WAS STEPHEN A. SMITH RIGHT THAT PROVOCATION BE CONSIDERED IN A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?




This discussion ensued because Ray Rice beat his then fiancee (who is now his wife): Janay Palmer and then wedded her before any court action. He was subsequently suspended for two games by the NBA.  People began falling fits about a man laying his hands on a woman and how the suspension was inadequate.  That is where Stephen A. Smith in an attempt to ditch out some wise counsel became the victim of American hypocrisy. He advised that women should refrain from provoking situations that could cause them to be beaten. A lot of women did not like it, so he apologized. To placate the vocal majority, he was suspended from his job. Stephen Smith should not have apologized because by apologizing for a good stand, he emboldens the unrealistic majority. When a vocal majority who slept on the wrong side of their beds are going astray, the silent minority who slept on the right side of their beds should bring them back. He failed to stand for what is right so that he will look nice. All the elucidations he made were unwarranted.
Sometimes it is difficult to understand what is wrong with people in this country. The United States government recently issued out a warning to Americans to beware when going to the Middle East. This month, the government again issued another warning about visiting Ebola regions. Another illustration is the man with the wild dog. As I was growing up, there were many homes with “Beware Wild Dog” hung on their fences. In each of these examples, there is a strong desire to avoid provocation. What Stephen Smith wanted was for people to consider the element of provocation. The society is hypocritical in that, that same element is accepted in the court of law, it is accepted in science, and it is accepted in religion acquiescently. All Stephen Smith is asking the country to do is be realistic. This situation is one of those conflicts between realism and idealism. The ideal is that domestic violence is unacceptable; no man should put his hand on a woman. The realistic part about it is that there are men and women who abuse their spouses. We have now moved from idealism into realism. The next thing we want to consider is cause and effect.
Is every abused spouse without a fault? Does a man just get up and start beating his wife? Does a woman just gets up and starts to insult her husband for just no reason? If there is a reason, then Stephen Smith is right that perhaps the society should look into those reasons (provocation) that caused the beating.  
Newton’s Third Law of Motion states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” If you declare a war, it does not mean that you will end it at your timing, neither does it even mean that you will decide the weapons of warfare. Your enemy could use anything they have. That means, there are some situations that those who are beaten provoked them. Let me give you a clear example. I visited a home one time and the man was trying to explain to me why he has not been complying with his own share of the responsibilities when the woman from nowhere said, “See how he is speaking like a fool.” The man retorted, “Get out of my face, mad woman.” The woman jumped and slapped the man. She added, “Who are you calling mad woman?” Before I knew it, the man was on her like a bee. Shouldn't the woman consider that element of provocation if she does not want to be beaten? She is not as strong as the man, so she should not have slapped the man first.
Recently, Jon Jones and Daniel Comier had a catfight while trying to promote their fight. Daniel Comier claims that Jon Jones provoked him by placing his chin on his head, so he (Comier) pushed him by the throat. That caused the melee. One thing is clear; the element of provocation.  That is our most recent experience. To solve the issue, Joe Rogan advocated for no contact policy during stare-downs. That is an attempt to eliminate the possibility of provocation. The ideal is that they are professionals who know that by fighting out of the cage they bring disrepute to their sport, but the reality is that they still did it. Would it then be wrong for anyone to consider the element of provocation during stare-downs?
Let us look at it in the realm of the law. There are instances where provocation has been used as a defense in a criminal case. Why would it be even remotely considered if it was not necessary? In   2004, James Ramage was acquitted of murder charges after killing his wife of 23 years. His defense argued that he was provoked, so the jury found him not guilty.[1] How can a jury acquit a man of murder for killing his wife, yet we say that provocation should have no place in a domestic violence situation?  In January of this year, “It took a Buffalo County jury seven hours to acquit Jonathan Schmidt of felony first-degree assault of a Kearney man.”[2] What was his defense? He was provoked! 
Finally, I will go to the book that has all the answers. In proverbs 18:6 it reads, “A fool's lips enter into contention, and his mouth calleth for strokes.” (Prov 18:6). It simply means that, a fool’s mouth gets them into constant trouble that brings them a beating.  We are seeing that the bible acknowledges someone could provoke their own beating, both male and female. Could some domestic violence victims be the cause of their own beatings? If they can, then Stephen Smith is right and should not have been punished. At the same time though, the Bible cautions us not to be easily provoked (Ecc 7:9). However, could an individual be under sustained provocation that causes them to snap? Paul told the Ephesian fathers not to provoke their children to anger (Eph 6:4). Is it then possible that someone could be provoked to anger? Could a spouse provoke their wife or husband to anger? Could Ray Rice’s girlfriend had provoked him to anger?
Therefore, to be able to solve domestic violence or reduce it, we must take the element of provocation seriously. Let us not muzzle opinions like those of Stephen Smith, for they are the voices of reason in a hypocritical world that struggles between idealism and realism.
Until then, domestic violence is barbaric and should not exist, so we should avoid provoking it.
St Arrey of Ntenako



[1] "Case Study: Provocation." Law Government Politics. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Aug. 2014.

