Why Is Familicide or Murder-Suicide on The Rise?

Familicide is a murder suicide where one person kills a family member and themselves. What has been happening is that many men have been killing their wives, kids and then themselves. Murder suicides do not just happen out of the blue. In June 2015 alone, this will be the 4th Murder suicide (quadruples in Montana and Utah, double in Pearlan, TX and quagruple in Florida). Altogether, there have been 27 murder suicide cases that found themselves in the news. The recent suicide cases in Utah for my case study will be the base of our abduction. The examination of suicide cases in the Bible with those that happen in Utah in other places should help us establish a logical inference. Jessica Miller of  The Salt Lake Tribune wrote this, “ It's an alarming spike — only two ‘familicides’ took place in the previous three years — which raises the questions: Why are people killing their whole families before killing themselves? And what can the community do about it?”[1] There are about five factors contributing to this degradation.

It is important to list chronologically the suicide cases (with the exception of Abimelech’s armorbearer which was euthanasia- Judges 9:54).  The first case of suicide was Samson who killed himself and others (Judges 16:25-30) as an act of revenge for personal pain. He prayed to God, “Lord GOD, remember me and strengthen me only this once, O God, so that with this one act of revenge I may pay back the Philistines for my two eyes” (Judges 16:28). Michael Augustine Bournes shot and killed his wife and their three children on Sunday, June 7, 2015, in the Beaverhead-Deerlodge  because he thougth that the society initiated his pain when he was “charged and acquitted of false imprisonment and aggravated assault,” and the wife, Arie Arlynn Lee compounded it by “mocking and riding him all day.” Consequently, he cut off all communications with close relatives and friends and began to live as a recluse. This is the time that the relative and society should show concern to see what wearies him. Someone needs to talk to him about forgiveness and letting bygones be bygones.
The second biblical case of suicide was King Saul who killed himself with the sword to avoid being captured by his enemies whom he considered unclean (1 Sam. 31:4).  When the philistines had wounded him and he knew that he would be captured, he decided to kill himself, rather than be captured. The problem of many who commit familicide is agliophobia- the fear of pain. Joshua Boren, a Lindon police officer killed his wife, three children, and mother in law and himself.[2] When Joshua Boren received a text message form his wife that read, “"I hate my life because (of) you," she texted. “You killed a part of me," with the word rape texted over and over again, He could foresee the pain he would face if his wife left that building alive. The fear of facing those they have hurt and the fear of bearing the punishment pushes people to these atrocities. Families need family meetings to resolve their family problems and not wait for one spouse to explode because the consequences are usually sinister.
The third case was Saul’s armor bearer- Doeg (1 Sam. 31:5) who killed himself because he saw that his master, the king was dead (1 Sam. 31:5). The king was the source of his bread and butter, so he could not fathom living without him.  Other times when the suicide person sees hopelessness, they decide to kill all their family because they fear the family will not survive without them. A classic example is that of John List who killed his family because he could not more provide for them, but he did not kill himself. He went to start a new life and was caught 18 years later.[3] I always tell my female students that being a stay home mom is a great job, but you should at least have a degree or a career in preparation for rainy days like unemployment or divorce. People should not think that without them, the lives of others cannot continue. It is the loss of employment that made Russel Smith, 29 to kill his wife and two children.[4] It is the same reason for which Joshua Boren will kill his wife, two children and mother in law.[5] When Josh received the text from his wife, he could foresee the pain he would face if his wife left that building alive.
The fourth case is that of Zimri (Wild sheep or wild goat) who burnt himself alive for making bad judgments (1 Kings 16:18). Sometimes, people do not intend to kill but after killing someone, they realized they made a serious error, so they kill themselves.  Those people may suffer from what I call the sardanapalus syndrome because they have been bewitched by sloth and luxury that just the mere imagination of leaving it is worse than death. That could explain the murder suicide of Benjamin and Kristi Strack who killed their three children and themselves for fear of a pending apocalypse.[6] People should realize that they came to this world with nothing and will go back with nothing. There is no need to be so attached to the things of this world that any thought of leaving it is worst that death. However, the society seems to promote this spirit of materialism.
The fifth case was Ahithophel who hung himself because his advice was not followed (2 Sam. 17:21-23). He hanged himself because he foresaw the devastation that will follow now that his counsel had failed. It was kakorrhaphiophobia, the abnormal fear of failure. Ahitophel considered himself wiser than any other person, so to have given counsel that did not work, was unacceptable to his standards. There are many people who think that they are better off than others, so they cannot and do not want to accept the misfortune that has befallen them. What people need to realize is that they are not important than anyone. You should find time to read my article, “All Humans Walk With Shit.” I always tell people that I have nothing to defend, and I have nothing to prove.  
The sixth and last case found in the New Testament is Judas Iscariot for betraying Jesus (Matt. 27:3-5). Judas killed himself because he could not stand the act of betrayal. His conscience could not take it that he betrayed an innocent man. The knitted community he enjoyed with Jesus was no more. At once he is gripped by monophobia and the end result was killing himself. Johnathon Reeves was doing fine until his fiancĂ©e wanted to break up from him. Then he snapped and killed her and their 2 year old son.[7]
