Domestic Violence: A Testament of Familyquakes.

Look, I feel very sorry for American women. Everyday they are in the news because they are now the punching bags of their men. I have said it before, and I will say it again; American men do not know how to treat their women. Before you get mad that it is happening in other corners of the globe, you should ask yourself if those places have ever tried to teach you how to live. America has been the one trying to serve as a moral compass, but she always fails when the roll is called up. On September 1, 2014, the Arizona daily Star reported that, “San Francisco 49ers defensive tackle Ray McDonald was arrested early Sunday on felony domestic violence charges...”[1] On September 17, CNN reported that, “Arizona Cardinals backup running back Jonathan Dwyer was arrested in connection with domestic abuse allegations, Phoenix police said Wednesday night.”[2]I am not going to make you depressed this morning, but if you will want to drink your own poison, you can read the news for these past seven days. The picture on domestic violence is graphic and pathetic! It is a testament of a familyquake
Despite the fact that domestic violence is in the news every day and the usual unison of, “kill him, bury him under the sea, castrate him,” it is increasing. That means, lex tellionis does not reform; it only deforms and adds more fuel into the fire. Just yesterday I witnessed one myself as the lady jumped out weeping. I asked her if she needed my help, but she ignored me, and the man was calling her honey. What a messed up culture! They reminded me of the Beti tribe in Cameroon where if the man does not beat the woman, she will say that he does not love her. Nonetheless, why is domestic violence instead increasing? There is never a day now that you don’t read about domestic abuse. 
There is an African proverb that says that, "If a man does not find out what killed his father, that same thing will kill him too."  Americans refuse to consult history for reminders. There is a reason the Bible says, “Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen…..”[3] Where did all this begin that young people (both male and female) are too angry and violent these days? A few weeks ago I was visiting a school and a young man came to share with me how my speech had transformed him. He said, “The last time you were here, I used to be very angry, but I have learnt to control myself.” When he told me that he used to be very angry, I asked him why. He told me that he had a lot of things going on, especially the fact that he has been growing up without seeing his dad. His mother’s boyfriend is not doing better as they are always fighting. He feels like his father did a great evil to him because he should have come and taken him out of that place. Therefore, one major reason of domestic violence is the absence of a male figure in homes. [4]
The increase in divorce rates is not doing us justice too. Most kids do not recover from divorces even if their parents do. The Institute for Marriage and Public Policy (iMAPP) concluded that, “Teens and adults raised in single-parent families are at increased risk of committing crimes.”[5] It does not mean that marriage families do not raise those opportunities; it simply means that single families are better breeding grounds for angry and violent behaviors, and domestic violence is one of them. ABC News reports, “Vice President Joe Biden said Friday the nation needs to bring young men into the struggle against domestic violence by encouraging them to stand against the crime on college campuses.”[6] The only problem is that the majority of these young men are angry themselves. They should be taught on how to treat people. This has nothing to do with religion as some church men treat their wives worst. Teach them to treat people right! 
The third one is lack of proper role models. The society cherishes materialism over virtue; after all, the end justifies the means. They are all copycats of the violent culture. Take for example, a video that has gone viral is the video of a white male who seizes the microphone from a news anchor and said that, “fuck her right in the pussy.”[7] Would a decent culture enjoy such a video? The actor and the distributor would be ashamed in a normal and virtuous society. There is lack of role models and mentors. The guy is hailed as a hero! I have often told my students that I want them to look at me as their role model. That has contributed to my behavior because I have to set a better example. 
The violent women who exploit the weakness and one sidedness of the law are to blame too. It is not as if the women do not commit domestic violence; they do as you can ask Hope Solo.[8] However, the men are more the culprits in this crime because their force is usually disproportionate to the offence of the girlfriend or wife. You see, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Most of the women in domestic abuse cases contributed in them because they struck the man first or nagged him all day long that he just exploded. Just as the woman in this video said, “If  a woman hits a man, she should expect to be hit back.[9]
Nonetheless, violence, whether physical or verbal is the weapon of the weak communicator. Young people are not taught to win their discussions by using their intellect. If someone holds a contrary view to theirs, they vacate the conversation or resort to ad hominems. Their verbal violent cliché is usually, “fuck you!” Physical violence will subsequently follow next. Look, if you have a point, why don’t you make it? That questions the type of education we are receiving nowadays. It is one of relativism; everybody is right, and no one is wrong. Children must be taught that we know in part; therefore, we should not get angry if someone disagrees with us. Otherwise, we are saying that we are infallible, so we know it all. Even if we killed all the men on earth, there will still be domestic violence as you have seen it in lesbian households. Consequently, the solution is not in trying to deform the male perpetrators; the key is in reforming them. Draconian measures have never reformed any society; they have kept it like a boiling cauldron that explodes with the least opportunity. Therefore, we must work to keep long lasting and happy marriages so our boys can grow with their fathers at home, be the right role models, teach our daughters to curb aggressive tendencies and finally develop an equitable society that seeks to reform rather than deform.