[2] "Updated: Jury Says Schmidt Not Guilty." Kearney Hub. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Aug. 2014.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Can Everyone Make Their Own Jesus?


Reza Aslan while trying to sell his book and promote his movie claimed that everyone can make their own Jesus. In that clip, he called some preachers, “charlatans”. That doesn't make him more genuine than the others he calls charlatans. He bases his book on Josephus who was the epitome of Jewish history. By using Josephus who endorses the biblical narratives about Jesus, he shows the Bible to be authentic and infallible. If the things written therein are true, then everyone cannot make their own Jesus. It is normal to have a kaleidoscope of opinions in matters of doctrine in each religion as they deal with the mind; however, eisegesis has its limits because it eliminates grounds for absolutes. If absolutes are eliminated, then Jesus cannot be the only way to God; meanwhile, we all know that Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the father without passing through Him. People may differ on whether Jesus wants them to pray standing or sitting or sleeping or crying, but they must all agree that Jesus wants them to pray. No doubt, we do agree that there will be varying opinions because the human being should live by reason and not by instinct. In using reason, people think. We just don't agree that those tenets which are the core of Christian ethos should undergo relativism. 

Others have claimed that we cannot even talk about Christianity and Jesus because Paul invented the religion and Constantine made it a state religion. A quick question: how can Paul would have invented a religion that started before he came? Christianity already had its roots before Paul's conversion in chapter 9 of Acts. Paul could not be trusted easily by the disciples in Jerusalem, so he went back to Tarsus. From that time until the when the nickname "Christian" was coined in Acts 11:26, Paul was not yet back in Jerusalem. I want you to bear with me because I will take you step by step. In 313, Constantine and Licinius passed the Edict of Milan which granted all religious freedom. That was a year after making Sunday an official day of rest. During the first council of Nicea in 325, they were merely dealing with the Donatist and Arles controversies. However, it was rather Theodosius (emperor 378-395 A.D) who made Christianity the state religion. Therefore, they may want to revise their history. If Constantine was Roman emperor from 306-337 and Christianity was made a state religion in the Edict of Thessalonica in 380 AD, how can Constantine be the one who codified it? It seems people have been memorizing the wrong stuff, my friends! 
Moreover, the conclusion that the Bible and Jesus are fiction is baseless because anything, person or event that can be ascertained in time and place as having existed with historical, archaeological, customary and traditional proofs cannot be called fiction. You will do well to memorize the correct dates and events. I have read almost all of Shakespeare and most prominent literature books on this earth, but none of them transforms like the Bible. The Bible has been a light unto my path and a lamp unto my feet. In the midst of hopelessness, the Bible has always vivified my hopes. Read and put into practice the prescriptions of the Bible, and you will feel the same as I do!
Furthermore, Reza claimed that the preachers are preaching wealth despite Jesus being against it. Jesus was not against wealth; he was against wealth hoarders as we read here, “Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal.” (Mt 6:19-20). If wealth was inherently evil, Jesus would not have asked them to store them anywhere, whether in heaven or on earth because he was without sin. Jesus wanted those with two coats to give one to the person who has none. He wanted "the haves" to share with "the haves-not", the privileged to share with the less privileged. In short, he wanted people to love their neighbors as they loved themselves. Therefore, even Reza Aslan is selling his own Jesus he made for his books and movie promotion. 
Some people have claimed that Mt 6:19-20 was metaphorical. In that case, the allusion to “mansions in his father's house” (Jn 14:2) are metaphorical too. Why did Jesus not condemn the wealth of the prodigal son's father (Lk 15:11-32)? Jesus was never against wealth! It is not sustainable in the bible. The metaphor of the rich man and the needle simply means that wealth puts one in a more precarious position to follow God. The wealth hoarder must first unburden himself by storing in heaven rather than on earth. To store in heaven is not as giving to a pastor or a preacher. That is why the love of money and not money itself is the root of all evil. If money was the root of evil, God and Paul would have said; "you cannot go near evil, so you should run." 
No, no, no, that is not what it means. It means you should give to those who do not have. There are many churches that are too rich to be given anything! When a pastor starts to own Rolls-Royce, private jets and more than three cars, they do not more need the offerings of the people. When the pastor's family wear expensive clothes, drive expensive cars, live in expensive mansions, then they have outlived the level of church offerings. When a pastor changes new suits and shoes everyday, it means he has outgrown your offerings and tithes. You should give them to the church that needs them. He should sell what he has first and use the proceeds for the ministry.

Until then, everyone cannot make their own Jesus.

St Arrey of Ntenako.




“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Jerry Jones: A Victim Of Kiss and Tell Syndrome And A Culture of Betrayals.