The Salt Lake tribune wrote, “Kendra Wyckoff, interim director of the Utah Domestic Violence Council said, ‘What's really important, I think, for folks to understand is that these really tragic incidents rarely happen in isolation. Often times there may be some other things that are happening. People may be feeling extremely desperate, depressed, they may have made threats to hurt themselves or other people in their family.’" Murder suicide is a very serious epidemic. “According to Utah Department of Health numbers there are three domestic violence related suicides each month. State numbers also show roughly 80 children every year witness their mother’s murder or attempted murder.”[8]  Science daily wrote that, “A new study has revealed that suicide figures may not be as accurate as they are reported, with key Western countries having a higher suicide rate than that reported in official figures, especially the UK.”[9] If these numbers are increasing, it means that there is something we are not doing right. We cannot keep doing the same insane things and hope for different results. Therefore, let me summarize what I am saying.
In school and daily lives, people should be taught that revenge belongs to God. It is due to revenge that many have killed their spouses and children. I still remember a colleague preacher who hated me just for what he heard. When he was wedding, the church had banned the members from attending his wedding ceremony because his fiancee was already pregnant. I was the only colleague he saw there. He called me out of the crowd and apologized. He told the guests, this is a godly man, and I know now my true friends. It is true my wife and I have sinned, but he found it godly to forgive us and attend.” After that, he offered me a great gift and apologized for all he did and said about me.
Time has a way of redeeming us and avenging our hurts. Eastern religion calls that Karma. Many fear being tortured by the wives when the court decision is going against them. That is psychological torture. Do not be afraid of mere mortals who can kill only the body and not the soul. When you kill yourself, you eliminate every opportunity for a miracle. Do not kill yourself and do not kill others! Take your mind away from material things and your life will be simple and happier. What do you have to prove to anyone?
The society is too artificial that people seem to prefer bearing their own burdens because of the way people behave. People are too two face these days. I remember when I was volunteering as a chaplain in a hospital. I kept dreaming how some coworkers were trying to kill me. In one of the dreams, a lady hid behind a tray and when I was passing, she stabbed me on the back twice, but the wounds were not deep.  The next day, I dreamt how one of them bit me on my back several times. I kept asking her why she was doing that to me. After about a week, the supervisor told me that some nurses have complained that I wore jeans to work, and another one said that she heard me tell the patients that they will get well. Although he defended me, I still felt like it was not a good place to volunteer when you laugh with people and once you left, they gave a bad report about you. That is very common nowadays.
I hear many young people tell me how they don’t trust anyone. I still remember the letter I read from a young woman who told me that "I don’t even trust my parents, even though they go to church because they are two face." It is not just that people like to bear their burdens alone, but they fear what will happen after you hear their problems or after you help them. If we want to curtail or even stop murder-suicide, we must make ourselves and the society hospitable for people to know that they are part of us, and we truly care. Otherwise, we will keep asking why and never finding any solution.
When a friend told me one time that he was going to kill his wife and then himself, I had to create a false hope by telling him how we could replace the wife if we visited some seraglio like the Red District. When someone is hopeless, you must create hope, albeit even false. In the pursuit of their hope, they will attain the fullness of life thereof and safe the impending calamity. No one commits suicide because he or she is hopeful; Suicide and murder-suicide are very hopeless acts. It is when the individual has come to the end of themselves, and they believe that neither the society nor their own relatives can bail them out. If we were close to people, we will know what they are going through to bail them out. Let me say that your brother loses his job and he has a family. He did not need to come and sign up in church or in food bank to get food while you have enough. By sharing with him the little you have, it gives him satisfaction that he is not just a number in the society begging for food. Many people cannot take it.
When you betray someone you like and you realize your mistake, you should strive to ask for forgiveness and forgive yourself. In addition, we must strive to be faithful and loyal. Something I find nowadays very rampant is unfaithfulness and loyalty. You are friends with someone who is looking for means to betray you and make more money. These dishonest behaviors increase our mental illness because of the struggle that goes on in our minds.  
Polycarp accepted to be burnt on the stake than to deny Jesus.
When someone is divorcing, you make friends with time because many kill for fear of monophobia. I always invited a friend of mine who divorced so that we could hang out. I am not a hanging out person, but I started to do that because I wanted to spend more time with him outside, so he does not find himself lonely because if an idle mind is the devil’s workshop, a lonely person is the society’s boiling cauldron. Finally,  I changed his mind, and behold, it worked and recovered.
Sometimes, instead of locking yourself up and fearing to date again, you should find a short term date that will pull you out. There is no reason to kill people and yourself. How can your brother have problems with his wife and you did not even know about it? It shows that you are not close. How many times have you invited your brother to your house or for activities? How many times have you given him anything without him asking you? It is so sad to see how dysfunctional we have become as a society. If you see a coworker who is sad and you try to help them, they think that you want something. They prefer to stay in their corner and get indulged in drugs and alcohol. How man christian brethren do you visit in a week or month? How many relatives do you call in a week?
I have written several times, and I keep saying it over and over again. If you are divorcing or breaking up with a man, you should do that kindly and with less acrimony for your own good and that of your children. The longer the divorce battle, the more acrimony it gathers. Fighting for full custody and for every property or 50/50 is usually a recipe for murder suicide, especially if you contributed very little. Sharing custody will not kill you. I cannot count how many men have killed their ex-wives or girlfriends this month due to custody battles. If you treated your kids well, they will never forget you, so do not fear sharing them with your ex. Life is beautiful so live it.