Until then, I just wish everyone a happy life on earth. 

 St Arrey of Ntenako. 

[1] "NFL Notes: 49er Arrested on Domestic Violence Charge." Arizona Daily Star. N.p., 01 Sept. 2014. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.
[2] Almasy, Steve, AnneClaire Stapleton, and Shane Deitert. "Arizona Cardinals Player Arrested on Domestic Violence Allegations." CNN. Cable News Network, 01 Jan. 1970. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.
[3] "Revelation 2:5 Consider How Far You Have Fallen! Repent and Do the Things You Did at First. If You Do Not Repent, I Will Come to You and Remove Your Lampstand from Its Place." Revelation 2:5 Consider How Far You Have Fallen! Repent and Do the Things You Did at First. If You Do Not Repent, I Will Come to You and Remove Your Lampstand from Its Place. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.
[4] "Children Benefit from Two-Parent Families." Familiescom. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.
[5] Institute For Marriage And Public Policy. Can Married Parents Prevent Crime? Recent Research on Family Structure and Delinquency 2000-2005 (n.d.): n. pag. Web.
[6] Press, Ken Thomas Associated. "Biden: Young Men Need to Stand Against Violence." ABC News. ABC News Network, n.d. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.
[7] "All 3 " Fuck Her Right In The Pussy " Videos." YouTube. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.
[8] Sports, Scott Gleeson. "Hope Solo Arrested on Domestic Violence Charge."USA Today. Gannett, 22 June 2014. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.
[9] "Ravens Fans Continue to Support Rice." YouTube. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 Sept. 2014.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Roger Goodell's NFL and the Ravens' Miscarriage of Justice.