Many people have asked me what I thought about Snowden and Manning or Sterling’s girlfriend and now this Jerry Jones Saga, so I will try to state my position in this article. Every time I hear about someone who has come out as a whistleblower, or I hear that there are some leaked pictures, my heart bleeds. It does not bleed because I know any of the victims, but it bleeds because untrustworthiness is a character trait that the Lord hates. There is a teaching technique called “Show and Tell” where teachers or students describe what they have to their students or classmates. In love, they have “Kiss and Tell”. In “Kiss and Tell”, the less famous reveal their sexual exploits with the famous to the media. In this lesson, I will show you why untrustworthiness, albeit a zeitgeist in America is a terrible behavior people should not emulate but which we seem to hold in very high esteem. Who cares who Jerry Jones sleeps with? 
            While “Show and Tell” is not bad, “Kiss and Tell” is very heinous; it shows a lack of trustworthiness. Some people do it for materialistic purposes (Sterling’s girlfriend and Jones strippers), others do it for revenge (revenge porn) or even just posting the medical records of your ex,  some for lack of connection, others want to gain fame (Snowden and Manning), and some are just weak people who can never keep anything secret. Furthermore, there is another level of betrayal that is like “Kiss and Tell” which is revealing secrets from one’s jobsite. Manning and Snowden are included in this list because when you decide to work for someone, you are entering into a relationship that could be likened to a marriage for economic purpose.
Permit that I start with professional situations like whistleblowing at worksites. Let me take the cases of Bradly (Chelsea) Manning and Edward Snowden. Manning leaked military secrets to WikiLeaks which were still classified. Edward Snowden leaked National Security Agency documents to the Guardian and Washington Post. On that day as I watched the TV interview of Snowden, I was saying to myself, “this is so wrong.” There are many ways he should have exposed his displeasure without putting in harm’s way the security of the nation.  What was his motivation? Even in our homes, we do not expose every secret.
When I was growing up, there were times that my parents will speak in another language to keep the secret from us. Here in America, I have seen parents speak in whispers to conceal some information from their child. Why then do we think that the government should not have secrets?
This is why both Manning and Snowden are not heroes to me. They took a job that they knew required them to keep secrets.  They accepted it. If they did not like the nature of the job, they should have left while still being interviewed, or they should have left once they started working there. The worst was for them to leak the secrets to the enemies of the United States. Manning was found guilty and sentenced to 35 years in prison, and Snowden is still living on the run in Russia. If you realize it, I have not mentioned people like Peter Burton and Collen Rowley whose whistleblowing brought more blessing to the country than heartache.  Notwithstanding, I still think that Manning’s sentence is too harsh, and Snowden should be allowed to return home for a probation sentence because there is also a good part in what both Snowden and Manning did.
Now, let me draw your attention to the other part of the untrustworthiness. The "Kiss and Tell" syndrome. That really made me write this article this morning. I am talking here of people, especially women who sleep with men and then run to broadcast it. Why? Where is your dignity, woman? 
I am not condoning adultery; however, when a single woman sleeps with a married man like the case of Tiger Woods where one of his mistresses: Loredana Jolie even wrote a book to brag of her trysts with the golfer, we cannot cheer them up. Where is her dignity? People are even buying and reading the book; thus, they are encouraging adultery. She should have been ashamed to stand out and speak anymore. Hellas, in this country, it is even great achievement to come out with your trysts despite the fact that you could be ruining the other person’s career and livelihood. In some countries, they will stone women like that. 
I am sure you remember what happened to Donald Sterling. As much as what he said was repugnant, it was still his private personal opinion to a doxy. Where is her trustworthiness when she carried the information to Sterling’s enemies? Now we see this Jerry Jones saga. These strippers knew that someone was taking those pictures according to their postures. They knew what they were doing. They may cash something from it, but that is it! They have lost a cash cow because of their hyperopia. It is the same with Sterling’s girlfriend. Her steady source of income will no more be there. Nonetheless, the havoc these untrustworthy behaviors cause their victims is more than the gain the perpetrators benefit. If I ended here without looking at it in the view of the Bible, then I would have failed in my duties because the Bible is a lamp to our feet and a light to our paths.
Solomon advised people that they should not allow kindness and loyalty to leave them because therein lies the source of our favor from God and even good reputation from people (Prov 3:3-4). That is very important. By revealing your trysts with anyone who doesn't want it revealed, you betray them and become cruel to them. There is no doubt that Snowden, Manning, V. Stiviano, Loredana and those strippers in Dallas have damaged their reputations, but the acts of the last two were cruel to their victims. 
Amongst the seven things that the Lord hates, one of them is one who spreads rumors (Prov 6:16-19). Those friends like Linda Tripp (who betrayed Monica Lewinsky), Ginger White (who betrayed Herman Cain) and the friends of the stripers who took the pictures are out to spread rumors. That is something that God really hates. The Bible is very clear on that, “He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy conceals a matter.” (Prov 11:13) Rumors like these jeopardize the lives of their victims. Monica Lewinsky could no more have a public life. Herman Cain dropped out of the presidential race he was leading.  Sterling was forced to sell the Clippers as we see here. Jerry Jones is now a laughingstock. Why do we as a society extol an adulterer who slept with another woman’s husband? These strippers knew that Jerry Jones was a married man. If they had any modicum of morality, they should have avoided him, talk less trying to cash out of it.
One thing we should learn from this is that Christ is coming soon because spreading rumors is one of the signs that he is on his way (Mt 24:10). You should not forget that he that is unfaithful with little things, should not be trusted with bigger things (Luke 16:9-15). No one who became rich from betrayal has ever been happy. The list is long but at least look unto Judas Iscariot. It explains to you why most women who seized properties from their ex-husbands during divorce did not last with the wealth because their husbands acquired them before they came. It is important for everyone to seek to be loyal. "Kiss and Tell" is a very cruel behavior that no one should be proud off. It is an obligation to be trustworthy. Do not seek revenge, you should allow God to deal with it. You should never share your trysts with anyone if you ever want to keep them secret. 