Until then, the Lord is our Shepherd.

St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

The Woman with Quadruplets

She was called Acirema whose parents came from Eporue.
Partial bond they formed with others, and she had four kids.
Ymagylop was born first, and Ailiahpodep was the second child.
Ytliauxesomoh was the third, and Ailahpooz was the last child.
Ailiahpodep was 7 in Delaware, her doppleganger was 10 in California.
They were all banished in 1889, but at 14 Acirema redeemed them.
Ailiahpodep was chased underground, whence she has lived hitherto.
Ytliauxesomoh was in a comma, and her supporters kept her on support.
In June 26, 2015 she came back to life whence she will scatter overseas.
Ailahpooz lives with the military, but she will come to the village soon.
I saw volunteers digging Ailiahpodep, and they said they are her followers.
The quadruplets are planning a reunion, so they could all live in Acirema.
He hates Ailiahpodep, Ytliauxesomoh and Ailahpooz for Acirema ichabod.
Behold a voice crying louder and louder, “Maranatha for Acirema anathema!”

N.B. This is a social sonnet about the evolution of sexuality in America. 

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Samuel Eto'o, A Master Craftsman.

In 2010/2011, Anzhi was 11th out of 16 teams. Eto'o went to Anzhi in 2011/2012 and scored 7 goals. The team moved to 8th on the table out of 16. In 2012/2013, he scored 10 goals, and the highest scorer had 13 goals. The team finished the year as # 3. At the end of the league, Eto'o left for England after scoring 25 goals in all competitions. In 2013/2014, Anzhi finished the year bottom of the table and dropped to National Football League (FNL) which is below the premier league; meanwhile, Eto'o was with Chelsea where he scored 12 goals and made 3 assists. Anzhi played 2014-2015 in FNL, and it just moved back up to Premier League to play 2015/2016.  How then can anyone say that Eto'o was not a positive influence in that team? 

Every team that Eto'o played, moved up the table. The problem with Eto'o and people like us is that we know that we master our crafts, and people don't want to hear that. Now, just enjoy Eto'o while he lives again. He was a goal machine in Mallorca, Barcelona and Inter and above all for Cameroon and Africa. Had he not been black, he would have been the best player of the world at some point. In that 2005, Ronaldinho was first, Lampard second and Eto'o third. When you look at the numbers that Eto'o put in 2006 there is no reason why it was given to Canavarro and not Eto'o. Eto'o was the highest goal scorer in Spain with 43 goals in all competitions, Ronaldinho had 34 and Lampard had 27. If it was because Chelsea took the league, we could argue that Barcelona took the league in Spain too and Eto'o was the higest goal scorer. When George Opong Weah won the award, he was clearly without comparison. Although Eto'o was competing against the likes of Ronaldinho, it was clear to all that he was the best in 2005-2006.  

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

"Why are there so many single people but so few marriages in our churches?..."

"Why are there so many single people but so few marriages in our churches? I know you said that you will no more answer questions, but I plead with you to answer this for me."
 The first is the single traditions permeated by the churches. The church is contented with single traditions that keep their members single. In most churches, they have single meetings according to age groups. How many people date only within their age groups? They are not many. Creating age groups and gendered meetings limit the potentials of many singles. For example, most women between the ages of 25-35 will probably marry men out of that age range. Secondly, why organize gendered single meetings, except if all of them are lesbians or homosexuals. It is only when the men and women come together that men will see women, and women will see men. To my knowledge, very few churches have accepted homosexuality, so gendered single groups or meetings are a hazard and a barrier to the singles meeting the opposite sex because they create discouragement and hopelessness, seeing that most of these singles cannot find spouses in that way. Do not take my word for the gospel, you should check it out!
The number of people who met their spouses in church from 2000—present is not up to ¼ of those who found them out of the church. During my time as a youth leader, we observed many marriages because we knew that anyone who was 16 and above could start talking about dating, and they could start to build those relationships. This is where it shows the foolishness in the church wisdom. On the net, most of their members put their profiles open to those same age groups they have been prevented to get. The churches should open their singles from gendered to unisex and ageless groups. There should be single groups from 18-100 and of all genders. The importance of church members getting married is that it starts families and families create communities. Stronger marriages create stronger communities and strong communities will build a stronger church. Many people deceive themselves that a family is an individual his/her dog and his/her child.
The second is the godless Zeitgeist. There is no one to see. There are many singles in churches, but you cannot see them because of the different barriers. I understand that churches are thinking about the safety of their members to differentiate by age and sex, but it does not work if you want people to meet. There is no such practice in the bible. Many people say they do not find the people they want. That is true because the church is discriminating against sexes and ages. People should be left to date and make those determinations. The larger the number that comes to together, the better the chances of their members to get married. Most of these singles talk about dating in front of their parents or families of different age groups. Why differentiate then between the age groups?
One of the responsibilities of the church is to create a conducive environment for their single members to find spouses because then it makes the church stronger. What is happening in America today is the byproducts of dysfunctional families. The church is not the best place to come for singles except for those who are married. If you look well, married people outnumber the single people in church because the single people seem to be outsiders. The single people then spend more time on the internet trying to catch a spouse and then bring him or her to church. Such unions start on wrong footings as such do not last long. Most marriages that started in church lasted longer than those which started outside.
The third is the damage caused by poor hermeneutics. In church, the women want men to run after them; meanwhile, on the internet, they run after men. They put all sorts of pictures, and they write all sorts of profiles to get men. Why don’t they put in church the same efforts they put on the net? Surprisingly, the married women in church tell the single women to wait for their Boaz. That is like “Waiting for Godot” because there is no one that is coming. Ruth made the move for Boaz to see her by going to work for him in the field (Ruth 2: 1). Furthermore, she went to sleep at his feet for him to redeem her (Ruth 3:8).  That was faith as it is defined, "Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Heb 11:1)."For example, if you go to a church and see someone you like, you should move to their pew, sit, exchange greetings and later conversations. from there you could ask for their number. You cannot sit a thousand miles apart, yet you want them to meet you. Ladies, you make the first move  because guys are usually too shy in situations like that. Guys and girls, you should not be afraid of rejection. A man or a woman has only one answer to give you; yes, you hang around and no, you keep moving. Some of the women will even tell you to keep moving. I remember how years ago I went to talk to this girl during a wedding. After telling her what my intent was, she asked me if I was done. and then she said, "You can keep moving."Hahahahaha!
You must know that not making any move while you wait for your Boaz is either faithlessness or presumptuousness because, “without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him (Heb 11:6)." By going to that single meeting with all these singles, we meet and chat. It is like a market fair where everyone comes to either buy or to sell. All these nonsensical and childish meetings where people organize single meetings in homes of 3 in a church that counts hundreds is just beyond any sane reasoning. In coming together, these singles start to know each other and that creates a platform for them to interact out of the church to build their relationships. That will be the time for them to exchange numbers and emails to see what they could build together. The church must change its method and style of doing things. It is not faith; it is plain foolishness!
Therefore, if churches want to maximize the chances of their singles to get married, they must make church grounds marriage ready, they must change some church traditions on dating, and they must apply the scripture properly. It is wrong to have so many singles in our churches but so few of them finding spouses in the church. That is why there are so many divorces now in churches that make it difficult to differentiate between a Christian and a non-Christian. It is even pathetic to see mega churches with so many singles but very few marriages. Marriages stabilize not only a church, they also stabilize a community.