This is not a plaidorie for the devil or like they often say, “Being the devil’s advocate” because there is no devil here. I am just afraid that we are becoming very rancorous and spiteful as a society. We have left the Mosaic Era, yet we enjoy lex telionis. We are becoming specialists of deformation rather than reformation. It is beyond any debate that Ray Rice did a very bad thing in beating up his wife. He brought shame to himself and his family! The manner thereof is inconsequential because whether it was brutal or lightly, he should not have done it. It is an unacceptable behavior. ‎However, the NFL's and Raven's decisions are legally, socially and morally untenable. Legally, it will be breaking the double jeopardy, sociologically, the NFL overburdens Ray Rice' s family to function as a family because he will need to feed the very wife they are seeking to protect, and morally, once forgiven, you are free indeed!
I know that those of you who know me will say that we disagree with “this your thing of saying that we should let it go.” This time though, I want us to look at it as a society and see if we are treating each other fairly. Do unto others what you want them do unto you. Ray Rice is being unfairly treated here! Ray Rice had already been punished with a two game suspension. By suspending him a second time, the NFL and Ravens are violating the Double Jeopardy Rule. It is defined as, “The act of prosecuting a defendant a second time for an offense for which he has already been tried.”[1] At the same time, it is a violation of his Fifth Amendment Right. 
The government did not charge him; they assigned some form of community labor. That is not his problem; it is the burden the society has to bear for rashness! It is like a county sending you a letter that your traffic ticket was not well adjudicated because when they decided the first time, they did not have all the information. Take time and read well the Double Jeopardy rule and the 5 policies that underpin it. Double jeopardy extends to every spectrum of crime and punishment. Isn't Ray Rice supposed to cater for his wife? How is he going to do that if you stop him from doing what he does best? Whether they saw it or not is immaterial. If they did not see it, then due process was violated because it will mean they judged him on hearsay. Secondly, he has already served the sentence. They should blame themselves for the imprudence. They should have done a thorough investigation before disciplining him if they were really serious because only part of the video was shown to the public initially. It is not like there were two videos. It is one and the same video that they edited. Rice will be covered by Double Jeopardy rule and the extreme hardship law. His wife could turn and sue the NFL and Ravens for causing her the hardship too. Morally, once forgiven, you are forgiven. If your sins are paid for, they are paid. Remember, we are not discussing on the gravity of the offense because every normal human being knows it is despicable.
Goodell’s argument that they were not privy to the facts when they disciplined him the first time is still no excuse because they should have then waited until they had all the facts. They should not punish Ray Rice for their recklessness. The Bible says, “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him (Prov 18:13).”It is late now to change their decision. They should have done that before in their first decision. I don't understand their rashness. Someone beats his wife and you give him only two games suspension; whether you see the video or not? He should have been suspended for two years initially! I was against the 2 games suspension. However, after he served it, it is immoral to bring another suspension or decision for the same offense. The man served his time, so he should be left alone. I don't even like the Ravens and his behavior, but I am looking at the concept of equity. It is the noble thing to do to bring him back. I hate it when hypocrites who do other more egregious things raise their voices so loud to condemn others. The young man made a mistake, and he paid the price. Unfortunately, people still want to destroy him. We should be a society that reforms and not one that deforms. I said earlier that the decisions from NFL and The Ravens will overburden the Rice family. His wife's interjection ascertains that.