Until then, we must strive to be trustworthy.

St Arrey of Ntenako.


“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

What Does God Really Want From Me?


Micah 6:6-8. Many of us try each day seeking to please God. At times when we run into deep trouble, we wonder if God is the cause. When we are very happy, we want to do things that will make him feel proud of us. It is not only now that the desire to please God has preoccupied man, it has been since the foundation of the earth.  Even the chosen people of Israel had to seek his opinion on his wishes. In this dramatic dialogue, the Bible presents Micah and Israel:

Wherewith shall I come before the LORD, and bow myself before the high God? Shall I come before him with burnt offerings, with calves of a year old? Will the LORD be pleased with thousands of rams, or with ten thousands of rivers of oil? Shall I give my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? (Micah 6:6-9).

These verses are the core of our lesson today. After reading this text, you will know exactly what God wants from you.
Many people think that God enjoys their sacrifices, so they perform them day after day and week after week like the priests did. They do that in the form tithes, offerings and community and volunteer service. They feed the hungry and visit the sick in the hospital, yet they live very wicked and sinful lives. They are racist, they backbite, the cheat, they give to showboat, they hate their neighbors, they beat their wives, they abuse their kids and the insult other people who do not look like them. There is something nowadays that I don’t seem to understand amongst Christians. You are talking with them, but immediately after you turn your back, they are speaking evil of you.
God once asked Samuel and then he answered it himself that, “Does the LORD delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the LORD? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams.” I Sam 15:22. God does not desire sacrifices and offerings, and he does not require our sin and burnt offerings. Jesus has already sacrificed himself for us. All God wants now from us is a broken spirit and a broken and contrite heart (Ps 51:17). What can we give to God that is above our souls? Jesus asked, “What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?” Come to God with thanksgiving and music. Praise Him for his good works. Sacrifices with sin are like filthy rags. They will be rejected because they do not please God. That is why many cannot find God today because he has withdrawn himself away from them.
The time has passed for human sacrifices. Many people are merely trying to offer sacrifices today to God as if to placate him or flatter him. Many are following the footsteps of the world. They are imitating what everyone else is doing. One thing they don’t know is that God does not need money from their bank accounts or their sumptuous homes. He does not need a bull from their stall or goats from their pens because “The LORD detests the sacrifice of the wicked, but the prayer of the upright pleases him.” (Prov 15:8). To God, to do what is right and acceptable is better than any sacrifice one could offer. How many of us still keep perpetuating the cycle of racism, yet we are offering huge sums of money to charity? How many people volunteer all their time but they hate their own very relatives? Think about those who are divorce and want to kill their partners to take everything just to make them suffer? They seek the Lord from one place to another, but they do not find him because he hides himself from wicked people like them.
.Walking with God is a special thing. Enoch walked with God faithfully for at least 365 years. All that the Lord wants from mankind is to walk in obedience, to love him, to serve Him because that is why humanity was made (Eccl 12:13). God has set before mankind life and prosperity, death and destruction. We must each chose if we want the former or the latter.
To maintain justice is to do what is right. Now, is it right for you to treat other people as inferior being simply because you are the dominant group? See what is happening in Gaza. Christians are killed in Gaza too. It is not because they are terrorists; their sin is that they are Palestinians. To be humble is to have a contrite and lowly spirit and to revive the same in others (Is 57:15). God has pleasure in those who are humble contrite in heart and who tremble when at his word. How important is the word of God to you? If it is, then you will obey it at all times.  
To show mercy we should also identify with the oppressed. Silence in the face of oppression is endorsement of the same. Do no wrong to the foreigner, the fatherless or the widow and do not spill innocent blood. "This is what the LORD Almighty said: 'Administer true justice; show mercy and compassion to one another” (Zech 7:9).

Until then, God wants justice, mercy and humility from you.

St Arrey of Ntenako.


“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).



Should A Wife Have Love For A Cheating Husband?

Cheating Spouses holding hands
This question came from Pat Robertson’s show where a lady asked him what she should do because her husband had cheated on her, but she does not know how to deal with it even though she has forgiven him. This is an except in one lady’s reply on Rawstory, “What people miss is the fact that divorce is only a man's option. Women didn't have the right to divorce husbands, they were owned by them.” Karie Ryan Ordway. I am using her answer because she was basing her fallacy from the Bible.  

