Then we put her on medication. What for? The medication causes her insomnia and we now prescribe her soporifics. She jumps from the frying pan into the fire. A boy has lost his father, then we put him on medication. What for? He needs someone to step in as a father and not medications! Medications do nto tell him, "Son I love you!"A woman is depressed because she cannot find a husband, yet we tell her we are praying for her. What type of solution is that? Lubitz, the Lufthansa pilot was afraid to lose his job due to his failing eyesight, but his doctors prescribed him stronger medications. What were the results? Adam Lanza was troubled by solitude, but his doctors prescribed him antidepressants and other psychotropics. How were medications going to solve his solitude? A man has anxiety because his cholesterol does not seem to go down, but his doctors put him on statin drugs which are known to have serious muscle and nerve damaging effects. His nerves and muscles get damaged, so he becomes depressed. Then they put him now on more medication, and he contemplates suicide. Did that man need all those medications? What for? A woman suffering from postpartum depression will not find any salvific solution in medications alone because they do not provide hope and self-worth.That is all tantamount to dead faith which is faith without works. A widow does not need medications; she needs more visits and genuine friendship. A woman who is divorcing does not need medications; she needs friendship that paints a future of hope. She needs someone with whom to visit, pray and engage in activities. There is a great cure provided by human warmth that no medication, psychologist or psychiatrist can provide. If a man is depressed because he is unemployed, the most efficient way to cure his depression will be to assist him in looking for work or providing him with work. That buoys his hope. That is faith with works! 
          When a friend told me that he intended to kill his wife's suitor, his wife and kill himself because he will never be a cuckold, I knew at that moment that his biggest problem was solitude. I took him out and made sure that I called him several times a day and we talked. I brought a plan for us to safe some money and go to Europe. I painted a picture of  the type of women he was going to see there. Harems from whom he could choose his princess wife. I created hope out of his hopelessness. When a student told me that she was depressed and does not see why she should live because her mother was being abused by men, I shared one of my popular articles. I told her to add knowledge to her beauty and her power would be incontestable. She looked at me and said, "You have changed my world in 5 minutes." Hope was what she wanted, and hope is what I gave her. It was concrete, it was real and it was practical! It was not a fairytale about a fairyland. The solution was at her reach!
           Deliverance from suicide cannot be done in one occasion or medications as if there was a magic wand; it becomes a way of life so as to preserve the spiritual health that chases away the spirit of gloom. In most people, this spirit of gloom is caused by demons. Dickason states that, “specific confession and renunciation are tools that strip the enemy of his assumed rights that may have allowed his influence or invasion.”[6]Therefore, in some cases of depression, the individual needs deliverance. If someone is on drugs, you attack what made them start drugs in the first place and not the symptoms of their addiction. 
            Hall, Quinn and Gollnick  affirmed , “One in four of the nation’s high school students report that they feel so sad or hopeless almost every day for at least two weeks in a row that it interferes with their usual activities ( centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2010b).”[7] Hopelessness is not something you can cure via way of medication. The person must have faith which is defined as, “… the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Heb 11:1).”[8]John reiterated that our faith is the victory that overcomes the world (I Jn 5: 3-4). No psychiatrist, no psychologist and no medication can suck out unhappiness from your spirit. Actually, Feldman acknowledges that, “There is some evidence linking the use of antidepressant medication with an increased risk of suicide.”[9]Surprisingly, many Americans prefer medications to building real human relationships. 
              People often ask me “Why then do Christians who have faith still commit suicide?” Simply because someone is going to church does not mean that they have faith in God or that they have not lost faith (trust) in God. When Judas lost his faith and bishopric, he committed suicide (Mt 27:3-5; Acts 1:16-19). Many have allowed themselves to be controlled by the worries of this world because their hope is only founded on worldly pleasures. Paul said, “If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable (I Cor 15:19).”  When our hope does not go beyond this life, we are bound to be hopeless because the world and this present life cannot meet all our needs. Such has been the doctrine of Carpe Diem. God has promised to meet our every-need (Philippians 4:19; Eph 3:20; Mt 7:11) but not our wants. Some of these needs are met, but many are still not contented with what they have. These needs could be met if we seek first the kingdom of God and its righteousness (Mt 6:33).
          Therefore, when faith is in your heart, rather than hopelessness and anxiety, you will speak, sing and make melodies of psalms, hymns and spiritual songs as you give thanks to God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. We cannot entirely eliminate suicide from the entire society since it is in the sinful nature of humans, but we can reduce it and eliminate it amongst true believers. Id you have faith in God, he will give you good health (Prov 3:7-8). It doe snot mean that you will never be sick; it simply means that you will not be a valetudinarian and sickness will not lead you to suicide. The hope you have in a better place will keep you alive to reach there one day. To some it is an imaginary hope but to you, it is life bringing hope that saves you from suicide! 

Until then let us strive to prevent and reduce suicide.

St Arrey of Ntenako.





[1] "Facts and Figures." American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. N.p., n.d. Web. 30 Mar. 2015.
[2]Gerow, Joshua R. Psychology: An Introduction. New York, NY: HarperCollins, 1992. Print. P.562
[3] Morris, Charles G. Psychology: An Introduction. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall, 1993. Print. P.563
[4] Clinton, Timothy E., and Ronald E. Hawkins. The Quick-reference Guide to Biblical Counseling: Personal and Emotional Issues. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker, 2009. Print. P. 255
[5] Hallahan, Daniel P., James M. Kauffman, and Paige C. Pullen. Exceptional Learners: An Introduction to Special Education. Boston: Pearson Education, 2012. Print. P. 217
[6] Dickason, C. Fred. Demon Possession & the Christian. Westchester, IL: Crossway, 1989. Print. P. 250.
[8] "Audio Bible Online." Audio Bible Online. N.p., n.d. Web. 31 Mar. 2015.
[9]Feldman, Robert S. Child Development. Boston: Pearson, 2012. Print. P.282

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). 
Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk).
"If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19).
 "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk.
 Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).