Secondly, the jurisprudence on criminal law is founded on due process. You cannot pass judgment on anyone without due process. If they did not see the video, then they also violated the woman’s rights. It is inconceivable that the same question that was asked in the first century is the same we are trying to answer in the 21st century. Nicodemus asked the Sanhedrin, “Doth our law judge any man, before it hear him, and know what he doeth (Jn 7:51)?” Now I ask you, “Does our law judge a man before hearing from him and know what he did?" The NFL should blame itself for the thoughtlessness. It should have done proper investigation before punishing him. More so, the law is not retroactive.  
 Sociologically, there are no diminished expectations when Ray Rice married his then fiancée. If she felt that she was in danger, she would not have married him. By sacking and suspending him indefinitely, they fail to uphold the uberrima fides of the marriage. This will cause them hardship and even extreme hardship because he will not be able to provide for his wife again. Thus the theory of extreme hardship is not a matter of expediency. Matter of Gutierrez-Lopez, 21 I&N Dec. 479 (BIA 1996).
After all “Any hardship to a qualifying spouse must always be considered. See Watkins v. INS, 63 F.3d 844 (9th Cir. 1995). The extreme hardship Ray Rice will undergo is not related to the income of the wife because she makes very little money to maintain the lifestyle that the Husband has accustomed her. His suspension defeats the purpose of marriage and puts asunder what God has joined together; thereby, depriving Ray Rice of the opportunity and freedom to enjoy his marriage. This will even be a violation of his 14th Amendment.
The doctrine of extreme hardship does not end with financial hardships. It encompasses anything that will inflict pain and suffering on the spouse or the respondent. “In short, as we have often stated, extreme hardship is not a definable term of fixed and inflexible meaning, and the elements to establish extreme hardship are dependent upon the facts and circumstances of each case.”
In the Matter of Hwang, 10 I&N Dec. 448, 45 1 (BIA 1964), it was asserted that  Extreme hardship is "not a definable term of fixed and inflexible content or meaning," but "necessarily depends upon the facts and circumstances peculiar to each case." The peculiarity is that Ray Rice needs this job to feed his wife because he knows only how to play football as his numbers speak for themselves.You may like to read from his wife endorsing the theory of extreme hardship
Morally: the decision is ungodly. Even when the people caught the woman in flagrant adultery, Jesus still let her go. Ray Rice has even paid his debt with his suspension. Those who think that they are without fault should seek to reform and not to deform, to restore and not to destroy. Many people advocating for Ray Rice’s pound of flesh may have done worse than him. It is not a time to destroy the young man; it is a time to build him up to a better person.
Behold the source of the devilry, the society! We start by having the right priorities. I don't understand why entertainers earn more than teachers, doctors, lawyers, engineers etc. As much as I hate the pedestal that the society has placed these entertainers, the onus is still not with them. Worst still, Ray Rice is playing for a team I don't even like, but that will be injustice to make him pay twice for the same offense. I have to separate my personal bias from equity. Ray is not special, so you should not think that his football abilities are at play here. Let us remove the name of Ray Rice and use Mr. Nobody. Mr. Nobody did a terrible thing beating his wife. We all agree. His employers decided that it merited a two day work suspension. We all say, "nay, that is too lenient," yet they did not revise it. He served his time and went back to work. Then a harridan shows up in the market with a video of the same incident where Mr. Nobody was beating his wife. The company cannot come back to change their initial decision. That is what I am saying.
Therefore, I urge the NFL and the Ravens to reinstate him because he will be suffering twice for a crime he has already paid the price. In addition, the wife is the loser here than him. They should write down a clear policy with domestic abuse.