Both her isagogics and hermeneutics on divorce are faulty. There are stages in hermeneutics: exegesis, application and illustration that she missed. At the level of exegesis, you will consider the exposition, morphology, tradition, culture and customs of a place at the time the writing took place. Then you apply what you have to the current people to make it culturally relevant as the Bible was neither written nor applied in a vacuum. The application of divorce recommendations changed from being the male monopoly to both male and female as they are made equal with the death of Christ (Gal 3:28; col 3:11; Acts 2:17). That is when I Corinthians 7 comes into play. You see that in this chapter, it is not only the man who decides if they are leaving, a woman too can. You see that it is not only the man who decides when to have or abstain from sex, it must be by mutual consent. If women were not considered, it would not have given them the alternatives to choose.

By advocating forgiveness for an adulterous spouse, the individual is merely applying the ethos of true Christianity. The "Beatitudes" and the "Sermon on the Mount" (Mt 5-7) are like the constitution of every practicing Christian. In it, Jesus changed the three strikes you are out into 490 times a day, virtually making it impossible to harbor a grudge or rancor against an offensive person in so far as they ask for forgiveness and abandon their evil.
What is monnaie courant nowadays is the lack of forgiveness in marriages, echoed best by the bachelors and spinsters and also the professional divorcees. Who would you consult if you were to run a race:  someone who has never run a race, someone who has lost every race he or she has run, or  would you consult someone who has won all his/her races? Who would you consult if you were searching for the best way to keep your car for long: someone who has never owned a car, someone who has messed up every car they have owned, or  would you consult someone who has kept the same car for donkey years? Which study group do you think would be helpful if you were preparing for an exam? The one made of people who have no clue about the exam, the one made of disgruntled people who have taken and failed the exam one or more times, or would you join the one made up of people who have taken and passed the exam? That is the same way marriage is. Many people are consulting the wrong people (even if they are specialists) to keep their marriages afloat. Consult people who have experienced marital success. 

To divorce is not a guarantee that the next option will be better. At times people have left from the frying pan into the fire. Relationships are like plants; at times they try to die, so you have to put manure, prone the tree and then add more water. In short, you pay it more attention until it starts again to blossom. For it to blossom to a very healthy level that it does not need too much work, one has to pay more attention at the initial stages. Sometimes, your ground is just not fertile, although it looked fertile. We have already decided to farm, we have invested in the seeds and the land, so we have to try our utmost best to make it produce crops for us. We cannot start jumping from one farm to another. That way we will die perpetually farming and never ever being able to enjoy the fruits of our labor. That is why some men and women are like grasshoppers. 

Until then, I wish those who are having bad marriages a happy one.

St Arrey of Ntenako.



“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

This Racist White Woman Called Her “Nigger”!

I read a story from Rawstory about a Florida woman who called her neighbor, “black fucking nigger” in front of the cameras.[1] She said that she is not a racist, but others say that she is. I will narrate some anecdotes and let you be the judge. She truly might not be a racist.
In 2012, I visited Portland, Oregon. While I was jogging with my friend, I found a cellphone that laid by the corner of the road, so I picked it, especially because I did not want the threatening rain to damage it. I looked at the last two numbers and called the people, and I asked them if they knew the owner of the phone. They told me they were going to tell him to come and get his phone. While waiting, there were constant bombardment of text messages. Out of curiosity, I read one of them and it said, " nigger, when are you gonna grow up? This is your daughter's birthday, and you cannot call. Aren't you gonna even show up to take her out?" I concluded that it was a mixed relationship because the lady whom I spoke to was white, and now I have this "nigger" right here. Other insulting text messages were still coming, but now I was merely reading them and trying to interprete why a woman will send a man more than 30 messages (within two hours) if he is not responding. One out of every two messages had "nigger" in it.
Finally, I received a call that the owner of the phone was on his way. He wanted our address. I gave the address, and he came with a bicycle. Like I said, I was expecting a black guy. Instead, it was a white guy who showed up. So I said, “man I did not know that there were white niggers." The guy laughed and replied, “You are very funny. We call each other like that. My Baby mama too is white, but she always calls me, well, we always call each other 'nigger. We call even our white friends that way too."
Another time, I met a lady at Walmart crying. I approached her to console her. She told me, “it is my nigger who is making me cry." Five minutes later, I saw a muscular white guy coming towards us. He asked me what I wanted and the lady said, " nigger leave him alone, or I gonna call the police right now." Finally, she explained why she was crying, and the man too explained his own side of the story. I concluded that both of them had other extenuating circumstances that were making them crazy. It is normal. If two people are crazy at the same time, one must feel more hurt than the other. I counseled them, and I adjured the man to be gentle next time.
Therefore, if this woman grew up in a household where "nigger" is used as a communal name or a common insult to everyone, she might not even be a racist, like the ladies in the above stories. Let us refrain from imputing into people's intentions. We don't know their hearts. If they say, “I did not mean it that way," we must believe them. I have had black people say to me, “black fucking nigger.” Are they racists? If she is telling a lie, she has her conscience. It will catch up with her when she goes to the loony bin.

Until then, we are not God to know the intentions of people’s hearts.

St Arrey of Ntenako.




“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Mama Paulina: The People's Nurse.

This was the type of bed in Mama Paulina's room.