Until then, I hope I did not hurt your feelings.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

"Crazy Ben Carson" Is Right about Racism, But He Missed Something.

Ben Carson is right; it was racism that pushed the young Dylann Storm to murder those 9 people. The young man said it himself. He hates black people because they take their women and are taking over their country. That is corroborated with his interview after the arrest. Furthermore, his belief and lifestyle all pointed to racism. He wore the flags of Apartheid South Africa and White Rule Rhodesia that practiced the more egregious style of racism. His car had the confederate flag emblem that supports racism. He told friends that he hated black people, even though he had a black friend for a camouflage. He told his uncle that he did not want that church there because it was fighting for blacks. 
This is the 6th time in 8 years that a young American is frustrated with not having women, and he goes out to commit mass murder. I was laughing when I heard that Warren Sapp paid a prostitute $300 and he was busted. These men don't get informed. Let us keep the sinfulness of the whole act aside and speak just as carnal men. I wish he would have seen me with the money he used to buy the gun and ammunition, so I can send him to the Red Districts in Holland, Germany and Austria where beauty queens burn themselves out for 15 minutes per 25 Euros. Who needs to kill anyone for sex; who on earth, for God's sake? 
Adam Lanza's case was different; he just hated people for ignoring him. These young people are lonely, and America is building a very lonely society. In addition, the fact that people are persecuted for their opinions because of the extreme left has forced many people to hide their intentions. The porcupine has hidden things in its stomach until its entrails have been embittered. No one can eat the entrails thereof. In the human being, it explodes in these types of heinous crimes. I always tell them, tell me your heinous thoughts, and I will still keep the secret.
Many of these young people do not have people to confide in them. I have had many confide to me odious thoughts that I helped them to dissipate or avoid. I had a young woman ask me to promise to keep her discussion with me a secret. She asked me what I thought about her killing the step dad. I told her that it was not necessary. I explained to her the advantages she had as a woman and as a white woman again against the backdrop of spending her whole life in jail. She smiled and said to me, “You make me feel very special.”  A young man walked to me and said, “I must confess, you have made me to like black people; you know your stuff, and you give us hope. Do you happen to have a church?” However, we as a people are too messed up that if they need a motivational speaker, they will not call you. They will call one of their own who will utter rodomontade and tintinnabulations! As a teacher, you cannot say much because their parents will turn and accuse you of proselytizing their kids. They will paint you as Medusa or Gorgon. All your good works will go down the drain in one day because of some godless woman or fellow who just wants to appear on TV. I have often told many, he that makes monsters should beware his time cometh; after the monster has killed all your enemies, it will turn back to you when it has no one else to kill.
Notwithstanding, racism and other crimes are a product of human depravation. Therefore, rather than Americans running overseas to evangelize, the doctor should heal herself. Americans must leave the rat race in pursuit of the American Dream alone and attend to their kids. This is the Niobic wailing of their kids, begging the society to attend to them. Will they listen? Racism or no racism, these kids need adults in their lives. Obama's argument about gun is untenable. Britain does not have the right to bear arms and their police do not even carry guns, yet it has the highest homicide rates in the entire European Union. Chicago and Baltimore have the strictest gun laws. but they reenact scenes in  "Boyz in DA Hood" everyday. They have some of the highest murder rates in the country. If you have a good heart, you will not use a gun to kill anyone. Jeremiah said, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?" (Jer 17:9). 
Therefore, as you rightly said it, America needs Jesus and not more regulations.It is not all churches that are bad. In addition, they should develop and amply moral instructions in their curricula.  At that time, the only principles that will govern the human race will be " love your neighbor as yourself," and "Do unto others what you want them do unto you." 

Until then, let us keep speaking until dry bones come back to life. 

St Arrey of Ntenako. 

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Dylann Storm Roof: Natural Monster or Manmade Monster?