Until then, I strongly condemn NFL's and Raven’s decisions.

St Arrey of Ntenako

[1] "Double+jeopardy." The Free Dictionary. Farlex, n.d. Web. 08 Sept. 2014.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Simone Battle’s Suicide: A Byproduct of Utilitarianism.

Simone Battle, the 25 year old X Factor star who was a member of the G.R.L Band killed herself by hanging in her closet on Friday morning in Los Angeles, in a surprised move that stunned her father and well-wishers. She was such a talented young woman with a lot of hope. Why would a promising young woman like Simone kill herself at a time when everyone thought that she had the world under her feet? Without a doubt, she is a byproduct of the emptiness of the American society that has placed emphasis on materialism rather than virtues. We are building a society whose education targets the mind but lacks a heart.
February 2014, Roee Grutman, a Newton South High School junior committed suicide.[1] Again it was a surprise to his family. There is such a huge distance amongst relatives that it is possible for things to happen in one’s life without the family being aware. The fabric of family cohesion has been shattered in their adolescent days.
In March 2013, Tyler Nichols (13 years old) of Davidson Middle School in Southgate committed suicide early morning in his own very school building.[2]
In May 2014, 17 year-old Omotayo Adeoye of The High School for Math, Science and Engineering in Convent, New York committed suicide by jumping into the Hudson River after she was humiliated for cheating in a German exam.[3] If teachers will seek to attain the hearts of the kids too rather than only the mind, they will understand why they behave a certain way. It does not mean they are diluting the standards because the same methods reduced truancy and enhanced test scores in my classrooms. 
On August 21, 2014, “Riley Matthew Moscatel, a 17-year-old transgender youth”[4] committed suicide by jumping into the railway tracks into an oncoming train, and he died. Healthy wrote that, “In fact, suicide is the third leading cause of death for 15- to 24-year-olds.[5] It is the second among middle and high school age groups (12-18).[6]
If you remember, in June of this year, two 12 year-olds from Wisconsin stabbed their friend 19 times to please the wicked and fictional charter called Slender Man.[7] Charles Dickens in Hard Times reminded the people of the Victorian Era that education must have two components: the mind and the heart. Just today, a 14 year old girl set her house on fire to obey the orders of Slender Man.[8] In the absence of reality, the losers will be contented with shadows. The young people nowadays long for role models to emulate, but they have none. The good teachers are being replaced by those with no moral fibers. Failing schools keep perfecting their failing programs as though a Deuse Ex Machina will one day bring them success. 
Suicide is not a side show; it is now an American epidemic. It is just so sad when you are just about to know a young woman only to hear that she committed suicide. The Buffalo News wrote, “Suicide is an American epidemic. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, suicides are rising – up to 38,000 last year. That’s more than deaths from motor vehicle accidents.”[9] One thing is very clear; a happy person does not commit suicide! The society has placed utilitarianism in a high place that the people find it difficult to satisfy their worship. We are forming a very empty society where things rather than people matter most. The society is so artificial that colleagues do not even make pleasantries with each other for fear of harassment. No deep connections at work or in school. How then will anyone know what the other person is going through? 
Proper teaching cannot exclude current events, no matter the class because that will be the only way kids get more prepared with the Zeigeist. We live in a nation with every means to educate people, but we fail to do so because we are bound by laws and policies that instead want to make human beings as robots. If you are not close to your coworker, relative, student etc, they will not share with you what they are going through. You see single women at work, in school and in church all filling applications on dating sites, not because they do not see men, but it is simply because the society has made everyone a robot and everyone is afraid of harassment.
Just of recent, Robin Williams committed suicide due to depression. It is clear that suicide rates have gone up due to depression and anxiety.[10] We have taken it to be normal to commit suicide, after all, it is the individual’s right to commit suicide. The only problem is that is has a contagion effect as it serves as a copycat to most young people. The CDC once wrote, “All parties should understand that a scientific basis exists for concern that news coverage of suicide may contribute to the causation of suicide.”[11] Despite the well-wishes of people, there is something that many forget; these people who committed suicide did not have anyone they could trust. They did not have anyone they thought could help them, so suicide becomes their only spider hole. Perhaps we should try making our communities like little villages where everyone cared for everyone and not a community suffering from the crab syndrome where everyone is trying to sue someone and destroy them. 
VOX says that, “suicides are impulsive and can be prevented at the last minute.[12] This can only happen when people become more important than material things or animals. Utilitarianism has brought an untold solitude that has left human beings like the “Solitary Reaper”, albeit in a group like Simone was. She was a member of a band, yet "no one saw it coming." No one saw it coming because they were not close; otherwise, they would have seen it.  
One time I visited a school and 3 minutes before the bell rang, I called a student and told her that I can feel her pain. “I see that you are struggling to smile, but you are hurting badly within.” I told her. She looked at me and began immediately to sub profusely. It was there that she told me all her problems which I relayed to her counselor. The counselor told me that she has never told any of them despite her going through the same issues since 8th grade. That is because she did not see that closeness to be able to pour her heart out. Education should exceed just attaining the mind. Proper education should touch the heart too! How did I know that she was suffering? I went beyond just educating her mind. In educating the whole person in what I call holistic teaching, we will create listening ears and compassionate hearts that give hope to the hopeless. The society must create those listening ears and compassionate hearts or continue the mourning song after the suicide contagion has long passed with the biers of those we so loved dearly.  