Mama Paulina
Years ago, I had a Beti woman who lived just down,  below the little hill from our house in Nkoulouloun, Douala, directly behind Pharmacie Du Rail. She was popularly known as Mamam or Mami Paulina, depending on whether you were Francophone or Anglophone respectively. She had some beautiful girls who thought that no other child was like them or their mother. Their mother had been treating people in au quartier that she was known to all as "le docteur". If you were looking for a doctor, she was the first whom people mentioned, even though there was another doctor in the quarter.
She was a lanky woman whose cunning and beauty could wheedled the last dime from any patient in a joyful manner. She was a mischievous cocktail. She swindled from anyone who desperately came in contact with her. She was called a doctor, albeit she was only a trained nurse. She had elevated herself to a point where she prescribed medicine, did surgery, had an unlicensed pharmacy and even a clinic in her house. In Goebellian manner, her daughters boasted how their mother was the best doctor in town, and their braggadocio became truism in the minds of her quarries. Unfortunately, Mama Paulina’s ways were not different from those of many nurses from the Lanquintini or any other government hospital in the country at the time. 
Mama Paulina’s husband was a very quiet man with whom I played “damier” (draughtboard;checkerboard) all the time. He was not interested in his wife’s crookery, and he did not even like most of the girls who came there. He always muttered, “elles viennent verser comme elles prennent souvent.” It was a figurative usage for “they are coming to abort just as they conceive.”
One day, when Juliette came to Mama Paulina to tell her that she was pregnant, she looked at her and said, “Ma belle, il n' y a pas de problème. Assois-toi! On va arranger ca toute suite.” She took the girl into her Pharmacy, gave her something to drink and told her to sleep. After some time, the girl went to the restroom to pass out blood. Then she called her youngest daughter to spray the blood away with a bucket of water. After that, she gave her something for the road.
I just don’t understand how she had all the medicines she sold. Some of them were boldly written, “Échantillons médical à ne pas vendre,” yet she sold them. She was a Catholic, so I don’t think that she was stealing them. Perhaps, they were medicines that patients did not want anymore. You know how we always shared  our medicine with relatives and friends. Sometimes if she wanted to give you an injection and there were no more syringes, she took the old one, boiled it for some time and then gave it to you. She actually told you that she was boiling it. If you were a male, she sent you to join the husband and play draughtboard (checkerboard) while waiting for her to sterilize her syringe. The ladies were allowed to hang around her as she told them her exploits with men when she was still young.
One day, immediately she reached home, she complained that the world was changing faster. She does not understand how people want to drink medicine now like a hen is eating corn. “Each time they see a tablet, mwam, they swallow.” She said. She was always irritated with patients who were hospitalized in the hospital because that meant she will not be able to take enough medicine home to put in her pharmacy. Her pharmacy had a few types of medicine and at times she gave patients the same medicine for every type of sickness. One day, Mama Paulina was operating someone who had a hernia. The guy was screaming while we wasted our time outside.
Her fees were really cheap, so many people came to her first before thinking about the hospital. If your case was too serious, she will refer you to a specialist and give you a little note. Once the doctor saw that note, they knew what to do with you. She would first ask you if you had money to see the specialist. If you said yes, then she will give you the note. If you said no, she will ask you if you were ready to die. She will frighten you until you will have to go and borrow money or call all your relatives at home and abroad to tell them how your sickness was going to kill you if they did not intervene.
Her clinic had only two beds. If she had given you medications, asked you to sleep a bit and another patient came in, she will yell at you to get up and go to the living room for the other person to use the bed too. She admonished you this way, “ quand tu dors beaucoup, la maladie la s’augmente plutôt.” Meanwhile, she just wanted to use the bed. If you were sold a packet of 30 tablets and someone came for almost the same thing and you were still there, she told you to give her the package back. She said, “je t’ai même donné plus. Si tu pars boire tout ça, ça va te tuer, et  j’irai en prison. »
In one occasion, Clémence came with a wild type of malaria that forced her to striptease. She was all naked, so Mama Paulina called some guys to hold her down for her to administer some injections and then put her drips too. They held that girl for about 2 hours until she fell asleep. Even people from an aerobics class were not sweating like them.
If she wanted to give you medicine and you request to see the package, she said, “tu es aussi médicin ou quoi? Pardon, enlève tes main lépreuses avant que tu contamines les autres.” That was good enough to make you feel ashamed and just drink whatever she gave you, even if it was mere vitamin C that she was dolling out as medicine for malaria. She accompanied that with a cup of herbal tea from a huge black pot that was constantly on fire. There were all sorts of roots, herbs and even seeds in that pot.
There was a time she wanted to extract someone’s tooth. She could not, so she hired a taxi and sent the guy to Languintini with one of those notes. She told us that the tooth could not come out because, « le gars est envouté au village et les sorciers ne veulent pas laisser sa dent sortir. Tu sais que les médecins sont aussi des sorciers. Ils saurons quoi faire.» She did not want the people to know that there were things she could not do.
I don’t know if Mama Paulina is still alive. I hope she does because there are some crazy patients. When I think of how helpful she was to the community, I can only say God is great. Without Mama Paulina, many people would have died. There are many people who did not want to go to the hospital because they did not have the high fees to pay the entrance and later buy those expensive medications. If you came to Mama Paulina, no matter your sickness, she gave you un petit quelque chose, even if it meant for the same sickness. Most of her medicines were for the same sickness, anyway. It was just the first medication that could show up in her hands.
Until then, Mami Paulina was the people's nurse.