Americans must start to think about the name Dylann. It was Dylan Klebold who was one of the shooters of Columbine. Despite an additional “n” at the end, it did not change the monster in him. There is no denying that Dylann Storm Roof is a monster after his recent devilry where he went into Emanuel AME Church in Charleston, South Carolina- a black historic church, sat with them for more than an hour, and then shot many of them, killing 9. After he was arrested, he was seen with a smirk on his face as if saying, “I told you all I was going to do it.” My concern this afternoon is to point our collective failure in white privilege, the human heart, parental, educational and societal responsibilities in Dylann. I will also show that the society has helped to create these monsters. It was hate crime because by virtue of the definition, hate crime is a crime that targets a specific group of people due to hate.  
Hate could be seen in him by the badges of  White Rhodesia and Apartheid on his jacket, the confederate flag on his car, and the testimonies he gave his friends. It cannot be denied that his parents knew that he had hate against the black people. Who gave him the 45- caliber pistol as a birthday present? He thinks that they were raping their women and destroying their country. However, six of the nine people he killed were women, so his motives were totally hate. There is such entrenched racism in this country that only God knows why. Dylann believes that the country is theirs and the blacks are mere squatters. Listen to him, “you rape our women and are taking over our country.” This is all white privilege! 
Two students came to me one day and said, “Mister, do you think that women have enough rights?” I said to them, “My daughters, first things first. Think about it, even if they gave women all the rights in the world and you dropped out of high school, you will not benefit from those rights. Those rights will not serve you any purpose.” “I want you to graduate and have a career, then you can benefit from the little you have now and fight later for more.” I explained. Both of them said in unison, “You make more sense, mister.” “We really wish you the best.”  They added.even if they gave women all the rights on earth, but you did not set yourself up to benefit from those rights, the rights will be useless.  If white Dylann does not set himself up to use his white privilege, it will be useless, no matter how many black people he killed. If there are no whites to use the white privilege, those privileges will still be there because the blacks cannot change their color to benefit from them. The privilege comes first with color before merit, so he has himself to blame if he did not position himself up to benefit from them. Furthermore, the money he used to buy the bullets, he could go to Europe and visit the Red District where he will sleep with the most beautiful women God ever created. Why did he need to kill people for that? Suffer that  I speak as a carnal man. That is, even if we kept the sinful side of the whole act of wanting sex out of marriage.    
Another lesson is failed parenting. Train up a child the way he should go and when he grows, he will not depart from it.”(Prov. 22:6.)  Dylann’s uncle: Carson Cowles said this, “Nobody in my family had seen anything like this coming." The society is too artificial. If people will go deeper to understand others, we will be able to help them before they explode. I see many young people left to themselves. The fact that he was left to espouse those white supremacist ideologies show failed parenting. They should have stopped them while he was young. Perhaps, he learnt them from home because oranges cannot come from an apple tree.  
The third lesson is failed education: He was 21 and had graduated from High School. That means, he it has not be long that he left high school. How did none of his teachers engage him in a conversation when they knew his ideas? Kids are much open these days that if you show them care, they will share with you the way they think. Dylann had received a failed education. Education was to make you civilized, so you can be a better person and a better citizen. America claims it is civilized, but they cannot deal with people speaking their minds. That is why the young man definitely kept his hatred for black people wrapped, even though he pretended to have a black man as a friend. We have a long way to go towards civilization, my compatriots! 
The fourth lesson is failed society. His uncle, “…recalled telling his sister, the suspect's mother, several years ago that he was worried about Roof and that the boy was too introverted.” What did he do as an uncle? If your sister has kids and their fathers were away, you jumped in and began sending them to school and taking care of them. When you heard that a neighbor’s kids were not going to school, you jumped in to help. You sent money to most of your neighbors because if they were not happy, you will not be happy. The shame of your family was your shame. This society does not see things that way. They will care for animals better than humans and after a calamity, they show up to give lectures on TV or tell the world how, “no one saw this coming.” No one saw this coming because they were absent! Absentees don’t witness events, not if you are Witness 40 in the Michael Brown case. His friends say that he boasted about killing black people to ignite a race war, but they did not talk him out of it. Birds of the same feathers flock together. They are now talking because they want to appear on TV,  We have seen this same script played over and over again. 
Another lesson we learn is the use of guns. President Obama is wrong to think that guns are the problems. By the way, I don’t own a gun, and I do not have one. However, I still don’t think that guns are the problems because Britain does not use firearms, but they have the highest homicide rates in the whole of European Union. People need to be taught about the sanctity of human life, so a gun will be used only for the purpose of hunting or self-defense because there are many people who have been killed by people with no prior criminal or mental health records. The argument about guns is the same about women. Simply because there are women, it does not mean that one has to sleep with all of them when he is married. Since there is adultery, are we going to start doing extensive background checks to make sure that adulterers do not get married, or are we going to keep sex away from them? We need to circumcise our hearts because guns on their own do not kill, even though the precipitate the killing. You see, "the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked, who can know it (Jer 17:9)?" The American church should evangelize America first before they start running abroad. This is a sign of the degradation of the human heart more than racism. 
Nonetheless, it is our obligation to forgive, no matter the magnitude of the offense. It is wrong for anyone to wish the family or even him evil. The call for vengeance perpetrates the cycle of violence and hatred that keeps taking precious lives. Vengeance belongs to God, so  give to God what is God's. We are all one and the same people from the human race, made in the image of God so let us embrace humanity, people

Until then Dylann’s shame is our collective shame.

St Arrey of Ntenako
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Was It Proper for Karen Fitzgibbons To Have Been Fired From Her Teaching Job?