Until then, be your neighbor’s keeper!

St Arrey of Ntenako.

[1] "Newton Reels from Mourns Third Teen Suicide of School Year - The Boston Globe." N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[2] "Teen Commits Suicide at Middle School in Southgate." - Fox 2 News Headlines. N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[3] "Teen Student Jumps to Death after She's Caught Cheating." New York Post. N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[4] "Philly-Area Trans Teen Commits Suicide on Train Tracks." N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[5] "Teen Suicide Statistics." N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[6] "Facts & Stats - The Jason Foundation." The Jason Foundation. N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[7] "Bustle." Bustle. N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[8] ibid
[9] "Suicide Becomes an American Epidemic - The Buffalo News." N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[10] "Boomers Face a Greater Risk of Depression and Suicide." - MarketWatch. N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[11]“Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.
[12] "12 Facts about Depression and Suicide in America." Vox. N.p., n.d. Web. 07 Sept. 2014.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).


Katy Perry says that she is disgusted with traditional Christianity. 

When I heard this question, I just began to laugh because Christianity is now a laughingstock. There are rules that God has laid down for us to show the world that we love Him. We must love him and our neighbors as we love ourselves, we must keep our promises, we must not be two face, and we must obey his commandments. Respecting our parents brings us long life (Deut 5:16). Katy Perry once justified why she was leaving traditional Christianity by saying, “Accountability is rare to find, especially with people like myself, because nobody wants to tell you something you don’t want to hear. I actually don’t trust people who start to turn on me because they get scared of telling me the truth.”
It is strange to see that some Christians do not talk to their families, neighbors or even friends. They have people they don’t want to see.It is not forbidden for a christian to be angry, but it is forbidden for that individual to bear a grudge, rancor or spite (Eph 4:26).  One person once told me that his dog is worth more than certain human beings. Jesus laid down the foundation on how we should treat people in what will later be called the Golden Rule.  It states, “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” (Mt 7:12).  In other words, “Do unto others what you want them to do unto you.”
Would you like to have kids and they don’t talk to you? If you would not like that, why do you do it to your own parents? Why are people abandoning their parents in nursing homes, group homes and other facilities without visiting them? Why is your mother living alone in an apartment when you have a huge home living there with dogs and cats?  Why are there so many homeless people in the streets when we have big mansions with no one in them?
            Jesus demonstrated his theory with the way he cared for people, including even strangers. To buttress his ethos, he narrated the Parable of the Good Samaritan. This parable shows us that Jesus was against racism, encouraged generosity and a good name. It is sad to see people who go to church, but they are very racist, stingy and have a very bad name, yet they talk about believing in God. Our rightness or wrongness towards humans portrays our rightness or wrongness towards God because if we do not show love to the human being we see, we cannot show love to God we do not see (1 Jn 4:20).  You cannot claim that you love God; meanwhile, you do not talk with your own very parents. Now many people establish their large families on Facebook and other forums. You wonder why they are never happy.
 If you want to show that you love God, you must keep his commandments (Jn 14:15, 23), and his commandments are simple: love God and love your neighbor as yourself (Luke 10:27). If we live our Christianity as Christ taught us to do, we will impact lives without even too much ado. If you love God, you cannot make promises and not fulfill them. Many people think that they can hate their fellow human beings and make that up by treating animals well. Others try to redeem themselves by doing community service or feeding the hungry during holidays. Just the mere fact that Christians too take fake names to insult others on the internet will attest to the lack of love for God because it tells you their intention was sinister. They want to build an image that they do not have. Your failure to keep the commandments of God to show that you love him could not be replaced by doing good works. Otherwise, it will mean that you are saved by your whims and caprices.
A few days ago a young woman asked me what she should do with her fiancée who left her for another girl in the same church.  I know how people always ask me that, “is it better to have a bad marriage or to have a broken engagement?” Well, it is not; nevertheless, you must have a more serious reason than the fact that you have seen another beautiful woman or rich man. It must be on substantive difference and not on egoistic penchants. Moses told the children of Israel that, “God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? Or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good?” (Num 23:19)  Peter said, “The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.” (1 Pet 3:8). How then do people just break their promises to their neighbors (nearest person to you) without blinking if it pleases God or not?  
To Show God that you love him, you must keep his commandments. Every time you feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty, clothe the naked, visit the sick, visit the prisoner, you are actually doing the work of God. However, that is like sacrifice. You must obey the commandments; otherwise, your good works will be like filthy rags before God because obedience is better than sacrifice to God (I Sam 15:22).  God keeps his own promises, so he wants you to keep yours. He has no pleasure in fools (Eccl 5:4). 
Therefore, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” (Mt 5:16).
Until then, I think God will be mad at anyone who does not talk to their parents or keeps enemies.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).


This discussion ensued because Ray Rice beat his then fiancee (who is now his wife): Janay Palmer and then wedded her before any court action. He was subsequently suspended for two games by the NBA.  People began falling fits about a man laying his hands on a woman and how the suspension was inadequate.  That is where Stephen A. Smith in an attempt to ditch out some wise counsel became the victim of American hypocrisy. He advised that women should refrain from provoking situations that could cause them to be beaten. A lot of women did not like it, so he apologized. To placate the vocal majority, he was suspended from his job. Stephen Smith should not have apologized because by apologizing for a good stand, he emboldens the unrealistic majority. When a vocal majority who slept on the wrong side of their beds are going astray, the silent minority who slept on the right side of their beds should bring them back. He failed to stand for what is right so that he will look nice. All the elucidations he made were unwarranted.