St Arrey of Ntenako. 
“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

The God I Serve.



The God I serve created heaven and earth
He neither slumbers nor sleeps.
He never hurries but is never late.
He walks with a pace unfamiliar to humans,
He leaves footprints even if no one sees him walk.
He performs surgery without spilling blood
The only that turns a seabed into a highway.
He turned a selfish bird into a kind chef.
He converted a fish into a submarine,
He has a voice like the groaning of thunder.


The God I serve had only one Son.
He walked like a man but spoke as God.
His Son died to set us free from sin
Horoscope and tarot readers hated him
He read their minds and foretold the future.
Master Lawyer who tore down the three strikes Law
He instituted the seventy times seven times doctrine.
His son’s saliva makes the blind to see.
The IRS will worship Him for not owing taxes
 He orders even fishes to pay his taxes on time.

The God I serve has overruled death
He gave coffin makers bad business
He usually raised up the dead of grieving relatives.
What would it be if he raised others and not himself?
His enemies took advantage of his people’s betrayal
They crucified him but death vomited him on third
He defied gravity and shot straight to heaven after 40.
He will defy gravity to take us home during parousia
Keep trusting in Jesus; He will never fail you.
The God I serve will never fail anyone!


 Hamilton Ayuk, 2014.


“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Have You Been Attacked By The Itchy Ear Syndrome?

This lesson comes from 2 Tim 4:3-4. “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.” How many people listen to Dr. Oz? Itchy ear is a condition where the ear itches and always wants you to poke it, so it can feel good. In life, there are many people whose ears like for you to poke them with some feel-good messages. That is why professors who teach well and make students to think are never loved. Those churches that preach feel good messages have many members than the ones teaching the whole truth of the Bible. The honest people don’t have many friends like their lying counterparts. Those with itchy ears will not entertain truth, they will not entertain a contrary view, and they will not entertain a view about reality. All should be about fairytales in fairylands, imaginary things, false claims and untested claims. They think that everything that comes out of their mouths is an opinion, so they always say, "that is my opinion."
Unfortunately, I hate to burst your bubble; it is not everything you say which is tantamount to an opinion. It means that, sometimes you are really just uttering gibberish because it is not everything that comes from your mouth that is equaled to an opinion. Worst still, opinions are not even facts. There are three categories of claims: false claims, untested claims and opinions. A false claim is a statement about the real world which cannot be backed by evidence. An untested claim is a statement that one makes which has not yet been proven. An opinion is an unsubstantiated belief; something you feel is true, but you do not have proofs.  How many times have you heard a pastor say, ‘My wife is the most beautiful woman on earth? ” That is an opinion.  However, when you say that the earth is a square, it is a false claim because we know now that the earth is spherical. Your belief shows that you have itchy ears!
Characteristics of itchy ears. You know you suffer from itchy ears syndrome when you are too gullible to fairytales in fairylands, and you promote endless controversial speculations, rather than advance God’s work. Everything people like Dr. Oz, psychics, prophets, preachers, priests and others say, they always mean something to you more than known facts. You know you suffer from itchy ear syndrome when you respect the commands of men than the commands of God, you get mad each time anyone tells you the truth to your face, your heart has become callous that you hardly hear with your ears, you easily believe delusions, you easily believe a lie, myths and endless genealogies tales. Dark skinned Americans should beware with the quest for DNA in Africa.
Those with itchy ears always become preys to their predators. That is because the predators like the TV evangelists constantly employ the shotgun technique. It is a technique where the predator asks generalized set of questions with the hope that someone will feel touched just as bullets from a shotgun into a pack of monkeys will catch one. The unsophisticated are easily duped because they always carry their problems on their heads. Those who carry their problems on their heads will easily become the prey of evildoers. Another technique that is commonly used is called the Forer or Barnum effect where the predator gives a description that could apply to many people around; although, they are giving it to one person. These generalized statements may be accurate for that individual, but they will mean or affect many more in the audience too. Those with itchy ear syndrome easily tell you that they do not want to hear from you anymore if you will not tell them pleasant things and illusion prophecies. When your quest for ungodliness over shadows godliness, then you already have the disease.
Now, I want to ask you this, “How are your ears?” Simply because you say something neither means that you are right, nor does it mean that it is even an opinion to be taken into consideration. Beware then of thy adulators whose flatteries will only soothe your itchy ears, leading you into the abyss of inutility. Lend your ear to those who sometimes criticize you and expect the best from you. Even if you do not attain perfection; their criticism push you to improve your character and maximize your production.  

Until then, tell me if you are a victim of Itchy ear syndrome.

St Arrey of Ntenako.


  “Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Cameroon Nurses vs American Nurses.