I see that as a nation we are more determined to eradicate racism. Many clamored for the police officer David Eric Casebolt to resign for manhandling a teenage girl and unholstering his gun against two black teenagers, and he did. Alberto Iber lost his vice principal job at North Miami Senior High School for voicing his opinion about the incident. Tracey-Carver-Allbritton, the white woman who instigated the fight got suspended from her job at CoreLogic. Then yesterday, I read that Karen Fitzgibbons, a teacher at Bennet Elementary in Wolforth, Texas was fired for utterances she made about the incident. In her rant she said, “…The blacks are the ones causing the problems and this ‘racial tension… I’m almost to the point of wanting them all segregated on one side of town so they can hurt each other and leave the innocent people alone,” I disagree that any of them should have lost their jobs. The police officer should have been given a warning, Tracey-Carver should have received a suspension for fighting with a kid in the street, but Karen Fitzgibbons should not have been fired because of freedom of speech and also because revenge or retaliation does not resolve hatred.
Acts like this actually augur ill for the black people. They think that they are winning, but they are actually losing because they are rendering racism more sophisticated. Lady Macbeth once told her husband: Macbeth this, “O, never shall sun that morrow see! Your face, my thane, is as a book where men may read strange matters. To beguile the time, look like the time. Bear welcome in your eye, your hand, your tongue. Look like th' innocent flower, but be the serpent under’t.” (Macbeth, 1. 5. 52-55).  Permit that I paraphrase it into Modern English. “Oh that day will never come. Your face exposes your evil intentions against them. To deceive them, you should appear the way they would not know, have great hospitality, greet them well, speak well with them so that you look like the innocent flower, but you should hide your evil plans.”
This is what is going to happen. The racists will hide every evil intention to marginalize you in their hearts. You will go for a job an interview, they will receive you well with perhaps a cup of coffee, they will pad you on the back about your job, but they will not give you the job because they do not want a black person around. You will not even think about it as they will write you one of those generic mails that they appreciate your interest, but they have found another person. Sometimes the person is not even as qualified as you.  They may be in position of authority, but the joy of life eludes them just because of their evil ways. I don’t have, but I have always slept peacefully and happily. Those who have treated me as a sub human have hopped from one pain to another and one chagrin to another.
She should not have been fired. We are becoming a very intolerant society to a point where people will just practice racism in their hearts, without putting it in words. That does not solve the problem. Do we banish our siblings and friends when they point out that we are the problem of an awkward situation? We ask them, how? Her speech should be an occasion for discussion. We should be able to take in people's ugly rants and look at them as imbeciles or simpletons. All of us know that the black people are not the problem in America, so why make it a big deal? If you watch the Spelling B competitions, they are an eyeopener because they show many Americans that there are many English words that are pronounced differently from the way they know. How many times have I heard a teacher or student tries to correct my pronunciation until I send them back to the dictionary? That humbles many people who think that the way they speak is the norm for English language speakers. She might wish segregation, but it is too late; America will never be segregated, so it is a wish no sensible person should worry about.
As much as what she said was despicably offensive, she should not have been fired. This country has something that most dictatorial countries don't have; that is freedom of expression. If your own brother or sister told you that you are the troublemaker in the family, will you banish him or her? We are teaching kids that they cannot deal with angry rants. Firing her does not eradicate racism; instead it makes it more sophisticated like the mindset of Lady Macbeth. Karen's words were the book through which we read the strange matters, but she has paid for them. Others will beguile the time by looking like the time and bearing welcome in their eyes, hand and tongue but within them will lie the venomous serpent that strikes with no antidote. 

Until then, may we build a tolerant and reconciling society?

St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Should Rachel Dolezal Have Called Herself Black?

I am sure you have heard about Rachel Dolezal who was born white but has presented herself as black almost her entire adult life until she was ousted by her parents for abandoning them. Some say that she has lied, so she is not trustworthy, and others claim that her burden for the black people does not exempt her from disclosing her true color. On the other hand, there are those who claim that it does not matter what color she embraces; she should be accepted for who she claims to be just as the transgender. My task is to prove that her act is culturally and psychologically normative.
Most people who are angry with her are the white ones. Their reason is simple; why do you deny your own people to join these miscreants? It is not about her claims at all. Her claims did not deprive neither the black people from anything nor did she benefit anything for being black. On the contrary, being black in America comes with a lot of racism and marginalization. 
Rachel Dolezal says she is black; she did not say she is African American. Rachel is identifying herself by the color black and not the continent of Africa. The burdens of the black people are her burdens, and that which wearies them, wearies her too. An African American is an African who naturalized as an American. The dark skinned American who was born in America is called an American. All those who call themselves African Americans are merely misidentifying themselves. That is slave mentality! The slave always thought about going home. Many always ask me, “why don’t you have a problem when the Chinese, Jewish, Mexicans or Cubans identify themselves as Chinese Americans, Jewish Americans, Mexican Americans or Cuban Americans respectively?  The answer is simple, they came from a distinct country and could go back to that country if push came to shove. Now, which country will the “African Americans” call theirs? You don’t hear people call anyone European Americans, Australian Americans or Antarctica Americans. You hear South American because they come south of the American continent.  I have discussed this in details here during the Raven Symone saga. . 
It is only unfortunate that she cut off from her parents. The Bible says, " honor your  parents so that you will have long life (Ex 20:12; Eph 6:2). Many people will die young because they dishonored their parents. Somewhere, I feel like spiteful and rancorous parents who could seek to destroy their own daughter in this way, should not be honored, but that is not the condition that God set for us to honor our parents. It is sad that she had to stretch the truth to show that she is part of the cause. It must be noted that had she not done that, even the NAACP would not have trusted her or accepted her to lead such a position; meanwhile, her burden for the cause could outweigh that of many black Americans. Nonetheless, let us look at the implications. 
When you look at the two colors by which people identify others, there is no one with any such color. Therefore, those colors become attributes that anyone could use as they like. She is right to identify herself as black; that neither means she must have dark skin because white people don't have white skin nor does it mean that she must have been born by black parents. The NAACP fights for the interests of selected blacks and other colored people. Consequently, Rachel identifies herself as dark skin to fight for their causes.
This issue of color is the same as gender identification. There are some men who think and believe that they are women, so they should be allowed to use the women’s restrooms. They were not born women, but they believe that they are women. That is the gender they identify themselves with. The courts have sided with them, and the society considers them heroes to a point where some of them have taken every step necessary to look males or females. Rachel is not different. She believes that she is black, and she did everything necessary in hairstyle, mannerism and philosophy to show that she is black. She should be identified just that way.
When I was in secondary school, I had a classmate called Okoso Susanna. You might think that the person is a woman. No, he was a boy. Students used to tease him during roll call. When the teacher called his name, students will say "she is absent." He took that name because he claimed that his father was absent in his life, and only his mother was present, so he did not see why he would bear the name of his estranged father rather than the name of his mother who was there for him. I was fortunate to have gained his trust.During my first visit to his home, I found out that he was 21, in form 3, and he had 3 wives. 
Moses was a Hebrew child who decided to grow up as an Egyptian child. The Bibe says, "And Moses was learned in all the wisdom of the Egyptians, and was mighty in words and deeds" (Acts 7:22).  Rachel acting black is nothing bad at all, for there is a precedence in the Bible.  
As a result, if the cause and color of the black people makes Rachel happier, why should the society deprive her of such happiness because of the color of her skin? She wants to be identified as black, so black she is. You don’t have a problem identifying a man as a woman because you want to accept the transgender community, so you should not have any problem with her. Rachel Dolezal is the first transracial woman in America. That is quite an achievement. She is America's heroine and most importantly, mine! The same way America celebrated Jenner should be the same pomp with Rachel. Rachel keep your head up; you are the epitome of a freedom fighter! 
I think that we have separated ourselves enough. We are all human beings, whether light skinned or dark skinned. The time has come for a white person to lead a black organization or for the black person to lead a white institution without changing their color identities. Perhaps it is also a call to eliminate all these black and white color identifications. Now is the time for first the NAACP to have her back, and secondly, it is also the time for the others to accept her as she wants to be identified.
Rachel Dolezal is my heroine! She is a fine lady who believes in equality. People should leave her alone! If you did not have problems with Jenner, you should not have problems with her. It is even sad that the very black people whose cause she embraced are the ones throwing her to the wolves just to be politically correct. The NAACP should stand behind her. What type of society are we really building? A society where we deny our friends when they are in trouble? Where are her students, comrades and friends? I am befuddled to hear people say that “there is no social construct. and there are no racial roles.” Yes, there are! I knew a black guy who wrote an exam twice. He knew that he could pass, but he did not understand why he was failing. When he went in for the test the third time, he changed his race, and he passed. All his public exams, he took them as white and passed. How can you say that pretending to be white did not benefit him? I also knew a young white gentleman who was applying for a teacher certification in one state. He applied for one in music, but they issued him one with Spanish and History. He complained that he did not have those skills, but they told him to just keep it. There are racial roles. Don’t people expect black people to always play the role of criminals?