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Sometimes it is difficult to understand what is wrong with people in this country. The United States government recently issued out a warning to Americans to beware when going to the Middle East. This month, the government again issued another warning about visiting Ebola regions. Another illustration is the man with the wild dog. As I was growing up, there were many homes with “Beware Wild Dog” hung on their fences. In each of these examples, there is a strong desire to avoid provocation. What Stephen Smith wanted was for people to consider the element of provocation. The society is hypocritical in that, that same element is accepted in the court of law, it is accepted in science, and it is accepted in religion acquiescently. All Stephen Smith is asking the country to do is be realistic. This situation is one of those conflicts between realism and idealism. The ideal is that domestic violence is unacceptable; no man should put his hand on a woman. The realistic part about it is that there are men and women who abuse their spouses. We have now moved from idealism into realism. The next thing we want to consider is cause and effect.
Is every abused spouse without a fault? Does a man just get up and start beating his wife? Does a woman just gets up and starts to insult her husband for just no reason? If there is a reason, then Stephen Smith is right that perhaps the society should look into those reasons (provocation) that caused the beating.  
Newton’s Third Law of Motion states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” If you declare a war, it does not mean that you will end it at your timing, neither does it even mean that you will decide the weapons of warfare. Your enemy could use anything they have. That means, there are some situations that those who are beaten provoked them. Let me give you a clear example. I visited a home one time and the man was trying to explain to me why he has not been complying with his own share of the responsibilities when the woman from nowhere said, “See how he is speaking like a fool.” The man retorted, “Get out of my face, mad woman.” The woman jumped and slapped the man. She added, “Who are you calling mad woman?” Before I knew it, the man was on her like a bee. Shouldn't the woman consider that element of provocation if she does not want to be beaten? She is not as strong as the man, so she should not have slapped the man first.
Recently, Jon Jones and Daniel Comier had a catfight while trying to promote their fight. Daniel Comier claims that Jon Jones provoked him by placing his chin on his head, so he (Comier) pushed him by the throat. That caused the melee. One thing is clear; the element of provocation.  That is our most recent experience. To solve the issue, Joe Rogan advocated for no contact policy during stare-downs. That is an attempt to eliminate the possibility of provocation. The ideal is that they are professionals who know that by fighting out of the cage they bring disrepute to their sport, but the reality is that they still did it. Would it then be wrong for anyone to consider the element of provocation during stare-downs?
Let us look at it in the realm of the law. There are instances where provocation has been used as a defense in a criminal case. Why would it be even remotely considered if it was not necessary? In   2004, James Ramage was acquitted of murder charges after killing his wife of 23 years. His defense argued that he was provoked, so the jury found him not guilty.[1] How can a jury acquit a man of murder for killing his wife, yet we say that provocation should have no place in a domestic violence situation?  In January of this year, “It took a Buffalo County jury seven hours to acquit Jonathan Schmidt of felony first-degree assault of a Kearney man.”[2] What was his defense? He was provoked! Now, take a look at what the last woman in this video said. 

Finally, I will go to the book that has all the answers. In proverbs 18:6 it reads, “A fool's lips enter into contention, and his mouth calleth for strokes.” (Prov 18:6). It simply means that, a fool’s mouth gets them into constant trouble that brings them a beating.  We are seeing that the bible acknowledges someone could provoke their own beating, both male and female. Could some domestic violence victims be the cause of their own beatings? If they can, then Stephen Smith is right and should not have been punished. At the same time though, the Bible cautions us not to be easily provoked (Ecc 7:9). However, could an individual be under sustained provocation that causes them to snap? Paul told the Ephesian fathers not to provoke their children to anger (Eph 6:4). Is it then possible that someone could be provoked to anger? Could a spouse provoke their wife or husband to anger? Could Ray Rice’s girlfriend had provoked him to anger?
Therefore, to be able to solve domestic violence or reduce it, we must take the element of provocation seriously. Let us not muzzle opinions like those of Stephen Smith, for they are the voices of reason in a hypocritical world that struggles between idealism and realism.
Until then, domestic violence is barbaric and should not exist, so we should avoid provoking it.
St Arrey of Ntenako

[1] "Case Study: Provocation." Law Government Politics. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Aug. 2014.

[2] "Updated: Jury Says Schmidt Not Guilty." Kearney Hub. N.p., n.d. Web. 13 Aug. 2014.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).

Can Everyone Make Their Own Jesus?

Reza Aslan while trying to sell his book and promote his movie claimed that everyone can make their own Jesus. In that clip, he called some preachers, “charlatans”. That doesn't make him more genuine than the others he calls charlatans. He bases his book on Josephus who was the epitome of Jewish history. By using Josephus who endorses the biblical narratives about Jesus, he shows the Bible to be authentic and infallible. If the things written therein are true, then everyone cannot make their own Jesus. It is normal to have a kaleidoscope of opinions in matters of doctrine in each religion as they deal with the mind; however, eisegesis has its limits because it eliminates grounds for absolutes. If absolutes are eliminated, then Jesus cannot be the only way to God; meanwhile, we all know that Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the father without passing through Him. People may differ on whether Jesus wants them to pray standing or sitting or sleeping or crying, but they must all agree that Jesus wants them to pray. No doubt, we do agree that there will be varying opinions because the human being should live by reason and not by instinct. In using reason, people think. We just don't agree that those tenets which are the core of Christian ethos should undergo relativism. 