I was recently sick after 24 years of being sickness free. It bothered me a lot. An African proverb says, “If a child does not find out what killed its father, that same thing will kill it too.” I know that I dove very badly into the pool and hurt the side of my stomach that caused me the blood clot, but I could not be indifferent to the treatment I received from the medical staff of Banner Gateway Medical Center in Mesa, Arizona. That is what I am going to share with you. I want to compare their treatment with what I received and heard people receive in Cameroon. 
I was very surprised to see that the nurses constantly came into my room during the day. At night, they were still checking on me. In Cameroon, the nurses would not even visit you. They will only come if you bribe them. They will sit there and cut their nails. Those who pretend to go to church will be reading their church hymnals or “cantiques de victoire.” Cell phones were not rampant in Cameroon in the 90s when I was last sick; however, I do remember that the nurses spent their time visiting with other nurses who had left their wards. They will say things like, “J’ai épousé un chien, il lèche ici, et il lèche la bas. Il lèche par tout, ma sœur !” Her colleague will say, « Mon car est diffèrent; c’est ma belle-mère qui va me tuer dans la maison là. »While life may be different form privately owned hospitals, but my description is exactly what you will find in every government owned hospital. Look at Laquintini in Douala and Hospital Général in Yaoundé, aren’t they the microcosms of my descriptions?
In America, my nurses will come in and check my IV to make sure I am taking the required dose. If it stopped, I had to only press a button, and they will rush in. In Cameroon, the nurse will steal that IV to sell it to another patient, at times in the same very hospital or to cronies and strangers in the neighborhood. If you called them, they’ll not even come! They will look at you and say, “Your friends have died since, what are you waiting?” The nurses in America beg you to take your medication. Sometimes as if the devil was mocking me, the patients will refuse to take their medication, and the staff will be begging them. The patients in Cameroon want to take their medications, but their nurses do not give them. The patients in America do not want the medications, but their nurses cajole or pamper them or at times even secure a court order for them to take them. The nurse in Cameroon will instead be very happy if a patient does not want to take his or her medication. If you want to take all your medications, she will get very angry with you. She will say, “Hey mister, you will die very soon trying to eat medicine like candy. Are medicines now your new bonbon?” It is not because she cares so much; she wants you not to take the medications so that she will sell the rest. I always laughed when my nurses asked me to take my medication in front of them because they want to make sure I actually took them. The Cameroon nurses will even shorten your dosage. If you were to take ten tablets in the morning, they will give you 4 and keep the rest for themselves. That is how some of them have pharmacies without suppliers, or they are suppliers without buying medicines.
Have you been to the maternity in America? The nurses pamper those women as if they drank the pregnancy through their mouths. “If a woman does not fear the penis, why would she fear delivery?” Our people will say. Cameroon nurses take it to another level. They will say, “Ashuka ngong gori; when you were taking it, it was sweet. Now you are screaming ayooh bandeeeh, ayooh bandeeh like a little girl. Was I there when you were taking it? Please push the child out and stop trying to break my eardrums.” She will lecture the expectant mother. Those in America will say, “Oh strong girl, push once more! Oh, I can see the baby, he is coming! Oh yeah, you can do it, push and push!” At times, your husband is right there holding your hands as if delivery is now a community affair. If your husband or you did not bribe the Cameroon nurses, they will not even be around when you deliver your baby. They will be in their rooms. Now that even dogs have cell phones, I hear that they will be on their cell phones. They will be saying things like, “I want to go to America one day, mahh ma! I will shake my buttocks like Beyoncé, and I will work 18 hours a day until they drive me home.” Some of them actually fulfil their dream. When they come here, they work 80 hours a week. That is why only African nurses work most holidays in our US hospitals. They don’t know the word vacation.  
One time, when my nurse was coming to inject me while I was still in Cameroon, she stood almost a mile as if she was aiming for the bull’s eye. Then she threw the injection that landed on my dry buttocks, and I screamed, "ai, ai, ai, ai, ooohhh!” She turned to me and said, “Tais-toi! Tu te comportes comme une femme.” It means, “Shut up, you behave like a woman.” Michele and Andrea at the Banner Gateway Medical Center in America will say, “Hello Hamilton, I am going to make you a little uncomfortable. I am going to prick you a little bit; you will feel a little tingling on our skin.” While she is doing that, she is asking you what you like. Despite my trypanophobia or aichmophobia (pick your choice), I would not even realize that they had given me an injection.  
Those women at the Banner Gateway hospital did their job as their calling. They held conversations with me; albeit to my chagrin because I wanted to sleep. Being in the hospital, I could only sleep with my one eye closed, so I woke up every time someone came in. I was fascinated with the care the people showed me. Nurse after nurse, case worker, chaplain, doctor and specialist came in to check on me as I laid in bed pondering on why I was sick in the first place. In Cameroon, the doctor was like God and the nurses his angels that you could barely see. Americans are really blessed; I hope they know that. You can just reverse it now and say, “Cameroonians are really cursed; I hope they know that.”

Until then, I just wish that Cameroonians will change their mentality.


St Arrey of Ntenako

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).