Don’t people expect Hispanics to always play the roles of illegals?

Until then, I wish her well.

St Arrey of Ntenako.  

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Did Rape Happen In This Video?

This video belongs to Emma Sulkowicz; I am using it mainly for educational purposes only. 

This video is a reenactment of events from a young college student called Emma Sulkowicz who alleged that she was raped. The university and police cleared the young man of rape, so she took her case to the court of public opinion by carrying her mattress everywhere she went on campus and even requested that her alleged rapist should be expelled from school. Since that did not happen, she has produced this video as a work of art. In the video, it started well as both of them wanted to share themselves, but it went wrong once he began to inflict pain on her. He slapped her,  she felt some discomfort, but she asked him to slap her more. Although she says that her work is descriptive, I think that it is prescriptive because she said, “Do not watch this video if your motives would upset me, my desires are unclear to you, or my nuances are indecipherable.” She says that her motive is “to change the world.” I doubt that she will change the world when she thinks everyone must look at a work of art in her eyeglasses. Those who changed the world like Marx, Darwin, Freud, Jesus and Mandela allowed people to think freely.  In this video,”Ceci N’est Pas Un Viol” by Emma Sulkowicz, I disagree that rape occurred; I believe that violent sex took place. There are several reasons for my position.
Firstly, her “stop” could mean stop that particular act because she never once said, “Get off me.I don’t want sex anymore!” The command to stop must be explicit and unambiguous. When he slapped her, she asked him to slap her more. 
Secondly, her hands were down and freely positioned as she did not pose any resistance. This was not a habitual rape; it was an impromptu rape; thus, resistance would have been ferocious.
The scene below is described in Fox 13 Salt Lake City during a lawsuit in which a prison instructor was raped by an inmate. You will realize first the shriek before giving up. In a habitual rape situation, the subsequent paragraph describes the typical situation. The rape victim stops fighting, just hoping to survive and tell their story one day. It reads, "the teacher screamed and 'began to bleed profusely,' but Harvey 'was stronger and he choked her and slammed her head in the floor multiple times,' the lawsuit said. The teacher “stopped fighting hoping to simply survive,” and then the inmate raped her, the suit said.”  In a habitual rape, the victim has grown tired of resisting because there is nothing she or he (I am just putting he here for gender formalities only because men will like to be raped) could do about it anymore. 
Thirdly, even her command to stop does not show any danger in her voice. Her sex partner stopped momentarily from being violent, and she willingly changed her position to sideways. She should have been explicit in her command, “get off me” for him to stop. Language is so ambiguous that at times, it tends to set ablaze the very fire it was trying to quench. 
There are times when I have said to my friend who is telling me a very funny story, “You are killing me!” That does not mean that she is killing me; I am merely saying that her story is making me to laugh out my lungs. I have had people tell me, “stop it right there” when I am narrating a very funny story too. Initially, I will stop because methought they did not like the story, but they will adjure me to finish the story. They actually want me to continue telling them the story. Her stop could simply mean, "continue doing what you are doing because it makes me feel very good." 
Fourthly, she was in a dormitory where there are other students, so it would have been easier for people to come to her help had she cried rape. In addition, after the man ejaculated, he sat a little bit on the bed before gathering his clothes to leave. I don't think a rapist will sit for some time before running away from his rape victim. The fact that the man left with his clothes in his hands does not mean that he was running away. Perhaps that was the only set of clothes he had, so he did not want to wear them over his sexcapade sweat. Furthermore, I am not a rape profiler, but I do know that rapists don't even leave the crime scene naked, except if they came naked.  You can read Paul's complaint here
Some people say that consent in sex is like drinking tea. If someone says, “I don’t want to drink anymore, you do not force them to drink.” This analogy is too weak. In tea drinking, the individual does not move from response cycle to response cycle, so the volition to stop is prompt. Tea drinking is instead like someone opening their tap to fetch water; they can stop at anytime. On the contrary, sex is like two people who decided to skydive with the man on the woman's back. In skydiving; the man can only stop when they land. In sex, one's emotions move across four response cycles: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Sex is like skydiving; once you shoot, you have to land. Can you ask an individual who just dove out of the plane to come back into the plane? That is the same emotional movement that those involved in sex go through. That is why until attainment of orgasm, the individual does not feel at peace. You cannot ask anyone who just dove out of the plane to come back into the plane. Consequently, you should not go skydiving if you do not want to land. Now, that is consent!
                 Moreso, the time span between the order to stop and the overlapping actions of the response cycles during coitus could be like 5 seconds or more, depending on the cycle and per the tea analogy, rape has already occurred. There is an overlapping time span between the time of the order and the completion of the action depending on the response cycle. If you order someone to stop during foreplay, they can obey immediately. If they don’t obey immediately, then they have committed rape. Nevertheless, if you order them to stop during penetration, it could take about 5 seconds before they stop. If you ordered them to stop during orgasm, it could take 10 seconds or more. According to the tea analogy, that can be considered rape; meanwhile, at the time of the command, there was nothing they could do. No one can obey an order instantaneously when they are ejaculating. The individual will have to go through his/her ejaculation first before obeying that order. This order could be promptly obeyed during foreplay but not during sexual intercourse. If the order is not obeyed after the overlapping time, then we can talk of rape because the individual had the ability to restrain themselves, but they deliberately refused to do so. Therefore, rather than go through this, you should select well who you go to bed with.