Others have claimed that we cannot even talk about Christianity and Jesus because Paul invented the religion and Constantine made it a state religion. A quick question: how can Paul would have invented a religion that started before he came? Christianity already had its roots before Paul's conversion in chapter 9 of Acts. Paul could not be trusted easily by the disciples in Jerusalem, so he went back to Tarsus. From that time until the when the nickname "Christian" was coined in Acts 11:26, Paul was not yet back in Jerusalem. I want you to bear with me because I will take you step by step. In 313, Constantine and Licinius passed the Edict of Milan which granted all religious freedom. That was a year after making Sunday an official day of rest. During the first council of Nicea in 325, they were merely dealing with the Donatist and Arles controversies. However, it was rather Theodosius (emperor 378-395 A.D) who made Christianity the state religion. Therefore, they may want to revise their history. If Constantine was Roman emperor from 306-337 and Christianity was made a state religion in the Edict of Thessalonica in 380 AD, how can Constantine be the one who codified it? It seems people have been memorizing the wrong stuff, my friends! 
Moreover, the conclusion that the Bible and Jesus are fiction is baseless because anything, person or event that can be ascertained in time and place as having existed with historical, archaeological, customary and traditional proofs cannot be called fiction. You will do well to memorize the correct dates and events. I have read almost all of Shakespeare and most prominent literature books on this earth, but none of them transforms like the Bible. The Bible has been a light unto my path and a lamp unto my feet. In the midst of hopelessness, the Bible has always vivified my hopes. Read and put into practice the prescriptions of the Bible, and you will feel the same as I do!
Furthermore, Reza claimed that the preachers are preaching wealth despite Jesus being against it. Jesus was not against wealth; he was against wealth hoarders as we read here, “Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal.” (Mt 6:19-20). If wealth was inherently evil, Jesus would not have asked them to store them anywhere, whether in heaven or on earth because he was without sin. Jesus wanted those with two coats to give one to the person who has none. He wanted "the haves" to share with "the haves-not", the privileged to share with the less privileged. In short, he wanted people to love their neighbors as they loved themselves. Therefore, even Reza Aslan is selling his own Jesus he made for his books and movie promotion. 
Some people have claimed that Mt 6:19-20 was metaphorical. In that case, the allusion to “mansions in his father's house” (Jn 14:2) are metaphorical too. Why did Jesus not condemn the wealth of the prodigal son's father (Lk 15:11-32)? Jesus was never against wealth! It is not sustainable in the bible. The metaphor of the rich man and the needle simply means that wealth puts one in a more precarious position to follow God. The wealth hoarder must first unburden himself by storing in heaven rather than on earth. To store in heaven is not as giving to a pastor or a preacher. That is why the love of money and not money itself is the root of all evil. If money was the root of evil, God and Paul would have said; "you cannot go near evil, so you should run." 
No, no, no, that is not what it means. It means you should give to those who do not have. There are many churches that are too rich to be given anything! When a pastor starts to own Rolls-Royce, private jets and more than three cars, they do not more need the offerings of the people. When the pastor's family wear expensive clothes, drive expensive cars, live in expensive mansions, then they have outlived the level of church offerings. When a pastor changes new suits and shoes everyday, it means he has outgrown your offerings and tithes. You should give them to the church that needs them. He should sell what he has first and use the proceeds for the ministry.

Until then, everyone cannot make their own Jesus.

St Arrey of Ntenako.

“Bonyfish beware because the same net that caught the jawless fish, caught the cartilaginous fish” (Hamilton Ayuk). Beware earthly paradise seekers because there is a serpent in every paradise"(Hamilton Ayuk). "It is not how well you know a person; it is how well you treat them that they will live longer and happier with you." Idle people write, idler people read, and idlest people read and whine that idle people are taking their time (Hamilton Ayuk).