              Furthermore, after the sex partner left, she did not simulate even calling the police to report her case. There are real rape victims because I have broken a door to save one, so this cheapens the cause of rape. In my days as a church leader and teacher, I have also heard horrid tales of rape victims, but Emma's case is not one of them. I say this with a lot of pity for her because i feel bad for her. Our people say, "The mouth that has once tasted the taste of milk cannot forget the taste of it." You will realize that Paul is from Germany, and Emma is from the US. American women always have better treatment from foreign men than their own men; that is why she cannot let Paul just go like that after he tasted her theobroma cacao. She is merely fighting for it the wrong way.  
             The young man’s violent sex action of slapping her is a byproduct of feminism. The feminists propagated pornography as art, and therein is where young people learn this deviant sex fantasy where they inflict pain on their women. They treat their women like objects. Immediately after ejaculation, he abandoned the poor girl on the bed and went away like she was now a leper. Gentlemen, ejaculation is not the end of sex. It is a cooling off period. Caressing the woman after that brings her more joy just as going into her.  Moreover, there are certain sex acts that people must seek permission from their partners before engaging in them. Love does not and should not bring pain. You cannot say that you are giving love to someone when she is in pain. Love is the bond in spirit that is physically administered in friendship. Friends don't hurt each each other. There is a special curse that goes with treating people badly. This is not religion; it is just the way it is! You will never be happy!
Notwithstanding, I disagree with those who say that her work is not art. Art is the expression of creative skills, and her work fulfills those conditions. However, Sulkowicz’s art failed to convey her message. If this is what happened between them, then the young man is right to sue all parties involved as he did.
People should also remember that false rape accusations are as hurtful as the rapes themselves. Their  punishments should be commensurate or proportionate to the rape sentence that would have been inflicted on the rapist. In  other words, if a woman accuses a man falsely of rape, they should give her the same sentence they would have given the man had he been found guilty; otherwise, some people would think they have a monopoly to cry rape whenever they are disappointed by a man or woman. 
Nonetheless, people should be kind to Emma because she believes that she has been raped. If no sympathy is shown her, she may end up harming herself psychologically or physically just to show how distraught she feels about the denial. Do not forget that she may be your own sister or daughter too. The truth is that, she is going through some sort of pain, so we should learn to support those who are hurting in our midst. While academically and philosophically we may disagree with her, it is important not to shame her. People should let her vent out her frustration until she finds a better lover and the fame she craves. Suffer that I narrate two anecdotes of people who believed that they were suffering harm when there was none.
A few years back in Mendong, Yaounde, a prayer cell member invited me to her house to pray for her. She said that she had evil spirits in her whole house which cried, “squick, squick, squick.” When I arrived, she showed me things to pray in her house. I laid my hands on the things, and then she moved from things to her body. Then she asked me to lay my hands on her head. I did. Then she asked me to lay my hands on her breasts, and I refused. She went into her room and brought an underwear she wanted me to lay my hands on. She said that there are demons, even in her underwear. That too I did not touch. I told her to just hold it herself and let me pray. The next day, she told me that I did not finish my job. You and I can attest that although she believed that there were evil spirits, there were none in her house. If there was any, it was in her who was trying to bring down her leader, but there is nothing you would have told her, and she will listen!
In Atlanta, Georgia, a church member called Ms. Williams invited the senior pastor to pray for her house that she had evil spirits quirking. When the pastor arrived, he found out that it was the smoke detector that was quirking. The battery was kaput. Before the pastor went there, there was nothing that could convince Ms. Williams that her house was not haunted. 
Therefore, while the young woman believes that rape has occurred, the facts in this work of art tell a different tale. This is no more her word against his word because the video becomes the real evidence for all to appreciate. The woman cannot voluntarily participate in a tryst and raise an alarm later as rape because the man ended up treating her like a leper. If anyone will call this video rape, then almost all sex is rape! This will put 3/4 of Americans (male and female) in jail. However, to keep oneself on the safe side, you should stop immediately you can once your partner asks you to stop, and you should always get a written affirmative consent before you have sex. You smile; don't you? Rape is no joke at all; whether you are the victim or falsely accused, talk less of being the rapist himself/herself. If you like my article, please make  a Paypal donation. Thanks!  

Until then, Ceci n’est pas vraiment un viol!

St Arrey of Ntenako.
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“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." (I Cor 15:19). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Hamilton Ayuk. Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).